The Power of Your “Why” and How It Will Absolutely Change Your Life

Have you ever given any thought to your “Why?”

Last Wednesday I was fortunate enough to sit down with a doctor in Shelby, NC and talk. During that talk he brought up a point that I have heard iterated a million times, but the way he expressed his thoughts changed my view of having purpose.

He described having purpose as “knowing my Why.  If I know my Why then I never get off track-I never stray from my path.”  I know my Why: To add value to the world around me. I live my mission daily and have written about adding value to life often.  It guides my actions.  It guides my mind.  It shapes my decisions.  My question for you is…Do you know your Why?  And more importantly, are you living your Why?

This might seem like an easy question to some, but you might be surprised at the number of people who live each and every day without a life mission.  Is it important?  Does it have an impact on our lives?  I believe the answer to both questions is yes.  I scoured the internet for a statistical number to associate with my question and the answers varied wildly from .06%-19% of the world’s population who live with a mission-know their Why. Even if the high number is the default, that leaves 81% of the people in the world walking around each day without knowing their Why.

This type of thinking might be a western thought and may have little relevancy in other parts of the world.  For instance, the nomadic herder in a third-world country might not have a philosophical answer, yet understands his mission is to keep his flock alive in order to provide for his family.  I understand that my culture not only creates such a question but most certainly shapes my answer.  But with that understanding,  I still believe we all are on this planet for a reason, I believe it is important to know that reason and I believe knowing your Why has many important influences on your life.

ladder-picFirst, knowing your Why keeps you on track.  When you know your purpose in life you can use that purpose as your personal mission statement.  Any time you have a decision to make you bounce your choices off of your Why.  Are they in sync?  Are they in conflict? Does the choice you are about to make support your overall Why?  Without the Why it is easy to end up climbing a latter leaning against the wrong wall.

Our plans miscarry because they have no aim. When a man does not know what harbor he is making for, no wind is the right wind.   Lucius Annaeus Seneca

Secondly, knowing your Why brings fulfillment.  Nothing brings more fulfillment and joy than living your life in accordance with your life’s mission.  There are many people who try to fake being fulfilled, but it is like trying to fake a smile.  It is obvious to everyone but the person faking.

Thirdly, knowing your Why makes life more fun.  Life is simply more enjoyable when you know who you are, where you are going and what you want to achieve.

Fourth, knowing your Why influences others in a positive way.  There is something about knowing your Why that draws people like flies to honey.  I always think of it as the light on the hill shining at night.  When people see a light in the darkness they cannot help but want to know the source of the light.  The light speaks without using words and draws people to the source.  Once someone is exposed to another who has purpose they cannot help but be intrigued.

Fifth, knowing your Why lets you easily determine what is important versus what is not. Once you know your mission the frivolous things in life are easier to cast off.  Buddha stated that desire is the downfall of mankind and I believe this.  I know my mission and I also know what is truly important in life for me.  Therefore I don’t waste my energy on things and/or PEOPLE who do not edify my mission.  This might be tough for some to read, but I can tell you not every person deserves your time and energy.

Sixth, knowing your Why provides a constant source of motivation and inspiration. Imagine it like having an unlimited supply of energy for your fuel tank!  Sure there will be times when you are tired, but I can attest to the fact that knowing your  Why provides a constant, unyielding supply of inspiration and motivation.  And this source cannot be contrived.  It will drag you through the tough times like no other.

Lastly, knowing your Why brings with it achievement.  There is nothing for me that makes me smile more than achieving my personal goals.  Obviously, I have based my entire blog on goal-achievement and developing the proper set of habits to reach those goals. Knowing my Why is the one thing that drives me and allows me to achieve.  Before I accepted my purpose I was lost and my achievements were few and far between.  But not my life is like having a gun at a shooting range-I’m picking off targets right-and-left.

I don’t believe it is difficult to know your life’s purpose.  If you sit still and remain quiet long enough you will realize your purpose was there all along.  Some know their purpose but refuse to identify with it, while some are not ready to accept their mission.  Many keep themselves too busy and don’t stand still long enough to listen to a voice that has been trying to speak for many years.

The question remains-have you given any thought to your Why?  Are you willing to sit still long enough to understand your purpose?  And once you realize your Why are you willing to accept it and move forward to achieving your goals?

What Are You Allowing to Distract You From What is Important In Your Life?


Today I went online to do some research and before I knew it Facebook had sucked me into its vortex and I had wasted 30 minutes scanning and reading a bunch of junk.  It did bring up an important thought that I want to talk about.  What are you allowing to distract you from what is important in your life?

Too many times I watch friends as they are hyper-focused on some small problem or some minor decision while they allow huge issues and problems to continue on in their life. They allow themselves to be distracted with some ancillary factor and spend their life ignoring problems that, if addressed, could change their lives for the better.  Have you done this?  Are you doing this right now?

Why not put a stop to this insanity and address what really matters?  Why not bring these unaddressed issues to the forefront and remove this burden from your mind and soul? Isn’t it time to remove this stress from your life?

One Day You Will Regret Having Lived a Neglectful Life



I get aggravated with people who have their health, yet eat themselves into health problems.  

