The Power of Your “Why” and How It Will Absolutely Change Your Life

Have you ever given any thought to your “Why?”

Last Wednesday I was fortunate enough to sit down with a doctor in Shelby, NC and talk. During that talk he brought up a point that I have heard iterated a million times, but the way he expressed his thoughts changed my view of having purpose.

He described having purpose as “knowing my Why.  If I know my Why then I never get off track-I never stray from my path.”  I know my Why: To add value to the world around me. I live my mission daily and have written about adding value to life often.  It guides my actions.  It guides my mind.  It shapes my decisions.  My question for you is…Do you know your Why?  And more importantly, are you living your Why?

This might seem like an easy question to some, but you might be surprised at the number of people who live each and every day without a life mission.  Is it important?  Does it have an impact on our lives?  I believe the answer to both questions is yes.  I scoured the internet for a statistical number to associate with my question and the answers varied wildly from .06%-19% of the world’s population who live with a mission-know their Why. Even if the high number is the default, that leaves 81% of the people in the world walking around each day without knowing their Why.

This type of thinking might be a western thought and may have little relevancy in other parts of the world.  For instance, the nomadic herder in a third-world country might not have a philosophical answer, yet understands his mission is to keep his flock alive in order to provide for his family.  I understand that my culture not only creates such a question but most certainly shapes my answer.  But with that understanding,  I still believe we all are on this planet for a reason, I believe it is important to know that reason and I believe knowing your Why has many important influences on your life.

ladder-picFirst, knowing your Why keeps you on track.  When you know your purpose in life you can use that purpose as your personal mission statement.  Any time you have a decision to make you bounce your choices off of your Why.  Are they in sync?  Are they in conflict? Does the choice you are about to make support your overall Why?  Without the Why it is easy to end up climbing a latter leaning against the wrong wall.

Our plans miscarry because they have no aim. When a man does not know what harbor he is making for, no wind is the right wind.   Lucius Annaeus Seneca

Secondly, knowing your Why brings fulfillment.  Nothing brings more fulfillment and joy than living your life in accordance with your life’s mission.  There are many people who try to fake being fulfilled, but it is like trying to fake a smile.  It is obvious to everyone but the person faking.

Thirdly, knowing your Why makes life more fun.  Life is simply more enjoyable when you know who you are, where you are going and what you want to achieve.

Fourth, knowing your Why influences others in a positive way.  There is something about knowing your Why that draws people like flies to honey.  I always think of it as the light on the hill shining at night.  When people see a light in the darkness they cannot help but want to know the source of the light.  The light speaks without using words and draws people to the source.  Once someone is exposed to another who has purpose they cannot help but be intrigued.

Fifth, knowing your Why lets you easily determine what is important versus what is not. Once you know your mission the frivolous things in life are easier to cast off.  Buddha stated that desire is the downfall of mankind and I believe this.  I know my mission and I also know what is truly important in life for me.  Therefore I don’t waste my energy on things and/or PEOPLE who do not edify my mission.  This might be tough for some to read, but I can tell you not every person deserves your time and energy.

Sixth, knowing your Why provides a constant source of motivation and inspiration. Imagine it like having an unlimited supply of energy for your fuel tank!  Sure there will be times when you are tired, but I can attest to the fact that knowing your  Why provides a constant, unyielding supply of inspiration and motivation.  And this source cannot be contrived.  It will drag you through the tough times like no other.

Lastly, knowing your Why brings with it achievement.  There is nothing for me that makes me smile more than achieving my personal goals.  Obviously, I have based my entire blog on goal-achievement and developing the proper set of habits to reach those goals. Knowing my Why is the one thing that drives me and allows me to achieve.  Before I accepted my purpose I was lost and my achievements were few and far between.  But not my life is like having a gun at a shooting range-I’m picking off targets right-and-left.

I don’t believe it is difficult to know your life’s purpose.  If you sit still and remain quiet long enough you will realize your purpose was there all along.  Some know their purpose but refuse to identify with it, while some are not ready to accept their mission.  Many keep themselves too busy and don’t stand still long enough to listen to a voice that has been trying to speak for many years.

The question remains-have you given any thought to your Why?  Are you willing to sit still long enough to understand your purpose?  And once you realize your Why are you willing to accept it and move forward to achieving your goals?

What Are You Allowing to Distract You From What is Important In Your Life?


Today I went online to do some research and before I knew it Facebook had sucked me into its vortex and I had wasted 30 minutes scanning and reading a bunch of junk.  It did bring up an important thought that I want to talk about.  What are you allowing to distract you from what is important in your life?

Too many times I watch friends as they are hyper-focused on some small problem or some minor decision while they allow huge issues and problems to continue on in their life. They allow themselves to be distracted with some ancillary factor and spend their life ignoring problems that, if addressed, could change their lives for the better.  Have you done this?  Are you doing this right now?

Why not put a stop to this insanity and address what really matters?  Why not bring these unaddressed issues to the forefront and remove this burden from your mind and soul? Isn’t it time to remove this stress from your life?

One Day You Will Regret Having Lived a Neglectful Life



I get aggravated with people who have their health, yet eat themselves into health problems.  

It took me a few years following my MS diagnosis to learn the importance of taking care of my body so I can understand-to some degree-the ignorance associated with health.  Also, I try to understand it can be a difficult topic to educate oneself.  

