Know Who You Are and What You Want

I originally posted this on December 2, 2014:

I struggled today to find a topic to talk about as my mind and energy have been focused on other parts of my life.  But as I sat and thought about success versus failure and the lack of happiness I see in people, I couldn’t help but wonder why so many allow themselves to continue in situations that make them unhappy.  

Why do people continue to work jobs they hate?  Why do people continue in relationships that make them unhappy?  Why do people live in towns that they despise?  Why do people continue to engage in activities that are so self-destructive?  Could it be laziness or perhaps fear or maybe complacency?  

 

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I think those play a part in everyone’s life at some point.  But as I spent time in introspection I came to the conclusion that a vast majority of us simply don’t know who we are, what we want or where we want to go.

Life quickly gobbles us up and refines us to societal norms: going to college, getting a good paying job, finding a mate, having kids, buying a house, etc.  And unfortunately for many, dreams and aspirations get left behind like a pile of tailings at a gold mine, where all the goodies have been stripped and all that is left is a pile of rocks.  And it happens so easily as most of us are convinced that living your dream(s) is unrealistic or unattainable.   
Imagine how the world would be different had Henry Ford, the Wright brothers or Christopher Columbus listened to the naysayers!
At some point you have to stop.  Stop and ask yourself what you want.  What are you doing with your life?  Are you happy?  Do you know what your dreams are?  I think so many of us have been brainwashed into thinking that we’re not supposed to experience greatness; that living your dream is meant for others, but not for you!  
And I’m not just talking about greatness as it pertains to a profession or career only, but to you as a complete person.  

What is often misunderstood about people that have achieved amazing things is that the achievement was not the greatness.  The greatness was inside them and expressed in their willingness to take action in their life, stepping out and taking a chance, staying the course when adversity screamed at them to quit.  And it all begins with a definiteness of purpose, knowledge of what you want and an unquenchable desire to seize what you want!

So I say, spend some alone time each and every day and think about your life.  Go to the park on your lunch break.  Wake up 30 minutes earlier in the morning.  Steal away and find a secluded, quiet spot.  Think about your life, your successes and failures, your relationships, your job/career, your financial situation.  Dig through the piles of rubble that years of accepting the norm has heaped upon the true YOU.  

Ask the hard questions of yourself and don’t be afraid of the answers.  You cannot begin your journey to personal and professional fulfillment until you know who you are and what you want.
As always…dream big, dream often

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30 thoughts on “Know Who You Are and What You Want

  1. It’s sad how people react before they take time to think,failure is part of success,instead if understanding what it takes to be a participant,most rather sit on the side lines and be a spectator without ever be willing to play the game all for the reasons that you have stated
    Fear is the perventor rather than the motivation
    Thank you for the follow
    See you soon Sheldon

  2. You mighty like Breaking the Habit of Being Yourself by Joe Dispenza. He writes about the mechanisms of the brain that create states of mind (neural pathways which reflect routines). That’s why breaking out of what we’ve created is so difficult.

  3. “Why do people continue in relationships that make them unhappy?”
    Fear. Definitely fear. …at least in my experience…
    excellent share – some insights I may have heard before – but just now starting to sink in. thanks for sharing them!

  4. Great post! I have to completely agree when you advise that we should spend some time in solitude every day. Getting to know ourselves is the first step towards personal development. We cannot truly flourish as human beings if we don’t dedicate time to self realization.

    1. I am surprised at how few people spend quality time in contemplation. Just zipping through day after day with complete disregard toward introspection. I agree that it is the first step to developing ourselves. Thanks for the comment!!

  5. I think it’s a combination of fear, laziness and complacency. When I feel lost or trapped, I’ll make a list of goals. It tends to help me figure things out.

  6. I have read a few of your posts and they look intriguing and require some soul searching. I am always up for that and frankly, need it! I look forward to reading more. Make a great day and happy blogging, Cheryl

    1. I was diagnosed in 2007 with MS and am working with my local MS advocacy group to begin traveling and speaking to MS groups to provide support, encouragement. I have tremendous support from my wife and family, but a lot of people are alone or have very little support. My wife and I will be traveling to these people to basically be a friend. That’s kind of it in a nut shell.

    2. I am responsible for the expenses and rely on my friends, family, readers, associates, companies for a little help. The balance that isn’t covered from donations I pay from my pocket. but it is worth it to help change people’s lives. Like Gandhi said, “you must be the change you wish to see in the world.”

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