My Daily Observation: 1/11/18



In my opinion “self-help” fails in one major way: it focuses on improving your shortcomings instead of directing you to simply be the person you want to be.  I hope that makes sense, but just in case it doesn’t I’ll clarify.

Almost every self-improvement blogger I know espouses a basic premise that you can eventually be and achieve all the things that will make you fulfilled, but for now you need to improve yourself.  In order to get what you want you must change something.  I’ve even said it in the past.

Stop wasting time, stop procrastinating, stop eating junk food and on and on and on.  The list never ends.  We are all familiar with the language.

But doesn’t this approach put more emphasis on the negative instead of the positive?  It seems like self-improvement focuses so much on what I lack; on my deficiencies.   And aren’t we always going to have deficiencies?  So it hit me that one could get caught in this ridiculous loop of constantly focusing on faults and this doesn’t feel right to me any longer.

What if you simply determined what it is that you know you do really well and focused on those aspects of your life?  If you are a people person then find things to do that will allow you to highlight that ability.  If you love being creative then be creative.  If you love numbers then be content with playing the numbers game in some fashion.

What if your focus became to simply become the person you desire to be?  Full of deficiencies, faults, mistakes, shortcomings, etc.  The path of “I must fix this problem now, then I’ll fix this problem and after that I’ll be happy” will lead to frustration and misery.  The journey promises to be full of adventure and insightful experiences, but creates an unreachable, ever-moving destination; a destination that never existed in the first place.

It seems to me that focusing on the positive is much more effective and enjoyable than constantly focusing on the negatives.


Let Me Ask You a Question – 1/10/18



To some degree we all judge other people.  So, let me ask you a question:

What is something for which you are quick to judge others?    

My Daily Observation: 1/9/18



I am amazed at the number of people who listen intently to the views and opinions of celebrities.  Just for the record, I do not.  I don’t watch any of the celebrity award shows.  I don’t read any celebrity tweets.  I simply don’t care what they have to say.  But apparently someone does or else Yahoo and other media sources wouldn’t be loaded with info about The Golden Globes.

To some degree society has always been influenced by celebrities.  After all most advertising campaigns over the last 70 years have centered around a celebrity spokesperson; and they work which means they have influence.

I have always said every person needs to be careful in who they allow in their inner-circle of influence.  The right person with influence can steer the ship toward the stars (no pun intended), but the wrong influencer can take it down for a deep dive.  I think it is important for all of us to recognize and be in control of who we allow to have influence in our lives.

With all that is going on in Hollyweird, I’m not so sure any of them are suitable and trustworthy role models.

My Daily Observation: 1/4/18



I am rereading The Power of Habit by Charles Duhigg for the sixth or seventh time; honestly I’ve lost count at this point.  If you have not read it I highly recommend as I believe it is the most important book ever written that puts habits in layman’s terms.  Most books on habit come across more psychological and medical that I simply cannot keep up.  Duhigg is not a psychologist, nor a doctor, but quite the contrary; he was a writer for the New York Times.  At any rate I recommend you read, but that’s not the point of this post.

My point is that I notice every year when the calendar switches from old year to new year, it takes me almost 2 weeks so stop writing the old year when signing dates and to go into auto mode in writing the new year.  It’s not as if I don’t know it’s 2018 versus 2017.   If anyone on the street stopped me and asked the year I would easily and quickly respond, “Oh, it’s 2018, why do you ask?”

My observation is how powerful habits are in our life.  Although I have the knowledge of the year being 2018, the power of my writing and typing habits is more powerful than said knowledge of knowing the year.  This happens to people when we move from an address we’ve lived at for many years.  It happens when we change zip codes.  I once answered the phone incorrectly at a job and identified myself as an employee of my former employer while standing in the building of my new employer.  Have you ever driven home, but for the life of you you cannot recall how in the world you got home?

The Power of Habit.

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7 Reasons Most Blogs Fail

Elena Peters

If you are a new blogger or have been blogging for awhile, and you feel like you have been working your butt off on your blog with very little traffic/comments/likes to show for it, you may be asking yourself, “What the hell am I doing wrong?”

I bet you have been writing posts religiously, promoting them on all social media platforms and participating in reciprocation threads, going above and beyond to satisfy all the requirements. You probably see a little bump in traffic on posting/promotion days but when you take a break, you hear crickets.

But the biggest kick in the gut comes when you look at other blogs and think, “Why does that blogger, who started at the same time as I did, have 10 times the traffic and followers than I do!” WTF!!!

If it seems like no matter how much time and effort you spend on your…

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Appreciation post

It's Me Saraa


How are you all?

I decided to start posting Appreciation Posts dedicated to people/animals/stuff i admire and appreciate.

Today… my 1st Appreciation goes to Kash. Kash is my horse. I’ve had him for 4 years now. He’s my therapist, my friend, my buddy… he’s more than an animal/pet.

I Love you Kasho!

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Happy 67th Birthday Charo


This gallery contains 6 photos.

Originally posted on Waldina:
Today is the 67th birthday of the bigger-than-life entertainer with the bigger-than-life given name that has shortened it to simply “Charo.” She is one of my very favorite Love Boat guest stars. The woman just delivers every…

Frozen Waterfalls and Other Snowy Beauties


Here in the NC mountains we have been experiencing colder than usual temperatures for extended period of times. As much as I detest my face hurting when I walk outside, the frozen beauty the single digits bring is almost worth it. My hubby and I started the year off with a couple of chilly hikes. It was so cold my phone stopped working mid-hike and had to be warmed up before I could take more pictures. So these aren’t my best work but I risked hand frost-bite to get them! I’ve coupled the pictures with some motivational quotes to get the year started right!

