Your Body Is Your Temple?

 

Originally posted on January 16:

 

 As many of you know I have committed to demonstrating my “map”, http://dreambigdreamoften.co/2014/11/30/time-for-me-to-change/,  to success by losing weight.  Obviously it is important to eat the right types of fuel, but it is not always easy to make the right food choices.  Successful people are careful to watch what they eat and take time each day to exercise because they understand that they must take care of their body. The stress that can come along with living on this rock can be purged through the use of exercise.  Plus, exercise and eating properly provides valuable energy needed throughout a very busy and productive day.   With that said, is your health important to you?

I promised myself when I started writing this blog that I would be honest to my readers even when it would be hard to do so.  Being honest with yourself regarding how you live your life and being overweight is not easy, but if you are overweight you must, must take action immediately!  You owe it to yourself to do so.  Eating healthy is very hard in the beginning and takes a lot of preparation and effort.

There are no fad “diets” or “plans” that will ever outperform a lifestyle change of eating healthy.  Notice I said LIFESTYLE change.  To succeed you must have desire and then change your habits, your mind, your thinking and your routines!    I believe most people wish to be in good physical shape and I would say most people wish to lose weight.  Those that change their lifestyle succeed and those that do not change, fail.

I wonder sometimes that if we know that eating the wrong types of food and consuming too many calories will cause our bodies to store fat, and being overweight increases your chances of heart attack, heart disease, sugar diabetes and premature death, then why do we not practice better food habits?  I have joked in the past and likened this to someone intentionally smashing their thumb with a hammer and after yelling and crying turning right around and hitting their thumb once again with the hammer; what kind of sense does that make?  If you need to shed weight, it is time for you to have a complete and total lifestyle revolution.

The question is not whether people want to lose weight, rather, what is required for a lifestyle change??  I will use my current food lifestyle changes as an example, after all, you are not trying to reinvent the wheel, just follow what others have done before you.

My wife and I decided in November that I needed to slim down.  We had friends using a good cookbook and website for low-fat, healthy, tasty cooking so we decided we would do the same.   Relying on a healthy cookbook served multiple purposes: first, it ensured we were eating healthy food, second, it controlled what we were buying at the store and third, it provided us with great tasting food.  I went online and found a free calorie log app to make sure that I was eating fewer calories than my target.

 

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And on the last day of November we went through our pantry and refrigerator and threw away everything that did not conform to our new lifestyle.  YES I SAID THREW IT ALL IN THE TRASH!   EMPTY, VOID, CLEAR, EVACUATED, BARREN!  I stopped referring to my new eating regime as a diet and replaced it with the word “lifestyle.”  You see eating properly is a lifestyle not a fad or a quick fix!  It is difficult.  It is hard.  It takes time.  It tests your will power.  But my desire to see lower numbers on the scale  surpasses my desire to stuff a donut in my mouth.

If you don’t have a true desire to eat healthy as a means to being healthy, then you will fail.  As I write this I can be honest and say that tonight I was tempted to grab a chocolate milkshake from a fast food joint, but I asked myself if doing so was helping me reach my goal or hindering?  I did not buy the shake, but came home and ate avocado.   I REALLY WANTED THAT MILKSHAKE!

I am going to give you a few key points that I implemented to change my lifestyle:

1.  You must be resolute in your decision to change your lifestyle; to start making better food choices.  The definition of resolute is to be admirably purposeful, determined and unwavering.

2.  You must eliminate junk food calories from your daily habits.  Don’t assume you know what junk food is!  Hamburger Helper and frozen dinners are junk food just like Doritos!  Educate yourself on how to eat.

3.  You need to learn to shop on the exterior portion of the grocery store; buying fruits, vegetables, and natural foods. You must stop consuming processed foods.  Easy rule: only buy food items that contain one ingredient!  A frozen bag of green beans should have “green beans” listed as the only ingredient.

4.  You must determine the number of calories that you need to consume each day and develop the habit of logging your caloric intake.  There are numerous calculators online that will help you determine how many calories you must stay under to stabilize your weight.

5.  You must assume that you do not know how to cook healthy, and find a cookbook through research that will help you learn to cook healthy meals.  The best thing I did was to reach out to friends and find a healthy cookbook.  It provided very different and tasty recipes that were also low-fat and had caloric info with serving size.  …..Insert sarcasm…I discovered that fried chicken is not very healthy!

6.  You need to get out of the habit of consuming fast food products.  Do I really need to elaborate?

7.  *******This is essential******Do not focus on weight loss as your primary motivator. Focus on developing the habit of eating healthy foods and let weight loss be a secondary result. From the beginning change your language and use the phrase “lifestyle change!”  Eating healthy, properly portioned foods is diet in its truest sense, but “diet” has been so overused and associated with fads that the word must be eliminated from your vocabulary.  I focus on eating healthy, properly portioned meals each day and only weigh once per week. Eventually I will not weigh at all.

8.  You must eliminate all carbonated beverages from your life!  When I was in the golf business we used Diet Coke to clean copper golf clubs and to apply to oil covered engines to clean them. If it can clean oil off of a tractor engine, it does not make sense to put that in your body!  Drink tons of water!

