Daily Observations – 9/18/17

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DannyYesterday I spent the afternoon catching up with an old friend.  Joe and I met in 2003 when he was a restaurant manager for a national chain and I was living in Lake Norman.  I patronized his establishment because they had the MLB package on the television and I liked to go out to watch Red Sox playoff baseball.  Of course over time we became friends.

So yesterday we sat for nearly 7 hours watching football and finding out what each other had been doing for the last 10 years and how quickly time had passed.  I observed how easily we fell back into our friendship.  Our lives have changed and I’m sure the new version of our friendship will conform to our new lives, but the foundation of the friendship is still there.  It is amazing how you can reconnect with someone and it is as if not one day had passed.  It was nice to see Joe yesterday.

Friendships for me are rare; true friendships that is.

The Truth Is I Haven’t Always Been So Positive

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DannyAbout once per week I’ll get an email asking me how I maintain such a positive attitude. And I get enough of these emails to make me believe people view me as being a positive person, although, I don’t view myself as a positive person.  The truth is I haven’t always been so positive.

In 2007 I began working for Dick’s Sporting Goods as a PGA Professional.  My job was to manage the golf shop staff, keep the shop stocked with the appropriate types of merchandise, inventory and maintain customer service levels.  For anyone who has worked retail, this short story should register with you.

I worked that job and dealt with customers throughout the store; there were good days and there were really bad days.  And as the years moved forward the really bad days began to outnumber the good days 10 to 1.  Customers in retail are vicious.  They complain constantly.  They drop trash on the floors.  They spill things and use merchandise to cover up the spill.  They leave used condoms in the fitting rooms.  They make messes in the bathrooms that you could never imagine (especially the women’s room!).  They scream, yell and blame the staff for ruining their child’s Christmas.

The list goes on and on.

Dealing with the public turned me into a person who didn’t want to be around people outside of work.  So I began to resent other humans.  I began to hate being around other people.  I saw the worst in humanity and expected people to be awful.  I became a negative person.

Then came 2013 and my retail career ended.  Unfortunately, my negative attitude did not.  It would take me another year or more to eventually purge myself of those negative tendencies and find “Danny’ again.  It was such hard work.  Every day I had to focus on finding the good in people and expecting good things to happen.  I had to go through a complete revolution of my mind to exorcise the negative demons.

It was a long fight, but it was worth it.  I no longer maintain that nasty, negative attitude and I am happy now that people email me asking how I stay so positive.  It’s a great reminder to me that people can change if they want to change.

Most Don’t Have a Money Problem, They Have a Mind Problem

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DannyI recall a conversation I had with a friend of mine a few years ago.  He was upset because he was struggling financially.  He had a decent job, but life's circumstances had turned against him it seemed.  He had gone through a divorce that drained his savings.  He had had a series of car problems that drained every extra cent he had from his last paycheck. He didn't have enough money remaining to eat and still had 10 days until his next paycheck.  Needless to say this friend was down on his luck and was asking to borrow money; which I gave him. The interesting thing is that I had known this guy for a few years and I knew his problem wasn't the divorce or car problems.  His problem was that he lived with a broken mind.

This guy's thinking was flawed so here's what I suggested to him–"you need money and you have money sitting right in your house.  Let's go through your house and collect up all the things you don't touch and have a yard sale.  I'll bet you have close to $500 sitting around."  This was on a Tuesday and on Wednesday he ran a free ad on Craigslist advertising his Saturday yard sale.  The end result?  He made $400.

I started a vintage furniture company with almost zero cash.  I went to an estate sale and bought $30 worth of old furniture which I flipped for $175 in one day.  I then took and reinvested that $175 and turned it into $400 and I was off and running.

Here's my point: you don't need money!  You need a revolution of your mind.  Do you remember my question about giving your all?  This is what I was talking about.  What are you willing to do to change your current circumstances?   My friend had never considered having a yard sale, yet he made $400 in 4 days from things he had lying around his house.  I created $400 in profit in 2 weeks from a simple $100 investment.

If you have a mind dead set on changing, then you will find a way to change.  If you have a mind set on lamenting your circumstances, then you will continue to complain and nothing will change.  I can already see the comments, "I see what you are trying to say, but everyone's circumstances are different.  Some people don't have anything."  And this is true, there are going to be uber-extreme situations where someone in this world doesn't have anything.  But I'm not talking about them, I'm speaking directly to YOU!

