Why Is It That Hard Work Makes Me Luckier?



Why Is It That Hard Work Makes Me Luckier?

There are a lot of people in the world who believe life just happens and you have to take what you get.  I have never, ever bought into this thought pattern.  Instead I have dedicated myself to executing a strong work ethic combined with continually trying to learn and be the best at my craft.  I used this mentality to grow my blog to almost 50,000 followers.  I used this mentality to become one of the top producers in my company.

I have noticed that the harder I work, the luckier it seems I get.

Many things in life are going to happen that are completely out of my control, but there are many things of which I am in full control.  I wake up every morning between 5-5:30 am and begin my day.  I walk each day to get exercise.  I use a to-do list to keep my day on track.  I plan my work.  I (try to) make better food decisions.  I dress for success.  I maintain good posture throughout the day to convey confidence.  I watch my mannerisms and language.  And all of these things point me in the direction of reaching my goals.

Some would say there is luck involved with success and to some degree I agree.  You have to meet the right people and you have to be in the right place at the right time.  These things are true.

But I believe luck is when preparation meets opportunity.  People miss opportunities every single day because they are not prepared to seize the moment.  My goal is to be prepared and I work hard to make sure I am.

The truth is I might be lucky, but luck didn’t create my blog page.  Luck was not involved in the hours upon hours of time I invested in learning about the online digital world of advertising.  Luck wasn’t involved in the long hours I committed to learning and honing my marketing and sales call skills.  These things took dedication, commitment and a lot of hard work.

When I was a golf pro I would have other golfers comment that they wished they could take time off and still break 80.  They were infatuated with the idea of being able to so “easily” shoot low scores.  To them they only saw the end result-low scores.  What they didn’t see were the countless hours on the range, sweating in the summer sun.  They didn’t see the hours of time I spent at home swinging a club in front of a mirror.  They didn’t see the hours of practice on the course.  And I committed myself to these practices for years and years.

It is easy to see the end result and attribute someones success to “luck”.

I still say luck is when preparation meets opportunity.

Have a great Tuesday!


You Know You Travel A Lot When You…



You Know You Travel A Lot When You…

If you know someone who travels as a part of their job, then you might understand the challenges that come along with doing so.  Being a road warrior is not easy on the mind, the body or the family and it takes a tremendous amount of communication with loved ones to make sure relationships are being maintained.  Funny things happen though when you find yourself in a hotel room for half the month…

Yesterday I forgot to set up the percolator because I had it in my mind that I could simply walk downstairs and the coffee bar would be set up.  I will admit I miss the coffee bar when I’m home, but of course the trade-out is worth it.  Nothing compares to being home with Evelina and Bentley.

Funny thing #2, I looked in my wallet yesterday afternoon to make sure I had my debit card and noticed my hotel room card wasn’t in my wallet.  As I began to look around the kitchen for it I realized I wasn’t in a hotel.  Ha!

This coming week I will be in Quincy, Massachusetts which is about 90 miles east on I-90 from the town in which I was born.  On October 17, 1972 I was born in Mt. Holyoke Hospital and I always love being near Boston Mass because of the history about the revolutionary war.  Boston is my favorite city in the U.S.

My hope for you is that you have a restful Sunday and quality family time!




Is It Possible To Be Ultra-Successful and Have Balance?



Is It Possible To Be Ultra-Successful and Have Balance?

Have you read or heard people talking about having work-life balance?  I have and I’m not sure I buy the concept.  In my experience it is the proverbial situation in which you can’t eat your cake and have it too.  Maybe I’m wrong, but I haven’t witnessed a lot of ultra-successful people who have a lot of balance; professional athletes come to mind.

We make sacrifices every day we get up and go to work.  We decide that paying bills and providing for our family is worth leaving them for 8-10 hours.  We give up that time in order to get ahead.

But when I look at CEOs, professional athletes, entrepreneurs, etc. I don’t see a lot of balance.  I see a group of people that work hard to achieve their goals and sacrifice a lot of personal time in order to do so.  Typical entrepreneurs are not taking 3-4 vacations per year, but they are working a lot of nights and weekends totaling 70 hour weeks.

I wonder if the sacrifice is worth it.  At the end of life I have to believe that they wish they had spent more family time.  Or maybe I’m wrong, maybe they do not regret all of the personal time sacrifices.

I don’t know.

The one thing I do know is that if anyone wants to achieve a goal, tremendous sacrifice will be required.


