The Truth Is I Haven’t Always Been So Positive

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DannyAbout once per week I’ll get an email asking me how I maintain such a positive attitude. And I get enough of these emails to make me believe people view me as being a positive person, although, I don’t view myself as a positive person.  The truth is I haven’t always been so positive.

In 2007 I began working for Dick’s Sporting Goods as a PGA Professional.  My job was to manage the golf shop staff, keep the shop stocked with the appropriate types of merchandise, inventory and maintain customer service levels.  For anyone who has worked retail, this short story should register with you.

I worked that job and dealt with customers throughout the store; there were good days and there were really bad days.  And as the years moved forward the really bad days began to outnumber the good days 10 to 1.  Customers in retail are vicious.  They complain constantly.  They drop trash on the floors.  They spill things and use merchandise to cover up the spill.  They leave used condoms in the fitting rooms.  They make messes in the bathrooms that you could never imagine (especially the women’s room!).  They scream, yell and blame the staff for ruining their child’s Christmas.

The list goes on and on.

Dealing with the public turned me into a person who didn’t want to be around people outside of work.  So I began to resent other humans.  I began to hate being around other people.  I saw the worst in humanity and expected people to be awful.  I became a negative person.

Then came 2013 and my retail career ended.  Unfortunately, my negative attitude did not.  It would take me another year or more to eventually purge myself of those negative tendencies and find “Danny’ again.  It was such hard work.  Every day I had to focus on finding the good in people and expecting good things to happen.  I had to go through a complete revolution of my mind to exorcise the negative demons.

It was a long fight, but it was worth it.  I no longer maintain that nasty, negative attitude and I am happy now that people email me asking how I stay so positive.  It’s a great reminder to me that people can change if they want to change.

Most Don’t Have a Money Problem, They Have a Mind Problem

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DannyI recall a conversation I had with a friend of mine a few years ago.  He was upset because he was struggling financially.  He had a decent job, but life's circumstances had turned against him it seemed.  He had gone through a divorce that drained his savings.  He had had a series of car problems that drained every extra cent he had from his last paycheck. He didn't have enough money remaining to eat and still had 10 days until his next paycheck.  Needless to say this friend was down on his luck and was asking to borrow money; which I gave him. The interesting thing is that I had known this guy for a few years and I knew his problem wasn't the divorce or car problems.  His problem was that he lived with a broken mind.

This guy's thinking was flawed so here's what I suggested to him–"you need money and you have money sitting right in your house.  Let's go through your house and collect up all the things you don't touch and have a yard sale.  I'll bet you have close to $500 sitting around."  This was on a Tuesday and on Wednesday he ran a free ad on Craigslist advertising his Saturday yard sale.  The end result?  He made $400.

I started a vintage furniture company with almost zero cash.  I went to an estate sale and bought $30 worth of old furniture which I flipped for $175 in one day.  I then took and reinvested that $175 and turned it into $400 and I was off and running.

Here's my point: you don't need money!  You need a revolution of your mind.  Do you remember my question about giving your all?  This is what I was talking about.  What are you willing to do to change your current circumstances?   My friend had never considered having a yard sale, yet he made $400 in 4 days from things he had lying around his house.  I created $400 in profit in 2 weeks from a simple $100 investment.

If you have a mind dead set on changing, then you will find a way to change.  If you have a mind set on lamenting your circumstances, then you will continue to complain and nothing will change.  I can already see the comments, "I see what you are trying to say, but everyone's circumstances are different.  Some people don't have anything."  And this is true, there are going to be uber-extreme situations where someone in this world doesn't have anything.  But I'm not talking about them, I'm speaking directly to YOU!

Here is a simple formula to make more money right now…

  1. Call your pay television company and cancel your service.  (save $100+)
  2. Collect everything in your house that you don't use and have a yard sale on your day off. (revenue $250)
  3. Go to garage/yard sales and find things of value and flip on Ebay.  (profit $25 per week)
  4. Go to nightly estate/merchandise auctions and buy items of value and flip on Ebay (profit $60 per week)

Monthly Result?

$100 – cable

$250 yard sale

$340 Ebay

=$690 extra money

And I know this works because I did it.  I spent 2 nights per week at auctions buying things that had value and then selling them on Ebay or Craigslist.  I took everything in our home that we never touched and held yard sales.  I attended weekend estate sales and found items I could flip for cash.  Basically I hustled my tail off to make $20 bucks here and there and turned that into a few thousand dollars per month.  It was a lot of work.  It resulted in me working nights and weekends.  It took time.  But I did it and I created an income flow.  The difference was that I had a mind set on finding any way to generate extra money so I did everything I could to scrape together extra dollars to get ahead.

Imagine if you exhausted every avenue to make a few extra dollars and combined that with eliminating wasted expenses!!  Everyone wastes a couple hundred dollars per month on cable, cigarettes, eating out, gym memberships, car payments, Starbucks, driving too much, etc.

The question is-which mind do you have?  One set on getting ahead and finding a way or one set on accepting getting dirt kicked in your face by life and sitting around complaining?  The simple truth is you have extra time and if you have extra time you can use that extra time to make extra money.

(*******even those who have nothing can find a way.  Read this story about a man who traded a paperclip for a house!!)

Do A Lot Of People Really Do All They Can Do?

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DannyThe other day Tremaine at A Cornered Gurl (give her a visit!!) and I had a discussion in the comments of one of my posts about life not owing you anything. You can read the thread here  The basic premise of Tre’s comment was that there are tons of people who do everything in their power to get ahead and fail to do so because of people in higher positions not giving them the opportunity to advance.  My return question to Tre was to ask if there really are “a ton” of people who do all they can do.