9.  You must incorporate some type of physical activity into your daily routine.  I can only walk about .10 of a mile, but I make myself do it a couple of times per day.  DO SOMETHING, ANYTHING.

10.  You must get in the habit of prepping your meals for the week.  Eating better foods and eating healthy takes preparation so you need to make a plan to cook your food.

11.  You must buy a small food scale and weigh every portion you eat.  You will be surprised at how small a proper portion really is!  We over-eat at nearly every meal, so don’t trust yourself and measure twice eat once!

12.  Make sure you develop a plan for healthy, low-calorie snacks!!!!  Snacking is a necessity, but grabbing a bag of chips is not!  It will be critical to buy the right types of snacks like: fruits, almonds, rice cakes with natural peanut butter, low-fat cottage cheese, etc.  Take time to research snacks you will enjoy.  Gummie fruit snacks are not fruit and do not count!

13.  The day before your new lifestyle begins you must go through your cupboards and throw out all junk and unhealthy food.  Then fill your cupboards with all the foods necessary to prepare 2-3 recipes from your cookbook.  At this point you should have educated yourself so you understand what foods you need for your new lifestyle and what foods have to go.  I recommend making large batches of 3 recipes and rotating leftovers throughout the week.

14.  Determine in your mind that this way of eating is forever!!  Your lifestyle change must be in your mind at all times, forever and ever and ever!

These 14 points are how I have experienced developing a healthy eating lifestyle.  Some are probably thinking that this is a lot to do…YOUR DARN RIGHT IT IS.  It’s a pain in the butt a lot of the time.  It requires lots of planning.  It takes a tremendous effort.  And sometimes eating right gets on my nerves!!!!  But I keep doing it because I have a desire to live a healthy lifestyle!  And I promise after a period of time it will become second nature.

I have a friend, Ryan McElhinny, that owns Maximum Fitness Systems.  He promotes the idea of fitness success through “lifestyle modification. ” I asked him if he had to choose working out for the rest of his life, but eating unhealthy food or eating healthy food with no exercise, which would he chose?   “Rule #1, you cannot out exercise a bad diet,” he answered.  Meaning you choose eating right every time!

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My opinion is that most fail in any endeavour because they lack desire and plan poorly; and wishing is not desire!  Desire is the power in you that will see you through all the pain, all the cravings, all the difficulties through to goal attainment.  You have to want it so bad that you are willing to sacrifice anything to get it.  You must develop that burning desire!

Napoleon Hill said it best:

The starting point of all achievement is desire. Keep this constantly in mind. Weak desires bring weak results, just as a small amount of fire makes a small amount of heat.

 

Keep the feedback and questions coming:  draygolf@yahoo.com.  I am experiencing more emails than usual so be patient with me and I will respond personally to every single correspondence!!

 

Big Dreamer

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28 thoughts on “Your Body Is Your Temple?

  1. Well it is not so easy to eat right all the time. Budgets, and time play a big part in a lot of people’s lives now. A lot of people cannot afford to eat healthy, and they don’t have the time to properly eat and let the food digest.

    1. Mike…I hear this argument a lot, but I don’t buy it. I used these excuses for years. The average American will watch 15 years of TV if they live to be 70 years old. I think we can work in time for food prep. And there are tons of stores that offer quality food at discounts: farmers markets, Aldi, coupons, etc. And nothing worth having comes easy. My eating regimen and prep simply takes priority over television and wasted spending which has made all the difference in my life. I appreciate your comment!

  2. Your body is your temple. I try to be as kind to it as possible. Green drinks, organic, cook at home, rest, think good thoughts, exercise….I hope by doing this I can extend my life! Only time will tell if it works. But in the mean time I know I feel better. Best, Koko 🙂

    1. Your comment hits my point right on the head! “I hope by doing this I can extend my life!” Exactly. Why would you not if you knew eating better would possibly extend your life? People that stuff themselves with junk and walk around waiting on a heart attack make no sense to me.

    1. This is the 15th email or comment I have gotten today about the cost of quality food. I think I am going to put together a post of how I shop on a budget and always get quality food.

  3. I love that you emphasize when you want to lose weight it’s a “lifestyle” change NOT a diet. One element I have found that has helped me and isn’t emphasized here is the emotional/spiritual elements….the “why” the obesity occurs at all…why we overeat, why we make poor food choices. For many of us food is a replacement for love – an intangible we often don’t see, experience or may not even know what looks or feels like. Comfort food makes us feel warm, happy…for a fleeting moment and for some this “feels” like love and so it becomes to me more of an addiction to a feeling than a substance. Our physical bodies manifest what is going on with us emotionally and spiritually…”dis-ease.” I help people with physical pain and what comes up the most first — is emotional pain and then the physical pain has a space to be dealt with – to heal. Obesity figures in here. It’s not only the retention of calories/fat but retention of built up negative energy…our bodies literally expanding to contain it. Weight loss began in the intangible place and manifested to the physical place at least for me.

