A Really Sad Reminder That Life Does Not Last Forever…

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A Really Sad Reminder That Life Does Not Last Forever…

In the last 2 months I have lost 2 friends from high school.  I wouldn’t say either were close friends now, but back in high school they were in my larger circle of friends.  The latest friend to die was a girl named Tonya (name changed for privacy reasons) and her death has hit me fairly hard.  When I was in high school my mom’s company did business with her mom and dad so she and I would talk here-n-there between classes and had kept in touch via Facebook.

She was a kind person who would often comment on my blog and/or FB posts with words of encouragement and always seemed interested in how I was doing as I dealt with the impacts of MS.  She leaves behind a husband and 3 daughters ages 10, 13 and 17.

She was in relatively good health and went to bed one evening and died in her sleep.  I cannot imagine how her family is feeling at this point and attempting to imagine their position leaves me feeling empty and incredibly sad.

I guess if you must die now that is about as peaceful a way to go as any other.

Tonya was my age and it is hard for me to accept I have gotten to the point in life when my friends are beginning to die.  In a way it forces me to contemplate my own mortality.  What have I done with my life?  Am I wasting the time I have remaining?  Am I spending enough time with my family?  But more than these questions, I have been sad.  And the sadness I feel is real and subtle.  It isn’t a crying my eyes out sadness, but a foundational sadness, a tangible shaking in my soul, quiet type sadness.  It is hard to explain, but it has disturbed my complacency.

This coming week Evelina and I will attend her funeral and I will see many friends from high school.  Her family will bury her and life will begin to move again.  Her husband will return to work eventually, her kids will return to school and life will continue on; minus a husband and a mom.  The reality is their life will never be the same.  October 31st will always have a different meaning.  It will be sad in many ways.  It will bring about happy memories.  But life will never, ever be the same.

One day I hope someone has good things to say about me.  It is difficult for me to imagine not being alive, but I understand there will come a day when all of my questions about the after-life will be answered.

I would prefer the after-life continue to be a mystery for many years to come.

Danny

Caution, Your Actions Can Hit You Like a Boomerang!

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Caution, Your Actions Can Hit You Like a Boomerang

A few years back Evelina worked part-time for this furniture store in Charlotte.  I was operating my vintage furniture business then and this guy (we will call him John) was one of my clients.  He mentioned to me that he needed reliable help selling in the store so I recommended Evelina.  It was a great part-time job for her while she finished law school and he paid her commission on sales which was really nice.

But as Evelina became more involved in his business she learned some things about his business practices which made us both hesitant.  First, he was not paying taxes.  Second, he was paying all of his employees under-the-table wages.  And, third, his store was not up to code for some of the painting and varnishing work being conducted.

At any rate the guy turned out to be someone we didn’t want to associate so Evelina quit and I stopped selling him furniture.  Which at the time was a big deal as he was my largest buyer, sometimes buying 30 pieces of furniture per month.  But for us the decision was an easy one.  Of course he refused to give Evelina her final paycheck and we didn’t choose to fight the battle, just wanted him out of our lives.

I tell you this because yesterday I got curious and looked him up on Facebook.  What I found didn’t surprise me.  His FB business page was shut down and as of July he was out of business.  Several local television news channels had run stories on him because he closed his doors while owing a lot of people money for inventory and owing customers money and product.

We filed a complaint years ago with the local tax office explaining to them that he was not paying taxes, but nothing was ever done.  I was a bit annoyed at this because I wanted vindication.  I wanted bad things to happen to this guy.  I know I’m not supposed to think like that, but I was mad and I’m being honest.

Now his actions have come around and hit him square in the forehead like a perfectly thrown boomerang!  He is being investigated by the Department of Justice which was a huge shock to me and lets me know he was doing some pretty shady things to get in that much trouble.

It just goes to show that it is better to conduct yourself with integrity than to cut corners and treat people poorly.  I hope he ends up in jail because he deserves to serve time.

Danny

When You Know the Right Thing To Do, But You Don’t…

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When You Know the Right Thing To Do, But You Don’t…

We have all been in a situation where we are trying to make a decision or a friend asks for advice and the right choice is obvious.  Often times the right thing to do is right in front of us we just don’t want to admit it or the right choice means going down a difficult road.  This happens often in sales and usually has something to do with us screwing something up and we have to call the client and admit our mistake.  Some reps want to hide details or even pass along the blame to a “corporate” mistake.

Doing the right thing should always be the first choice.  It isn’t always the easiest route and it isn’t always the most comfortable choice, but it should always be the choice.  When you know the right thing to do but you don’t do it then you bring in a whole new set of issues and problems.  It’s almost like opening Pandora’s box.  Then once the box is open you realize it would have been easier to just do the right thing from the beginning.

