Why Do So Many Lose Their Spectacular?

Originally posted on December 5, 2014:


I was thinking today and a question came to mind: Why aren’t more people amazing?  I am referring to being a great person and accomplishing great, amazing things.  I believe that every single human being has in them the potential for great and amazing things.  A light, a spark.  Bill Gates was once quoted as saying, “I don’t believe there is anything unique about human intelligence,” and I could not disagree more.  I know as sure as anything I’ve ever experienced that human intelligence is what makes each of us so incredibly unique and special.  It allows us to experience the exact same world in 7.125 billion different ways.

But, with that said why do so many of us sacrifice our uniqueness and allow “life” to squeeze us through a sieve and mold us into individuals that, all to often, fear being different?  If you understand that there are no two human beings that are the same, why do we teach to conform?   We should be teaching the individual to celebrate and announce his or her uniqueness from the mountain top!!!

But as we learn quickly in life, the norm will move swiftly to extinguish any hint of originality.  Take for example how teenagers learn (I’ll use my teen years as example).  If you don’t wear a Members Only jacket or glacier glasses, you are out.  If you don’t own a pair of Vans, you are out.  If you don’t like Break Dancing, you are out.  From a very young age we are conditioned to go with the norm and to keep our uniqueness to a minimum.  After all no one wants to be the “weird kid.”


image credit: Gary Larson
image credit: Gary Larson


After college it is expected that you will get a good job, pay taxes, buy a car and that is the path to becoming a contributing member of society.  Then get married, start a family, raise your family, retire and enjoy the fruits of your hard work.  And I guess there’s nothing wrong with that, but what about living a life that is spectacular?  Is that not possible for us all?

Are we supposed to believe that all there is to life is paying rent or mortgages, bills and hoping one day to have enough to retire?  There has to be more.

I challenge each of you to find something that is so outside of your “world” or comfort zone and participate (maybe find a Hobby).  What is one thing you would be afraid to do?  Sky dive, public speaking, hold a spider?  How about something you’ve always wanted to do but haven’t?   Guitar lessons, enter an open mic night,  join a poetry club, start up a band!, take a class at the community college, join a theater group or VOLUNTEER YOUR TIME AT A LOCAL CHARITY!!

I want you to challenge yourself.  Show the world that you are capable.  This world is here for us to experience and it is time for more of us to do so!  Get uncomfortable and reignite that spark that makes you, YOU!  It is time to break the mold that life presses us into and spread those wings and fly!

Big Dreamer


38 thoughts on “Why Do So Many Lose Their Spectacular?

  1. I agree that we should celebrate our uniqueness. I’ve always tried to do things my way and not follow the crowd, but I have to admit, I do tend to stay within my own comfort zones.

    1. Since I posted this I have study conformity more. It is necessary in youth as we learn to conform to rules such as don’t run out in to the street when cars are coming, don’t talk to strangers, etc. It provides security and safety and is crucial to survival. But the danger I find is allowing conforming to “break” you down and kill your true self. Thank you for the comment!!

  2. Totally agree with you! we are all special and celebrating our uniqueness not only make us better, but also inspire the people around us. Off to my first piano class ever :)!

  3. Very wise words. We do all seem to get into ruts – doing the things that are expected of us. I like the part about being pushed through a sieve, it made me think about play-doh, with the little things you push it through to make shapes. Great post!!!!!

    1. SD Gates…thank you so much for your comment. I must say that I try not to have favorite posts, but I like this also. I am glad you enjoyed it and I am appreciative that you read!!

  4. Einstein was quoted to say, “I have no special talent, I am only passionately curious”. I’m not sure we really do need immense intelligence. I do think we do need curiosity, even if only about ourselves. Amazing what happens when you take a genuine interest in your unique nature. Lovely post.

    1. Noellevignola, I love that quote and have read about Einstein and find it intriguing that his self-image was very humble and he never saw himself as being super intelligent, just that he followed his wonderings more than others. Great comment!!

      1. Really, isn’t that all passion is? Following your own wonderings with deep curiosity and interest. You don’t have to be brilliant, just deeply and profoundly interested.

  5. I’ve always listened to the beat of a different drummer but that hasn’t made me spectacular, merely unconventional. Still, I’m happy with the paths I have chosen. Thanks for another thoughtful post combine with one of my favorite Gary Larsen cartoons. 🙂

  6. A matter of nurturing it. Whether this was instilled at an early age, role models, etc. or has to be pursued at a latter age. Super great to be!!!!!! Why? It’s natural and though one may observe one does not fit in with many, still it’s amazing:)

    1. I think it takes a lot of care and skill to teach kids to be different, but also understand the good and necessities of some conformity. After all, not all conformity is bad. Great comments!!

  7. Thanks for following my posts. I will endeavour to be as great as I can be, in the spirit of the Parable of the Talents- so that, even if I only have a little talent, I will try to increase it!
    Thanks for your vote of confidence.

  8. This is why I believe in unschooling so passionately. No kid should be placed into a mold. Everyone should be allowed to follow their own passions, to be unique. Brilliance can be found in one’s passion. We are too busy being a brick in the wall. We need to encourage children’s curiosity from the start, because that’s where they will discover their passion. Although the unschooling lifestyle can begin at any age, it becomes more difficult to start the older you get.

    1. This is similar to the way Aristotle taught in Greek history, if my memory serves me correctly. Curiosity was encouraged and students were very much in control of the education system. Even being in control of administration through voting. Anyway, he taught outside and walked as he taught. Using life as the great teacher of students. Our system today produces very little in the form of education, but teaches memorization. Which serves little benefit except the passing of exams. It is unfortunate.

      1. Our current educational system teaches people to be good little cogs in the wheel of society that benefits a select few, and keeps the masses blissfully ignorant. (Thus, my choice for my blog name.)

  9. There is something wrong with the norm. The fact that people don’t live up to what they want, but settle for what they have. There is not a soul that said “When I grow up I want to collect the carts at the grocery store when I am 60.”

    The only reason to have the norm is to allow for standardized testing. Which is acceptable to get a baseline. From there people allow it to determine their lives though and we all need to unlearn what has been presented to us as far as what to do after school and it is not the responsibility of the system.

    The best place to start is what we eat and our self image, then outward from there.

    Clifford T Mitchem
    Advocare Distributor
    Nutrition + Fitness = Health

  10. Don’t ask what the world needs, ask what makes you come alive, and go do it. Because what the world needs is people who have come alive. ~ Howard Thurman

    1. I really wish more people realized the truth that this quote represents. I have so many people email and message me each week complaining about their life and underachieving. But when I ask the question of what are you doing to discover life or discover your passion they say they don’t have time. It makes me crazy!

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