“The most successful people are those who are good at plan B.”~James Yorke

frozentombranchfalls photocred:cperciaccanto             Tom Branch Falls

“If you want your dreams to come true, the first thing you have to do is wake up.”      ~J.M. Power

snow trees photocred:cperciaccanto…

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Welcome Dream Big Partner: Writing Outside!!

I am pleased to welcome the latest blogger to become a Dream Big Partner: Write Outside


Here is an excerpt from the Write Outside about page:

“I am a Southern Yankee. Raised in Jersey, grew up in North Carolina (yes there is a difference). I am part Irish and part Italian. What parts you may ask? I inherited my freckles and fish belly white skin tone from the Irish and my petite midget-esque stature from the Italian. So I’m kinda like a leprechaun minus the gold. My brother got the tall dark and handsome genes, and yes I hold a grudge. I married my high school sweetheart, and we’ve been enamored with each other since 6th grade (insert gag reflex here). Where you find him, you find my foundation, my best friend and my happy place. At 6’2 and 5’0, we resemble green giant and sprout.

My parents both died young and I think those experiences fueled my adrenaline junkie spirit. I love jumping out of perfectly good airplanes and scuba diving into the deep. However, that toughness fades when I have to kill a spider.

I am obsessed with coffee ( cappuccino please!), traveling (I left my heart in Italy), all forms of chocolate (except white chocolate- what’s the point?), and great music (my playlists range from Dean Martin to Imagine Dragons). I can’t stand tail-gaters, those whose don’t use blinkers, mopeds or people who are “past their prime” driving ten miles below the speed limit. Hello, my name is Cara and I have road rage.

I work in the land of physical therapy, which I find both rewarding and challenging. However now I am attempting to follow one of my childhood dreams. I started with three: 1st to be the first woman president 2nd to be Paula Abdul and 3rd to be a writer of great things. Since I hate politics and confrontation, a presidential campaign is out. Though my dance moves are epic, dogs cower into the fetal position when I sing, so following in Paula’s footsteps isn’t an option. Which leaves becoming a writer of great things.

I have entered the blogosphere as a means to start this journey. So far it has been fraught with fear, inconsistency and self-depreciation. I am attempting to use my blog as a way to practice my writing skills, gain feedback and network with others who may have similar dreams.

Life continues to demonstrate its brevity to me, so I strive to fulfill my hopes and dreams now. I wish I knew what God has planned for my future, but since I don’t I pray for His guidance daily.
My current hope is to become a mother at least half as good as my own, finish my memoir and through my writing move people to think, laugh and live in the moment.

2018 Update:

Keeping to our manta of “Life is short-live it now”, my husband and I have moved to the mountains of North Carolina so he could follow his passion. We have opened up two successful fly-fishing outfitters and guide services. So you can say my husband is living the dream! I continue to work in physical therapy land in an inpatient setting, but this time I have a 180 degree view of the mountains. I have completed my first memoir and started work on my first work of fiction. I hope to find an agent for my memoir this Spring- fingers crossed! An new addition to the blog was my  amateur photography with encouragement for others to get outside. I find nature can be a great muse for writing.

Leave me a comment and introduce yourself!”

You can find the rest of Write Outside story on her page.  Her logo is in my sidebar and on the Partners’ Page at the top of my website!  When you visit be sure to tell her Danny sent ya!

The First Step

2 R Better Than 1

Today is the day that we honor Dr. Martin Luther King, Jr.’s legacy. Please join me in honoring him by sharing his words of wisdom in the comments. He shared his life with us and left an indelible mark on our hearts and in our minds. I’m reminded today to continue taking steps toward my destiny — even if they’re baby steps.

Faith is taking the first step even when you don’t see the whole staircase.  ~Martin Luther King, Jr.

What is it that you’re afraid to pursue or you’re waiting for the right time to start? We find so many excuses to delay our efforts. How about brainstorming reasons why you should start that project today. Give yourself 60 seconds to think of all the reasons why you should do what’s been on your heart and in your mind for as long as you can remember.  Then, think about this:…

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Review of 180 Seconds by Jessica Park

The Cozy Pages

So someone may have discovered a new favourite author.  I have to read another book by Jessica Park ASAP.  180 Seconds was wonderful. It was romantic, poignant, heart wrenching, funny and topical.   How can one book be all of that in just about 300 pages?!

Some people live their entire lives without changing their perspective. For Allison Dennis, all it takes is 180 seconds…

After a life spent bouncing from one foster home to the next, Allison is determined to keep others at arm’s length. Adopted at sixteen, she knows better than to believe in the permanence of anything. But as she begins her third year in college, she finds it increasingly difficult to disappear into the white noise pouring from her earbuds.

One unsuspecting afternoon, Allison is roped into a social experiment just off campus. Suddenly, she finds herself in front of a crowd, forced to interact with a…

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Cyranny's cove

Just a note to say that I due to an unexpected tsunami of messages since yesterday night, I decided to do the right thing and spend the evening answering everybody’s note… (or so I hope. Wish me luck 😛 )

I should have done so this morning, when I woke up and had a couple of hours ahead of me before work. I really should have. But I fell on a South Korean Zombie horror movie, and thought “Hey, that’s unusual!! Why don’t I watch a couple of minutes of it…” which ended with me watching the whole thing. Of course.(Btw, for zombie, horror movies and/or South Korean fans out there, the movie is called “Busanhaeng” – Train to Busan, and although not a chef d’oeuvre, it left me with the impression that South Koreans would be some of the best zombies ever, if zombies ever came to exist!…

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