It took me a few years following my MS diagnosis to learn the importance of taking care of my body so I can understand-to some degree-the ignorance associated with health.  Also, I try to understand it can be a difficult topic to educate oneself.  

Each day of my life I struggle to do simple things.  I rarely complain.  I rarely even talk to anyone about it, including my wife.  I go about my day because I have no choice.  Life dealt me MS, but the power of my mind will overcome.  So when I see the majority of people living their lives in a state of complete neglect, needless to say, I get a bit upset.  It makes me want to grab them and slap them and slap them and slap…you get the point.  

Many years from now those who live a neglectful life will regret it so don’t be that person. Begin to reduce the fast food.  Cut way back on the sodas.  Begin to introduce more vegetables.  Eat more lean proteins.  Cut way down on the sugar (my nemesis!).  Life isn’t always about sacrifice, but life is about moderation.  I promise you that one day you will regret having lived a neglectful life.  


The Scorpion and the Turtle

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A turtle was happily swimming along a river when a scorpion hailed it from the shore.

The scorpion, being a very poor swimmer, asked the turtle to carry him on his back across the river. “Are you mad?” exclaimed the turtle. “You’ll sting me while I’m swimming and I’ll drown.”

“My dear turtle,” laughed the scorpion, “if I were to sting you, you would drown and I would go down with you, and drown as well. Now where is the logic in that?”

The turtle thought this over, and saw the logic of the scorpion’s statement. “You’re right!” cried the turtle. “Hop on!” The scorpion climbed aboard and halfway across the river the scorpion gave the turtle a mighty sting. As they both sank to the bottom, the turtle asked:

“You said there’d be no logic in your stinging me. Why did you do it?”

“It has nothing to do with logic,” the drowning scorpion sadly replied. “It’s just my nature.”

Question of the Day – 8/28/16



Question of the Day:

Do you believe the beauty found in the world is a sign of a higher power?

Meet and Greet Link


Don’t forget to use your Sunday to relax and enjoy doing absolutely whatever it is you enjoy!

The Meet and Greet continues today and will conclude this evening so be sure to jump in and have some fun!

And don’t forget, you can leave your link multiple times!!

Meet and Greet Link

Grow Your Blog By Connecting With Others On Social Media


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Connecting via social media is a great way to grow you blog.

Many don’t utilize social media and in my opinion that is a mistake.  Take a few minutes and research the effectiveness of social media!  Social media benefits your blog in several ways:

  1. Adds legitimacy to your page in the eyes of search engines (SEO best practices).
  2. Expands the reach of your voice.
  3. Helps to grow you statistics (i.e. followers, views, comments, etc.)
  4. Allows for a deeper connection with your readership.

Leave me your social media links in the comments and I and others will LIKE, FOLLOW, PIN and CONNECT!

Here are mine:



Twitter @BigDreamer0323

Facebook: Dream Big, Dream Often

Google +: Danny Ray

The Dream Big Channel



Are You Looking For a New Way to Grow?

Have you ever heard of or used Flipboard?  I am looking for new ways to expand the reach of Dream Big and Gary over at Skipah’s Realm suggested I look into this content curating site.  I think you should register an account and Follow me and I, in turn, will follow you back!

Click my link, Flipboard, and check out how the site works.  It is a great way to meet new people and get new followers.  I only have 11 followers but I have gotten 10 email subscribers in the last 2 weeks.

Help Me, Help You!


If you want to share this post, please reblog the original link.  I move this one around a bit and the link will be broken, FYI.

The easiest way to gain exposure for your page is to allow someone else to share your work.  Take advantage of this opportunity and leave me your link to share!

Help Me, Help You. Click this Link!

All Things All At Once


Recently, all things all at once rushed into my head; it might have been the coffee.  I haven’t had coffee in some time, then I drank a few cups and sat down to write.  I realized recently that my true passion is writing.  Second, my second passion is…

Source: All Things All At Once

Why I became a Business Owner – Single Girls Rock


I remember my first job at Ledo’s Pizza as a carryout girl. Well, not A carryout girl- but THE carryout girl. Basically my job was to take orders, so that’s what I did. From customers, from management- there was even … Read More

Source: Why I became a Business Owner – Single Girls Rock

Meet and Greet: 8/27/16


It’s the Meet and Greet weekend!!

Ok so here are the rules:

  1. Leave a link to your page or post in the comments of this post.
  2. Reblog this post.  It helps you, it helps me, it helps everyone!
  3. Edit your reblog post and add tags.
  4. Feel free to leave your link multiple times!  It is okay to update your link for more exposure every day if you want.  It is up to you!

  5. Share this post on social media.  Many of my non-blogger friends love that I put the Meet n Greet on Facebook and Twitter because they find new blogs to follow.

Now that all the rules have been clearly explained get out there and Meet and Greet your tails off!

See ya on Monday!!

Nature’s Arena

In the Arena is a constant source of thought-provoking posts!!

In the Arena

“As iron sharpens iron, so one person sharpens another.”

mountain climbing Fairmont Chateau- Alberta Canada

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Question of the Day – 8/27/16



Question of the Day:

Do you consider obeying ALL laws an important part of personal development?