It Is Important To Escape the Daily Grind



It Is Important To Escape the Daily Grind…

Have you ever watched someone run at 10,000 rpms and think to yourself, “they are not going to last long at that pace!”?  I’ve been that person and I’m sure many of you have as well.  As I’ve grown older and become the old bull I chuckle when I see the young bull running himself or herself ragged trying to hustle and get ahead.  Sometimes you have to take some time away from the daily grind and recharge the batteries.

The simple fact is we cannot operate at maximum effort every moment of every day or else we will burn out.  There have been years when I sacrificed time off, but now I take every day my company gives me: every sick day, every personal day, every vacation day.

My time off is as valuable to me finding success as my days on are valuable.  It doesn’t mean you are lazy because you take time for yourself.  Conversely, it doesn’t mean you are more dedicated if you sacrifice your time off in exchange for working.

Take a break occasionally.  Hope you have a great Wednesday.


I Don’t Like Making A Big Deal Of Birthdays



I Don’t Like Making A Big Deal Of Birthdays, but this year I’m looking forward to mine.  This is because for the first time that I can recall Evelina and I are planning a trip for my 46th.  And of course I picked Disney but I’m not sure if that is going to work out.  I want something simple and Disney is anything but simple.

I think it is time for us to purchase the season’s passes for Walt Disney World.  I ran the numbers last night and 2 trips per year to Disney more than pays for the cost of the annual pass and we go a couple of times each year.

We are fortunate to have a trip planned every month through the end of the year excluding December.  This is exciting and will give me something to set my sights on each month.  In August we are going back to Cherry Grove Beach, then in September we have a wedding in New York.  October is my birthday month and November is Evelina’s bday and we are going somewhere with her parents to celebrate her Big 40th!

I love having trips planned and having something to look forward to in the near future.  So now I’m off to the internet to find a cool place to go for my birthday!  Hope everyone has a great Monday.


Something Really Odd I Noticed Lately…



Something Really Odd I Noticed Lately…

As many of you know my blog really focuses on helping other bloggers get some recognition.  In reality my blog is a small hub for bloggers to network and then occasionally I’ll post one of my classic rants or thoughts.  As it relates to the networking I noticed something the other day on my Reblog link post.

I only have one rule for the Reblog post and that is to reblog my post if you would like to leave a link.  If you leave a link, but do not reblog I will still share your work with others, but I noticed a couple of bloggers the other day “fake” reblogged my post.

I discovered a couple of bloggers last week left a link for me to reblog and were kind enough to reblog my post out to their followers.  As is my habit, I thanked them and told them I would add their link to the list.  When I returned a couple of days later to reblog their post, I noticed they had deleted the reblog of my post from their page.  In essence they reblogged me so it showed up in my notifications, but then deleted it from their page.  My thought was they did this to get help from me, but were not actually interested in helping me.  It didn’t sit well.

What are your thoughts?  How would this sit with you if you were in the same situation?  I know it isn’t a huge deal, but it just hit me as incredibly deceptive.  Of course I didn’t reblog their page because of their actions.  I’ll be curious to know what you good people think.


I Need To Practice More Of What I Preach…



I Need To Practice More Of What I Preach…

It isn’t easy admitting faults or at least it isn’t always easy for me to do so.  I guess that is one of the issues with being human.  Back a few weeks ago I wrote a post about the difference between judging and being judgmental and I have fallen into the trap of being judgmental.  

There is a guy who has moved into our neighborhood a few months ago and until recently I had no idea he existed.  He never comes out of his house, I never see him driving his car and he is a peculiar guy.  Okay I’ll come right out and say it, he is strange.

On July 4th I was cleaning my car and out of nowhere this gentlemen is standing right beside me like he just appeared from thin air.  It startled me to such a degree that I thought he was a ghost.  It was right at dawn with no one around but the two of us.  He had a giant grey Afro which, at first glance, looks like a clown wig.  He wears a white chef’s coat or white button down Oxford shirt with a pair of colorful pants and Puma shoes.  If you imagine this image standing beside you in the early hours of the morning I think you might understand my shock.

The strange thing is he just stood there looking down at me as I cleaned my tires.  I asked him if everything was okay to which he mumbled something and just walked off.  It startled me to such a degree that I called the police.  Long story short he is my neighbor.

When I mentioned this to the staff who work in the model home they informed me his name if Frank and that several other residents have complained/asked about him.  I was informed that he has some social skills issues and recently lost his mom who was his caretaker.  He now has no family, no friends and is not able to work.  The suspicion is that he is on the autism spectrum and simply does not possess the capacity of holding conversations or interacting on a social level.

