Practice Kindness

I want to ask you a question: when was the last time that you went out of your way to do something kind for someone that you did not know?

Has it been a day?  A month?  A year?  Never?  Is it important to you to help others?  If you say yes to the last question, do you practice helping others or give it lip service?

image credit: designmom.com

image credit: designmom.com

This world needs more givers and helpers and less self-absorption.

We wonder why our lives are not turning around or changing, meanwhile we only focus on ourselves and do not consider others.  And if we consider others, we do not act on our consideration and commit acts of kindness randomly.  If you want your life to change then start by doing something for someone other than yourself.  Start focusing on others and stop focusing on you.  If you do this, your life will change and you will change; both for the better.

Start today.

Big Dreamer

37 thoughts on “Practice Kindness

  1. That is a thought provoking question u asked. To be honest can’t remember. The act of showing kindness or empathy do we need to do it as something to remember or do it as part of human? I prefer to do it as a normal way of life.

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    • For me it doesn’t matter WHY you do it, but THAT you practice kindness. Give the homeless person food, help the older person across the street, give the shirt off of your back…

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  2. REBLOGGED!
    There has to be a balance in this. I agree it’s very important to help others – to care about our fellow human beings and the other life forms we share this planet with but we also need care for ourselves first and I don’t mean in how society tells us we should. What is the common definition of selfishness and is it really true? http://www.scribd.com/doc/17105822/Erich-Fromm-Selfishness-and-Self-Love#scribd

    Too many people may be self absorbed aka “selfish” in the definition given to us by religion but may be people of our world were more selfish – knowing and loving their authentic sells and in turn being able to extend this out to those less fortunate, we’d have a more balanced and adjusted one! Most people in our world do know who they are and what they do know they don’t love! They are not worthy, they are not “good enough” – condemned at birth with the “original sin.” Most people, especially in America, spend every day, nearly and actually killing themselves to make someone else’s dream come true! Day in and day out, struggling to be the worlds definition of self – this is what sent me over the edge to a nervous breakdown! I spent most of my life trying to please, appease and help others at the cost of my own identity! I had no idea of who I was, what I wanted in life and was miserable for 34 plus years!

    In the past being alone with myself was torture! I’d just cast about trying to figure out what to do with “myself.” I always looked outside of myself for help – religion, other people, animals, shopping, excessive exercise, too much time at work, eating too much (comfort/unhealthy) food and too much alcohol. I was grasping all around me to fill the gaping abyss created from the moment I was born up until my early 30’s by the world I was raised in. A world designed to make me look anywhere but within for comfort to my anxiety and fear of being alone. I’d look in the mirror and want to claw away what stared back at me — I knew there was someone in there but I couldn’t get to her! The lights were on, but nobody was home.

    As I’ve come to find out in the years since my nervous break-down in 2002 – which cost me my 16 year AF career and marriage – I was a victim of a horrible software program lol! For the past 12 years since my medical retirement, I have had to replace this faulty software with a program of MY design! Initially AA, psychiatrists and psychologists were needed to help me with this endeavor, but gradually as I “got free,” I learned not to entirely RELY on any external source and in the process found MY source. As I’ve discovered in reflecting on my past, who I have found was ALWAYS trying to get out – that girl in the mirror (your post yesterday) and it took a catastrophic break down to finally get her free.

    We have been made prisoners in the blueprint of our American dream – ironically we are the jailers with the key!

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  3. Reblogged this on As I see it and commented:
    Another positive post from our friend Dream Big, Dream Often with my rather lengthy caveat lol….brevity is NOT my strong suite!

    There has to be a balance in this. I agree it’s very important to help others – to care about our fellow human beings and the other life forms we share this planet with but we also need care for ourselves first and I don’t mean in how society tells us we should. What is the common definition of selfishness and is it really true? http://www.scribd.com/doc/17105822/Erich-Fromm-Selfishness-and-Self-Love#scribd

    Too many people may be self absorbed aka “selfish” in the definition given to us by religion but may be people of our world were more selfish – knowing and loving their authentic sells and in turn being able to extend this out to those less fortunate, we’d have a more balanced and adjusted one! Most people in our world do know who they are and what they do know they don’t love! They are not worthy, they are not “good enough” – condemned at birth with the “original sin.” Most people, especially in America, spend every day, nearly and actually killing themselves to make someone else’s dream come true! Day in and day out, struggling to be the worlds definition of self – this is what sent me over the edge to a nervous breakdown! I spent most of my life trying to please, appease and help others at the cost of my own identity! I had no idea of who I was, what I wanted in life and was miserable for 34 plus years!

    In the past being alone with myself was torture! I’d just cast about trying to figure out what to do with “myself.” I always looked outside of myself for help – religion, other people, animals, shopping, excessive exercise, too much time at work, eating too much (comfort/unhealthy) food and too much alcohol. I was grasping all around me to fill the gaping abyss created from the moment I was born up until my early 30’s by the world I was raised in. A world designed to make me look anywhere but within for comfort to my anxiety and fear of being alone. I’d look in the mirror and want to claw away what stared back at me — I knew there was someone in there but I couldn’t get to her! The lights were on, but nobody was home.

    As I’ve come to find out in the years since my nervous break-down in 2002 – which cost me my 16 year AF career and marriage – I was a victim of a horrible software program lol! For the past 12 years since my medical retirement, I have had to replace this faulty software with a program of MY design! Initially AA, psychiatrists and psychologists were needed to help me with this endeavor, but gradually as I “got free,” I learned not to entirely RELY on any external source and in the process found MY source. As I’ve discovered in reflecting on my past, who I have found was ALWAYS trying to get out – that girl in the mirror (your post yesterday) and it took a catastrophic break down to finally get her free.

    We have been made prisoners in the blueprint of our American dream – ironically we are the jailers with the key!

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  4. Helping others, giving starts first with gratitude. We have to be satisfied with what we have before giving appears.

    If we covet things so much we feel loss.

    If you give, give at a level where you look the needy person in the eyes, not a check or impersonal.

    If you want change in your life, give your time, listen intently to someone in need for five minutes.

    In the grocery or on the street.

    The Buddhist call it loving kindness giving

    Giving without regard for notoriety or reward.

    The ego is fairly dormant when we bend down to,give another a hand.

    Happiness is found down this road also.

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  5. Reblogged this on amusingmyselfmusings and commented:
    This is the food that nourishes my soul. This was posted by my “brother from another mother” on the opposite coast. The man is a wealth of wisdom! I swear he writes what I would write if mine weren’t a humor blog. Danny is a constant inspiration, go check out his blog. You will be grateful to have done so.

    Have a lovely day everyone!

    Xoxoxoxo M ♡

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  6. Two weeks ago I taught four classes to high school seniors on how to handle their finances. These kids were in AP Economics and didn’t have a clue about money. It was very rewarding. Next week I’ll be visiting the elderly man I’ve been seeing for four years. He’s home bound and I visit him every Sunday. We really enjoy each other’s company.

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  8. I give money to the homeless or the person asking for bus fare, etc. I don’t expect it back obviously. I donate to thrift stores and my son took my last large clothes donation to a homeless shelter. I give in the store when they ask for donations for different charities. And I have received when I needed it.

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