Here is a simple formula to make more money right now…

  1. Call your pay television company and cancel your service.  (save $100+)
  2. Collect everything in your house that you don't use and have a yard sale on your day off. (revenue $250)
  3. Go to garage/yard sales and find things of value and flip on Ebay.  (profit $25 per week)
  4. Go to nightly estate/merchandise auctions and buy items of value and flip on Ebay (profit $60 per week)

Monthly Result?

$100 – cable

$250 yard sale

$340 Ebay

=$690 extra money

And I know this works because I did it.  I spent 2 nights per week at auctions buying things that had value and then selling them on Ebay or Craigslist.  I took everything in our home that we never touched and held yard sales.  I attended weekend estate sales and found items I could flip for cash.  Basically I hustled my tail off to make $20 bucks here and there and turned that into a few thousand dollars per month.  It was a lot of work.  It resulted in me working nights and weekends.  It took time.  But I did it and I created an income flow.  The difference was that I had a mind set on finding any way to generate extra money so I did everything I could to scrape together extra dollars to get ahead.

Imagine if you exhausted every avenue to make a few extra dollars and combined that with eliminating wasted expenses!!  Everyone wastes a couple hundred dollars per month on cable, cigarettes, eating out, gym memberships, car payments, Starbucks, driving too much, etc.

The question is-which mind do you have?  One set on getting ahead and finding a way or one set on accepting getting dirt kicked in your face by life and sitting around complaining?  The simple truth is you have extra time and if you have extra time you can use that extra time to make extra money.

(*******even those who have nothing can find a way.  Read this story about a man who traded a paperclip for a house!!)

Do A Lot Of People Really Do All They Can Do?

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DannyThe other day Tremaine at A Cornered Gurl (give her a visit!!) and I had a discussion in the comments of one of my posts about life not owing you anything. You can read the thread here  The basic premise of Tre’s comment was that there are tons of people who do everything in their power to get ahead and fail to do so because of people in higher positions not giving them the opportunity to advance.  My return question to Tre was to ask if there really are “a ton” of people who do all they can do.

My opinion on this is based on my experience and other’s opinions will vary, but I don’t see a lot of people in this world doing everything in their power to advance.  Are there people who give their all?  Yes.  Are there a ton of people who do so?  No.

To give one’s all is to use every moment of every day to figure out a way to achieve one’s goal.  To do everything in one’s power does not mean to work hard.  To give one’s all supersedes hard work; it is an unquenchable, burning flame of desire to possess what it is one wants.  To give one’s all is an obsessive, definiteness of purpose.    It is more than showing up every day.  To give one’s all means someone is so determined to get to their goal that they will do anything and everything necessary to do so.  I don’t know many people who possess this type of drive; present company included.

So I stand by my assertion that very few people actually give their all.  Very few people do everything in their power.  And when I say very few I am guessing that number is in the low single-digit percentile.

Here Are 10 Things I Stopped Doing That Made Me Happier

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Danny's iphone 022A few years back I made some drastic changes.  In 2013 I decided enough-was-enough and I went through a revolution of my mind and habits.  Here are a few of the things that I stopped doing which made me a happier person:

  1. I stopped blaming others for my underachieving.
  2. I stopped complaining
  3. I stopped comparing myself to others
  4. I stopped trying to be right all the time
  5. I stopped talking to myself like I was a villain
  6. I stopped allowing myself to make excuses
  7. I stopped watching television
  8. I stopped allowing my mind to be limited
  9. I stopped wishing for change
  10. I stopped waiting on life to happen for me

Today’s Featured Blog…A Kinder Way!!

A Kinder Way

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I believe that you need therapy. It’s nothing personal because I believe that everyone needs therapy in their life. I’ve never met a person that couldn’t benefit from a little one on one time with someone trained to help you work through your stuff. Because we ALL have stuff.

I’ve been in therapy several times in my life.  The only reason I’ve ever stopped therapy was because of the ridiculous price tag that it comes with.

Several months ago I was watching one of my favorite YouTubers and she mentioned that she had started a new form of therapy that was affordable and that you could do from anywhere.

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This type of therapy doesn’t include travel or couches (Unless it’s yours)…or even getting dressed for that matter.  It’s online therapy!

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Keep Yourself Full

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Hey, guys! How have you been? I missed you so much and many thanks to those of you who have reached out to me during my time away to make sure I was OK. I appreciate you.

I’ve been wonderful and though I’ve only been gone a few weeks, that time is so much longer in blog days :-).