    1. I talked about this once, but honestly have zero expertise in these emotional goings on. I have not talked in depth because I am not a psychologist or mental health professional and thus do not want to discuss topics that I am not qualified to talk about. I have pointed out this reality and encouraged those with this issue to seek professional help to combat obesity. Great point!!

  4. Reblogged this on As I see it and commented:
    I love that our friend Dreamingbigoften emphasizes when you want to lose weight it’s a “lifestyle” change NOT a diet. One element I have found that has helped me and isn’t emphasized here is the emotional/spiritual elements….the “why” the obesity occurs at all…why we overeat, why we make poor food choices. For many of us food is a replacement for love – an intangible we often don’t see, experience or may not even know what looks or feels like. Comfort food makes us feel warm, happy…for a fleeting moment and for some this “feels” like love and so it becomes to me more of an addiction to a feeling than a substance. Our physical bodies manifest what is going on with us emotionally and spiritually…”dis-ease.” I help people with physical pain and what comes up the most first — is emotional pain and then the physical pain has a space to be dealt with – to heal. Obesity figures in here. It’s not only the retention of calories/fat but retention of built up negative energy…our bodies literally expanding to contain it. Weight loss began in the intangible place and manifested to the physical place at least for me.

      1. I have always thought of my body as my temple. To love and care for in every way. Food, exercise, spiritually, love, peace, mentally and physically. You are quite welcome!!

    1. Peggy…I am very happy that you live a healthy lifestyle! And I will continue to “preach” the message. If I only convince one person to change, who then will live a longer life for their kids, grandkids, then my entire life is complete.

  5. I LOVE this article and I love your passion. I can tell that you’ve done your homework and that leading a healthier lifestyle is important to you. I have a best friend that used to be overweight and unhealthy back in high school and after we graduated he completely turned his life around. He started eating healthier, working out in his basement and he lost all of his excess weight. That was back in 2008-2009 I believe. To this very day he STILL maintains a healthy lifestyle. He treats himself to a sit down restaurant (Chilis, is his favorite) every now and then but he can afford to because every single day he eats healthy and he exercises as if he were getting paid to do so. His commitment and his dedication has always been inspiring to me. I’ve struggled with leading a healthy lifestyle, including being overweight, seems like my whole life now. I’m only 26 but still it’s been a struggle since childhood. I like how you said you really can’t wish or hope to lose weight or be healthy. That can be applied to pretty much anything that requires change. You truly have to DESIRE and be TIRED of being sick and tired. Once one is ready to make a change they’ll know it. Nobody can do it for you that’s for sure. To this day my best friend continues to be an inspiration and I always tell him I want to be like him when I grow up lol. Change is never easy but it’s not supposed to be. So many of us are conditioned and have grown accustomed to what our parents fed us as kids that we grow up thinking that this is the way to eat when it’s not. This is why educating yourself is so important. Once you know better you’re supposed to do better. It’s funny how pretty much all the food that’s bad usually taste delicious and all the food that’s good isn’t always the best tasting. And I always say that we must learn to give our bodies what it NEEDS and not what our tastebuds WANT. Such a simple concept yet we choose to take the road MOST traveled. Sorry for this long comment…I just really connected with this post because I am one of those people that has led an unhealthy lifestyle for so long, making excuses as to why I can’t eat better and why I can’t exercise. This just really hit home. I feel as though all the new knowledge that I’m gaining won’t mean a thing if I don’t apply what it is that I’m learning. Again, great post and I wish you continued success on leading a healthier lifestyle.

    1. Chimere…I appreciate your heart-felt honesty and know that I read every single word. I also know that you can make a change if you want and I believe in you. I want to make you an offer if you want to change, I can help you. I never do this, but you have touched my heart and I will do every thing in my power to help. I am going to give you my personal email and if you choose, send me an email and I will talk with you one on one and introduce you to my wife. She will help you change your life once and for all. I hope I hear from you soon. Danny
      draygolf@yahoo.com

      1. Wow…I’m borderline speechless. I don’t know what to say. I am glad that my words have touched you. It’s important that you know your offer to help me and you reaching out to me has touched me as well. Thank you so very much and yes, I do accept! I have always told myself that if I can lose weight; I can take on the world. I truly believe that losing weight (which essentially is one losing something that holds them back) is one of the hardest things a person can do and it lays the foundation sorta speak for anything else one wishes to accomplish. Not only does weight weigh you down physically but also mentally. I’ve tried to change but have yet to be successful. Again, I appreciate your offer and I thank you (and your wife) for anything you may be able to help me with. Email coming your way shortly 🙂

  6. These are great guidelines to live by and help change your lifestyle. I have changed mine this year, transitioning to mostly clean eating and no fast food! It’s been great. My body feels so healthy and ALIVE.
    Also, I am an extremely “cheap” or “frugal” person, and I am able to get healthy food on a tight budget. That is just another excuse to hold people back. It can be done. Go on pinterest, there are several posts about eating clean on a tight budget.
    Shop around! Where there’s a will, there’s a way! !!!!!

    1. I think the “will” is the issue. People truly are lazy and argumentative. They would rather be chubby and ignorant. That is until the doc tells them they need a triple bypass. Then they are full of regret. For intelligent beings, we are not so intelligent.

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