My opinion on this is based on my experience and other’s opinions will vary, but I don’t see a lot of people in this world doing everything in their power to advance.  Are there people who give their all?  Yes.  Are there a ton of people who do so?  No.

To give one’s all is to use every moment of every day to figure out a way to achieve one’s goal.  To do everything in one’s power does not mean to work hard.  To give one’s all supersedes hard work; it is an unquenchable, burning flame of desire to possess what it is one wants.  To give one’s all is an obsessive, definiteness of purpose.    It is more than showing up every day.  To give one’s all means someone is so determined to get to their goal that they will do anything and everything necessary to do so.  I don’t know many people who possess this type of drive; present company included.

So I stand by my assertion that very few people actually give their all.  Very few people do everything in their power.  And when I say very few I am guessing that number is in the low single-digit percentile.

Here Are 10 Things I Stopped Doing That Made Me Happier

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Danny's iphone 022A few years back I made some drastic changes.  In 2013 I decided enough-was-enough and I went through a revolution of my mind and habits.  Here are a few of the things that I stopped doing which made me a happier person:

  1. I stopped blaming others for my underachieving.
  2. I stopped complaining
  3. I stopped comparing myself to others
  4. I stopped trying to be right all the time
  5. I stopped talking to myself like I was a villain
  6. I stopped allowing myself to make excuses
  7. I stopped watching television
  8. I stopped allowing my mind to be limited
  9. I stopped wishing for change
  10. I stopped waiting on life to happen for me

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Who's My Favorite Today?

Sometimes it’s the simple things……. snow cones on a Sunday afternoon.  I am trying to treasure every minute right now.  Every second.

We have 10 more days until Avery moves into her college dorm.  I know things will never be the same after that.  She will be independent and her own person.  And I want her to be all that.  We have worked all these years for her to do well and go to college.  I know she is extremely privileged to be one of the few people of the population of the world that is able to do this.

I try not to worry.  If I begin down that trail, it is never ending.  There are so many things my mind can conjure up!  I have to trust that we have instilled in her the skills and judgement she needs to make it on her own.

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2 More Partner Spots Have Come Open; Grab One Before Someone Else Does!

I have 2 Partner spots I’m looking to fill!

Let me ask you a question, if more people knew about the quality of your content, that you are willing to engage and that you are interested in helping to support the blogging community, do you think they would be more inclined to follow you or read you page?

 

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Low blood sugar levels due to low carb diet for diabetes

Advocate for Mental and Invisible Illnesses

I have had lows for the last couple of days. Obviously a medicine change is needed.

My very low carb/ketogenic diet is working. Already I am seeing a need to lower some of the insulin needs. Will talk to the dr if it keeps up. Luckily I have been home when it happens – night time and fasting.

Most days I eat less than 20 carbs, some meals are no carb therefore no insulin. So I am down to the low numbers on my fast acting insulin for meals and my Tresiba slow acting all day insulin also needs adjustment. Just not sure where I should make the adjustment.

Teresa (Tessa) Dean Smeigh

-Advocate for Mental and Invisible Illnesses

-Author of Articles, Stories and Poems

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Today’s Featured Blog…The Militant Negro!!

The Militant Negro™

August is the eighth month of the year (between July and September) in the Julian and Gregorian calendars and the fifth month to have the length of 31 days. In the Southern HemisphereAugust is the seasonal equivalent of February in the Northern Hemisphere.

 In many European countries, August is the holiday month for most workers.

Certain meteor showers take place in August. The Kappa Cygnids take place in August with the dates varying each year, the Alpha Capricornids meteor shower takes place as early as July 10 and ends at around August 10, and the Southern Delta Aquariids take place from mid-July to mid-August with the peak usually around July 28–29. The Perseids, a major meteor shower, typically takes place between July 17 – August 24, with the days of the peak varying yearly.

The star cluster of Messier 30 is best observed around August.

This…

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What is crown shyness?

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“Crown shyness” is a real term that means the pattern a canopy of trees make against the sky.   They seem to avoid touching, which is responsible for the pattern.

One theory is this is due to branches rubbing against each other and then breaking off, leaving the jigsaw-puzzle like patterns.  Another theory is that the growing tips are sensitive to levels of light, and stop growing as they near the branch tips of other trees.

They’re better at maintaining good boundaries than humans are!

I never noticed tcrown shyness before, but now I’ll be looking for it whenever I walk in a forest or under a grove of tall trees.

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Photos not taken by me.  Credit: unknown.

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Blog Networking: 8/15/17

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Blog networking is one of the most undervalued and underused strategies for most.  But I believe it is at the core for growing a blog.

You will find links in this post to help eliminate some of the work; all you have to do is LIKE, COMMENT and FOLLOW others. The more you network with other blogs, the more other blogs will network with you!

Mind Elate

Getting Fit For Forty

Tales From the Cabbage Patch

Fearless-Jo Ann Maxwell

Multiple Experiences

Horse Addict

Lucky Otter’s Haven

Lucinda E. Clarke

Rendezvous En New York

Peace from Panic

Second Wind Leisure Perspectives

Today’s Featured Blog…Irene Design 2011!!

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Dear Reader

I’m home again after being at the hospital since the 8. of June. I came home late Monday and now I try to find a new rhythm in my new life

As many of you know, my daughter was so kind to update you about, what was going on with my health, for what I’m very grateful and huge thanks to my dear friend Amy for her kind help with posts, while I was away

I don’t have much energy or abundance yet, but I wish to let all of you know, that I feel very grateful for all your love, prayers and kind wishes for both my family and me

For describing my health simply, when I went into the hospital; I got an serious infection in my lungs and my other organs were close to shot down too. The doctors told me, that if I was…

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