So here’s my policy…always do the right thing no matter what.  People will have more respect for you in the end.

Danny

I Can’t Make You Want It…

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I Can’t Make You Want It…

I had one single goal when I started blogging and that was to pass along some of the things that I did to turn my life around.  Prior to November 2014 I considered myself an underachiever.  I would wake up each day and whatever happened, happened.  For the most part life happened to me, not the other way around.  But then I underwent a transformation.  I spent a year completely redesigning my habits and my thoughts to change careers and find more success.  I restructured my thoughts so that I happened to life, not the inverse.  I stopped drinking alcohol, stopped watching television, started watching what foods I ate, started reading books to help me expand my mind, and most importantly, started making my bed each morning first thing.

All of my habit changes changed the way I looked at the world, but it also changed how I saw myself in the world.  I began to envision the result I wanted to achieve.  I began seeing myself in a successful position and eventually a new career opportunity presented itself and I scooped it up.

The key was I made up my mind that I would change.  But I can’t make others want to change the way they see themselves in the world.  I believe you can create your own ending, that you can write the script you want.  Then combine that with preparation and hard work and you can transform your life into what you desire.  The catch is you have to believe it, I can’t believe it for you.  I learned this principle from the book Think and Grow Rich by Napoleon Hill.

I consider myself fortunate that my eyes were opened to this fact and I want so badly for others to realize it also.  But it is not up to me and I cannot make people rethink their existence.  Each person has to live their own life and all I can do is talk about my experience and hope that one other person experiences the awakening I experienced.

And for that reason I type each morning hoping that my story might help someone in some small way.

As Bob Wiley said “Baby steps onto the elevator.”

I hope everyone has a wonderful weekend!

Danny

About Larimar Jewels and Things

I grew up as an adoptee in an environment that was not to be desired. One of the things I did learn throughout my time with my adoptive family was their passion for creativity. There were many little arts and crafts projects often happening and I really appreciated the nature of Arts and Crafts in general.  As a young child I learned to…

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Conscience for Sale

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Here, buy this conscience,
Useless nonsense;
I wish I had no sense,
So I could kill my innocence.

Come, water’s now troubled;
Innocence is just a bubble;
Exploit this troubled bubble,
And sell conscience for a ‘double’.

Copyright © Nov. 14, 2018; Newton Ranaweera
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Never, Ever Listen When the World Says ‘No’!

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Never, Ever Listen When the World Says ‘No’!

In 2016 I was at a point of decision.  My business was not doing as well as I wanted and my insurance premiums were skyrocketing.  The proverbial writing was on the wall and I knew I had to make a change.  So like many others I began putting my resume together and applying for jobs hoping that my efforts would lead me to a solid company who would give me an opportunity in sales.

The first company to reach out to me was a furniture company by the name of Brook Furniture.  I interviewed with a district manager which led to interviewing with a regional manager in a restaurant in downtown Charlotte.  I wasn’t exactly sure if this was the right job for me, but I was certain I could do the job and they needed help, therefore I continued through the hiring process.

During the interview the guy couldn’t have been less interested.  We met at a restaurant in downtown Charlotte and he ordered a huge ice cream dessert and commenced to eating it throughout the interview.  He asked a lot of questions which I answered honestly (probably my downfall) and in the end he explained to me that he didn’t see having a place for me in their company.

At that moment I felt a bit confused.  I honestly thought the job was mine and he said ‘no’ which I was not expecting.  It was at that moment that I realized getting a job in sales with little sales experience was going to be more difficult than I had thought.

I guess I could have taken that ‘no’ as a sign to find a different line of work, but I didn’t.  I took that ‘no’ as motivation to interview better and try harder.  That ‘no’ led me to a better opportunity and my diligence impressed my current employer enough to give me a ‘yes’!

I think we listen to the naysayers too much.  We allow other people’s opinion to influence us too often and I say don’t ever listen to anyone IF you believe in yourself.  If you believe in something then I say let your desire drive you to getting what you want.  Let your self-belief be the foundation for working through the struggles.

Don’t quit and don’t give up until you have pulled every bit of effort out of your soul.  Sometimes giving your best effort is the best result.

Danny

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I Bid You All Adieu

Being Lydia!

I wrote awhile ago that I was struggling with several things, one of them being this blog. I haven’t been able to write much and when I do, it is often a struggle.

I know that people have said, don’t be too drastic, it is okay to just write once in awhile. However, I am going through a lot of health and personal issues and I feel I can’t be there for my readers if I am not there for myself.

I am not saying never, but the for unforeseeable future, I will not be continuing with Being Lydia. I want to thank everyone who has read it, encouraged me and been encouraged by my words.

I remember just after I started the blog almost 4 years ago that two people I got to know well decided that there wasn’t room for blogging in their lives anymore. I couldn’t fathom…

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