I could have easily titled this post “How To Ask For Help,” but I wanted to be more forceful. I found inspiration for this post sitting in the living room answering emails and comments from readers. The very cool thing about the recent growth in the Dream Big community is that I wake up to lots of comments from our friends in England, Spain, Portugal, Asia, India, Nepal, Turkey, Poland, Russia, etc. that arrive as my little head lies on my pillow and I am in lala land! Sorry that I left some countries out, but hopefully you get the point.
I know people that act like they know lots, about lots. Meaning they have never found a conversation that they did not feel they could contribute; regardless of the topic or their actual knowledge. One thing about a “know it all” is that he/she tends to be very closed-minded which limits their ability and future in dramatic ways. Because they are too busy expressing their beliefs, opinions or views, they find no time to actually consider another perspective.
Two key thoughts come to my mind. First, the “I have everything figured out” guy and gal are usually too busy talking or “one upping” to listen, thus drastically limiting their perspective on life. If you recall my post about Habits of Wealthy People you will remember that wealthy people make it a habit to listen more and talk less. The reason for this is to learn! The Dalai Lama said, “When you talk, you are only repeating what you already know. But when you listen, you may learn something new.”
Secondly, a “know it all” tends to be too conceited and arrogant to ask someone else for help. Bringing in an expert is my go-to move in life. Any time I am about to journey into unknown territory, I find an expert and ask lots of questions. Who better to help me learn than someone who makes a living at my future endeavor. Henry Ford attributed much of his success in the car industry to hiring intelligent employees to fill roles around him in areas of which his experience and knowledge was weak. You must learn to be quick to ask for assistance as it will help you achieve success faster by eliminating speed bumps and mistakes!
Those that act as if they have all the answers are very slow to ask for help and view seeking outside advice or assistance as a weakness. The truth is the weakness is found in trying to shoulder the entire load by oneself.
I want you to spend time today in introspection. How often do you ask for help? Do you listen to others? Are you quick to interrupt in order to inject your thoughts into a conversation? Do you find yourself talking about topics of which you really have no knowledge?
Be quick to listen, be slow to speak. Seek out the help of those around you that have more experience or knowledge. Learn from them. If you begin to practice this simple habit you will find yourself fast-tracking your way to goal-achievement.
Expand your willingness!