And I am scheduled for more traveling this weekend.

While I managed to stay away from Facebook, Twitter, this blog and my email until this past Saturday, I broke my Insta-silence when, while walking down the streets of Chicago with my sister, someone recognized me. At first, I was going to just walk away but I noticed the woman was trying to pronounce my name. I finished it for her.

“e-see-lee-yah.”
“I have your book!” said the woman.
“Really? Wow.”
“I follow you on Facebook.”
“Really?”

And so we chatted it…

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Daily Observations – 9/19/17

DannyOur neighborhood has a rule that all dog owners must pick up after their dog goes to the bathroom.  They provide a dog station with a trash can for waste and bags for picking up poop.  I like the rule because without it you wouldn’t want to walk in the grass and most (most) of the residents adhere to the rule.  But there is one resident who walks her dog behind my garage who habitually does not pick up after her large dog.  And we all know large dog means large piles of poo.

As I observed her yesterday I wondered why someone who knows the rule decides to ignore it and is willing to walk away while she knows someone is watching her!  It is inconsiderate of the other residents to fill up the lawn with your dog’s poop.  The manager at the neighborhood office has asked us to report anyone who doesn’t pick up their poo so I did that.

I can’t imagine how lazy and selfish someone must be to refuse to pick up after their dog.

12 reasons why I don’t like autumn.

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ugly_autumnIn my neck of the woods, this is what Autumn looks like.

Yesterday was the first cool-ish day we’ve had since May.   While the lower temperature felt nice, I also noticed for the first time that some of the trees are beginning to change colors.  It was also overcast and gloomy, and I realized that my SAD symptoms have kicked in full bore.   I just felt like crawling into bed to escape from the sadness I felt.   After winter, fall is my least favorite season.   Here are 12 reasons why I hate it.

1.  Around here, the “changing colors” just means the trees change from green to brown to bare.  A few turn this unattractive shade of deep maroon or this dirty looking yellow, but unless you go up to the Parkway, we really don’t get the brilliant fall colors you see in places further north…

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Today’s Featured Blog…It’s Good To Be Crazy Sometimes!

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I always find that after the weekends I exhausted. I love my son but he is like a minature whirlwind.

He does not stop from the time he wakes up to the time he goes to sleep. I am also fairly sure he talks in his sleep, so he probably doesn’t even stop then.

We made the decision (I say we, I mean my son) that he would like to dictate his own bedtime at the weekends. Myself and my partner decided that we would like evenings to ourselves.

We came to a compromise. He goes to bed at 8pm, however he can play with his lego till he wants to go to bed. First night he eventually fell asleep at 10pm, Saturday it was 9pm.

This also means I get a lie in at the weekends, well till about 7.30am. Sunday evening came and I readied myself for a…

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Fearless Friday

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I haven’t felt fearless this week.  I feel like I have gone back to where I was before I took the Ampyra and maybe even worse. Or maybe it just seems that way.  On Monday, I told you about the struggle to find financial assistance for the Ampyra I started taking a little over a year ago that was improving a lot of my MS Symptoms.  I also told you about a bad fall I had that day. 

On Wednesday I told you that I was still unable to find financial assistance. 

My symptoms have regressed in the following ways:

  • my right foot is dragging more
  • it is more difficult to do my ankle and foot exercises
  • my right hand is less able to do the occupational therapy exercises I do with therapy putty
  • my R hand can hardly hold anything and
  • my fatigue has increased probably due to the…

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Abducted: He said he was our uncle (a true story)

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When we were old enough to attend school, our parents sent us to what I can only describe as “the little schoolhouse on the hill”. Seriously, it was a big white building that sat on top of a hill. Thinking back, it truly looked like something from “Little House on the Prairie”. Lunch was the same thing every day… English peas, with an orange slice and a piece of cornbread. I can vividly recall the teacher constantly saying “Ro- Shellllll, don’t fork your bread”. As if spending your day in a hauntingly scary looking house wasn’t enough, we had to look at and listen to “Mrs. Congeniality” all day, too. Luckily, my brother and I were in the same classroom since she was the only teacher.

I’ve mentioned before that I followed my brother everywhere. One day, just before dismissal, the sky turned dark and a torrential rainstorm pummeled the…

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Happy 86th Birthday Anne Bancroft

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Today is the  86th birthday of Anne Bancroft.  Her list of performances is impressively long and impressively impressive.  Her performance in Great Expectations stole the movie.  I watched it in the movie theater in Seattle and…