Each day of my life I struggle to do simple things.  I rarely complain.  I rarely even talk to anyone about it, including my wife.  I go about my day because I have no choice.  Life dealt me MS, but the power of my mind will overcome.  So when I see the majority of people living their lives in a state of complete neglect, needless to say, I get a bit upset.  It makes me want to grab them and slap them and slap them and slap…you get the point.  

Many years from now those who live a neglectful life will regret it so don’t be that person. Begin to reduce the fast food.  Cut way back on the sodas.  Begin to introduce more vegetables.  Eat more lean proteins.  Cut way down on the sugar (my nemesis!).  Life isn’t always about sacrifice, but life is about moderation.  I promise you that one day you will regret having lived a neglectful life.  


The Scorpion and the Turtle

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A turtle was happily swimming along a river when a scorpion hailed it from the shore.

The scorpion, being a very poor swimmer, asked the turtle to carry him on his back across the river. “Are you mad?” exclaimed the turtle. “You’ll sting me while I’m swimming and I’ll drown.”

“My dear turtle,” laughed the scorpion, “if I were to sting you, you would drown and I would go down with you, and drown as well. Now where is the logic in that?”

The turtle thought this over, and saw the logic of the scorpion’s statement. “You’re right!” cried the turtle. “Hop on!” The scorpion climbed aboard and halfway across the river the scorpion gave the turtle a mighty sting. As they both sank to the bottom, the turtle asked:

“You said there’d be no logic in your stinging me. Why did you do it?”

“It has nothing to do with logic,” the drowning scorpion sadly replied. “It’s just my nature.”

Happy Things

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Peace from Panic

The first time I heard this quote, my girls were very young. My mom printed it out and framed it for me. It’s been on my desk ever since. It reminds me to take notice of the joys in life, both big and small. To embrace them.

My nephew and his wife had their third baby last week. I visited them in the hospital with my husband and our 21-year-old daughter, Talee. My great niece was two-days-old. She’s healthy, beautiful, perfect. Her cry is sweet. Her tiny hands and feet are precious.Her whole life is ahead of her, waiting for her to discover it.

When I held her, it reminded me of holding my two lovely babies. My husband held her, and I had flashbacks of him with our newborns. Talee held her, and I could easily see her becoming a mom.

Moments that take my breath away. Pure happiness.

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Question of the Day – 8/24/16



Question of the Day:

What was the last movie you watched multiple times?

What is Your Story?

Another great post from Insane Roots!!

Insane Roots

You know those people who always seem to struggle in life? They say things like, “nothing ever works out for me”, “I am so unlucky”, “The world is out to get me”, “I’ll never get ahead!”…

I used to be that person. When I was in college, nothing ever seemed to go my way. I was always forgetting to complete assignments, leaving them at home or losing them all together. I struggled with test taking and soon began to doubt my ability to pass all together.

I was always running late, missing the bus and when I did drive, I was usually stuck in traffic or getting lost. One time, my car over heated on I5 heading into the city and I was forced to pull over. If you have never been on I5 heading into downtown Seattle, it is one, if not the busiest interstates linking the surrounding area…

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How to Network Your Blog: 8/24/16


Here’s how to network your blog. The work is done for you, all you have to do is LIKE, COMMENT and FOLLOW others.  The more you network with other blogs, the more other blogs will network with you!

(click How to Network Your Blog to view yesterday’s post)

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No further inspiration required!

If you are not following Getting Fit For Forty, then do so now!!

Getting fit for Forty

I feel it would be wrong of me having been blogging about fitness over the past 12 months to not mention the amazing achievement i have witnessed over the past 14 days.

Team GB – my little island of 20 miles off the coast of mainland Europe has literally taken the athletics and associated Olympic sports by the scruff of the next and said, come on then, lets see what you’ve got! I know I am quite clearly biased being from the mighty isle however, i think its a fair assumption that most of those who followed the Olympics must be feeling a similar sense of of how wonderful this achievement is. Finishing 2nd sandwiched between two of the  largest counties in the world means little old blighty (UK) is a force to be reckoned with in the sporting world.


If you have been watching the Olympics and don’t feel…

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My inspiration, My role model, My Dad❤

If you are not following Alison’s blog then you are missing out! I am sure she would love to hear from you as she raises awareness about bullying and strives to change the world!!

My Insane Wxnderland Blog

Hello to the beautiful people reading my blog. This weeks blog post is going to be a little different as you can probably tell from the title above. I know quite a few people aren’t going to read this post because it’s not my usual stuff but like I have said before I don’t really care. “It’s my blog and I can write what I like”.

Before I start typing I just wanted to say thank you for the support that I have been given from my last two blog posts, they were difficult to write, I wasn’t even sure that I was going to post them, so thank you so much! A massive weight has been lifted off my shoulders and honestly it means a lot.

When most people get asked who inspires them, they usually say the names of celebrities, or when they get asked who their role model…

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How to Network Your Blog: 8/23/16


Here’s how to network your blog. The work is done for you, all you have to do is LIKE, COMMENT and FOLLOW others.  The more you network with other blogs, the more other blogs will network with you!

(click How to Network Your Blog to view yesterday’s post)

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