Now obviously I didn’t know this when I first encountered the gentleman.  But I feel terrible for thinking this guy was just some type of serial killer weirdo stalking the neighborhood in the wee hours of the morning.  I would see him out walking and think “that guy is just weird.  Why is he out walking dressed like that and never speaks to anyone?”  My brain went in to instant judgment mode.

It’s funny how easily that can happen.  I took my first impression and created a complete profile of the guy without knowing one single thing about him.  And then come to find out the man lost his mom who happened to be his caretaker for the last 45+ years and he has is challenged with a condition that makes it incredibly difficult to interact with other people.  I can only imagine how his world must feel now.

I tried to speak to him a few days ago, but he just looked down, mumbled something and kept walking.  I’m not going to badger him instead I will say a simple “good morning” and let him go about his way.

I wish my brain didn’t do the judgment thing, but I guess it is part of being human.

Have a great Saturday.


Here Are A Few Of My Crazy Random Thoughts…7/26/18



Here Are A Few Of My Crazy Random Thoughts…

  1. I spent time last week in New Bern, NC for work.  If you haven’t been there you need to at least check it out on the web.  It is such a cool town with tons of old buildings and churches, great restaurants and many artsy stores.
  2. I need to get the oil changed in my car.  I also need to get a front-end alignment.
  3. Fantasy football is getting close and I am super, duper, extra, especially excited.  Did I mention I’m excited?  Well I am.
  4. I cannot believe the end of July is already upon us.  It seems like a couple weeks ago that the calendar flipped to 2018.  Wow.
  5. I wonder how many people pee in the shower?  And if you pee in the shower does it make you an awful person?  I guess it depends on which shower you are peeing in!
  6. It is amazing to consider how drastically the smart phone has changed the world.  And in only 10 years!  The way that information is distributed has changed entirely.  Advertising has changed completely.  And our expectations of the world around us have changed.  All because of one small device in our pockets!

One of My Favorite Things Is the Sound of Rain in the Morning



One of My Favorite Things Is the Sound of Rain in the Morning.

This morning I woke at my usual time of 5 am.  I made my coffee and was sitting on the couch about to go through my morning routine when I heard the most beautiful sound…rain.  I opened the front door and stepped into the darkness and just watched and listened to the rain.  It felt so refreshing and I couldn’t help but think of what the rain was doing to refresh the world.

The sound is so incredible to my ears and I feel as though my day is off to a great start.  I hope you have a great Tuesday!


Fear of Sharks Can Get In the Way of A Great Swim



Fear of Sharks Can Get In the Way of A Great Swim

I heard some people talking this past weekend about never swimming in the ocean because that’s where sharks live.  It was a funny conversation, but the lady talking was being sincere in expressing her fear.  She explained that if she never gets in the water she will never have to worry about getting eaten by a shark.  And I cannot argue with her logic.

But what about the coolness of the water on the skin?  What about experiencing the awesomeness of an afternoon swim?  Maybe a little belly surfing?  If her mind doesn’t change she will never be eaten by a shark, but she will also never experience the greatness of the water.

Listening to her talk got me to thinking about fear in general.  I wonder how many people think like this on other topics.  If I never try X, then I’ll never have to worry about Y.  I would have to guess that the number is quite high.

Fear rules many people’s lives.  They operate out of fear.  It dictates the terms of agreement in their life.  Fear decides what will happen and what will not happen.  Fear dictates a few things to me.  I will never skydive because if I don’t I will never hit the ground and die.  I will never bungee jump.  I’m sure there are more things that I will say “never” to doing.  My list expressly relates to extreme sports.

Fear can keep people from fixing broken relationships.  Fear can keep someone from experiencing the freedom of being debt free.  Fear can get in the way of someone earning their education certificate.  In the end fear does one thing…it gets in the way of everything.

If fear is getting in your way I offer one simple suggestion.   Think about the worst possible scenario and then ask yourself, “What’s the absolute worst thing that could happen?”  You could get rejected.  So what?  You could get your feelings hurt.  So what?

But what if the worst case doesn’t happen?  Fear will rob you if you let it, so don’t let it.

Have a great Monday!


Ever Feel Like You Have Lost Your Way?


Ever feel like you have lost your way?  I felt like that from about age 35-44 and it didn’t seem as if there was light at the end of the tunnel.  This blog helped a lot.  Reinventing myself in my current profession helped as well.

When I first started my blog I had an incredibly specific mission to grow my page to a large following.  I’m not sure why I thought this was the best measure, but it was the only one I knew so I set it as my goal.  I’ve almost reached the number of followers I wanted way back then, but now I’m lost again.

I’m not exactly sure what my mission is now.

I love the interaction and I’ve even rediscovered the joy of reading other pages again and I’ve started reaching out to new bloggers much like I did in my early days of blogging.  But sometimes it feels like I wake in the morning, grab the laptop and start typing.  And I do so just to type.

There doesn’t seem to be any reason behind the typing other than to hit publish.  Sometimes it feels empty.

Have you ever felt like this?


Storms And Floods And Bats, Oh My! – Coping With Stress

Reclaiming HOPE

Storms.....Coping With Stress

I was getting ready for church on Sunday morning when suddenly my husband came in and said, “There’s a bat in the house.” Thinking that surely I couldn’t have heard him right, I repeated what he had just said to me.

I followed him out into the family room, and sure enough, there was a bat flying around in there. We closed off the doors into the dining room and hallway to keep him contained and keep the dogs out, and set about trying to catch him. My husband grabbed my lightweight blanket that I keep out there, and whenever he got close to the bat, he would throw the blanket, trying to cover it and knock it to the ground. In the meantime, I stationed myself over by the kitchen area with a towel and whenever it came my way I’d flap the towel to try to steer it…

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Buddy, can you spare word or two? – The Cancer Bus

Expressing the greedy silence A picture’s worth of words Swallowed whole by memory’s avarice. Wishing wells charge five cents for Lies it disguises as your dreams and Sells for a penny a dozen accidents. Ascending into the ravenous night, Darkness craves sleepers who whisper Hungry with the first sun’s frowning light. Handmade gifts thoughtfully cost […]

Source: Buddy, can you spare word or two? – The Cancer Bus

Happy 118th Birthday Norma Shearer


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Originally posted on Waldina:
Today was the 118th birthday of the stunningly beautiful actress Norma Shearer.  I can never say enough about The Women as a film and as a must-watch for anyone wanting a well-rounded film education, it is simply brilliant.  The…

Sustainable Fashion


The fashion industry is fast paced. The moment one trend is “in”, it is considered dull the very next. Don’t let labels define what looks good on you, what is chic and what is not. You are the master of your own life. Your body is merely a car that you control. Just like you can upgrade your ride with forced induction, a custom paint job, and better brakes, your attire represents you. Be yourself.  Help replenish the Earth of it resources. Reuse. Recycle. Be fashionable. YOUR WAY.


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After Eight Moments…

Cyranny's Cove


Life sometimes is cruel

and hearts can suffer
May fate one day bless us
bringing our souls again closer
I don’t mind loneliness
if we can be alone together
Side by side, my hand in yours
sharing the afterlife forever!

If you want to know what After Eight Moments are about, click here.

Description for the visually impaired: Close up on two dead white moths, side by side.

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Short Story/Serial Monday – First Impressions – The Conclusion

Author Don Massenzio

Well, this serial came to a natural end in this week’s installment. I was able to end it to my satisfaction and give it a subtle tie to one of my other serials as well as mix in some call backs to my third Frank Rozzani novel.

I’ve enjoyed writing this serial and look forward to putting it together with other related short stories in a super-sized book.

On a side note, I’ve updated my Author Directory and Serial pages. You can now find all  the authors I’ve interviewed over the past 3 years and the serials that I’ve written, two of which have become books this year.

Please enjoy this last installment of First Impressions.

Couple Holding Hands at Sea Sunset

What in the world was Jones up to? He gave no clues for the four digit code. He had somehow put a virus on an air-gapped server, one that was not directly connected to…

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My Passion and Side Hustle

Lifting Taboos

I grew up as an adoptee in an environment that was not to be desired. One of the things I did learn throughout my time with my adoptive family was their passion for creativity. There were many little arts and crafts projects often happening and I really appreciated the nature of Arts and Crafts in general.
As a young child I learned to make necklaces, earrings, bracelets, anklets and so much more. I also learned about different beads, stones, and woodwork. My favorite stone of all time is the Larimar stone. The Larimar stone has so many functions. I began to dabble in making different types of jewelry using this beautiful pectolite. The most commonly purchased larimar items are earrings with little Larimar stones. These stones are only found in the Dominican Republic. My passion became my side hussle and now, here at Larimar Jewels and Things, we make many…

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