Why Am I So Positive?

I had a question posed to me this week: how are you always so positive?  Well the truth is I am not always so positive.  I write a blog that focuses on learning how to transform oneself from an underachiever, non-doer into a person of organization, purpose, plan and action; full of desire and ambition.  It takes a lot of work to remain positive.

The truth is that I am more positive now in life because the alternative is not acceptable.  I will not allow myself to go to the dark side and focus on how crappy life can be, how crappy people can be, how I hate my job, how life just keeps putting it to me.  None of that applies to me.  Why?  Because I choose to ignore the negative, focus only on the positive and work toward goal achievement.

This does not mean I am not aware of the negatives.  I do not live my life with my head buried in the sand.  I simply will not allow myself to use valuable life energy to focus on negatives.  It is not productive, thus I find productive things on which to focus.

It is not easy and takes much effort to live a life focusing on the positive.  Part of me wants to give in and just become negative.  I do not talk about my MS, too often.  I do not complain about my pain. too often.  I do not complain about not playing golf anymore, too often.  I do not complain about having to take my Copaxone shot 3 times per week, too often.

I think many people would understand if I did complain.  AND I know a lot of chronic sufferers that complain incessantly, most of whom I give a hall pass because I know what it feels like to hurt.  But I will not give in.  I will not relent.  I will choose to fight.  I choose to stay positive.  I choose my mentality.  I choose my strength.  I choose my future!

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I am positive because it is one thing I get to control.  To those that live a life of negativity I say: suck it up buttercup.  I bet there’s a kid in the Sudan that would give a limb to switch places with you and do it without hesitation.  We have it easy in civilized societies.

We don’t have to walk 5 miles one way to carry back dirty water to our families.  Water that will kill millions of kids each year.  We don’t have to worry about polio, AIDS, diphtheria, measles, deadly enfluenza, lions, tigers or bears!  Seriously, the next time you start complaining, stop and listen to yourself.  What are you complaining about?  Take action, change your position, change your future.  You have the freedom to do so.

You ARE the answer to your own problems; start acting like it.

Why do I choose to remain positive?  Because I live in a country that allows me to write a blog to help others.  I live in a country where I can speak to MS patients and let them know someone cares.  I live in a country that allows me to turn my life into whatever I want it to be.

Why do I choose to remain positive?  Because when all is said and done, I don’t have it that bad.

Big Dreamer


48 thoughts on “Why Am I So Positive?

  1. Rainer Maria Rilke
    Do not believe that one who seeks to comfort you lives untroubled among the simple and quiet words that sometimes do you good.

    Her life has much difficulty … Were it otherwise she would never have been able to find those words.
    – Rainer Marie Rilke

  2. I tend to agree with frankregan17 – it’s a choice. And takes willpower. But I can’t leave it at that. To easy to find fault with myself for not always choosing to be positive. Sometimes it seems out of reach – other times you may not even realize it’s available. These are the times we need to be kinder to ourselves. At least I do…
    … and I’m usually positively negative … does that count? 🙂

    1. For a long time I called my negativity being “realistic.” I finally admitted to myself that I was too negative and then leaned on my wife to help me change. It is so difficult!

    1. I agree with you. I distance myself from those that practice a habit of negativity. Like trying to clean up a hog…they will get you much dirtier than you will ever get them clean.

  3. While I agree a big part of happiness is outlook, it is not the sole part imho. Some things in life are terrible and need to be processed first such as death and rape. Also, those who are biologically depressed may be served with learning different perspectives, but it would not be go
    od to tell them, in the midst of it, to suck it up. Those people need professional help.

    1. First I would point out I never mentioned the word happiness. The word I used was positive. The post was about choosing to be positive versus negative. Nothing to do with happiness as happiness is an emotion that comes and goes.

      1. I did notice that. Perhaps, I was interchangin the two too much. I’ll give you that,but I still think much of what I was , poorly, trying to get across holds. Yes, it is hard after being raped to think positvely, especially if hiv was contracted. I just think processing and talking about it is first needed. It is normal. Also in some cases therapy. I’m glad your positivity has helped you so much with your ms. The only real issue I had was the suck it up line. Many times you could be right, but I also think that line should be hedged a little bit. Different situations call for different approaches imho. It was a good article overall,however.

      2. Ok. I preface my entire blog with “under normal circumstances.” I just do not say that every single time I post something as it gets tiring. Of course, a woman that gets raped is going to have a completely different set of issues. I have qualified enough in my writing for it to be understood that I am referring to those that simply allow themselves to live with a negative disposition. Rape, terrorism, HIV, ALS, MS, polio, murder, kidnapping all put aside. If you live a relatively normal life and are negative, then you are allowing yourself to be so. And the suck it up part applies 100% in the context in which it was used. This post no more applies to the situations you mentioned than other posts of mine would apply to depression. I have stated countless times that I do not speak on topics that require professional counseling. I am not qualified therefore I stay away. And I say suck it up because I live with a disease that is trying to kill me each and every day. Meanwhile I watch people eating themselves into a handicapped parking tag while I make my body carry me across the lot to force exercise. The pain that I live with each and every day for the last 8 years eclipses what most people will ever experience in an entire lifetime. I do more with less than much more physically capable individuals. So to them I say stop complaining and suck it up buttercup. My words were meant to be edgy because I don’t allow people to use excuses and complain when they have more opportunity in the US than most other countries in the world. Technology, electricity, clean water from the tap, autos, mobile phones, 450 television stations. come on man, life is easy in this country comparatively speaking.

      3. Okay, I understand you completely now. I cannot look at the entire blog with a tablet app and cannot read the whole blog normally, so I only read the one post.

      4. Exactly. Everything I write I do so in the context of my mission. I never refer to serious health issues, mental health or otherwise. With all of that said, I am thankful for your comment as it keeps me honest AND others may have been thinking the same but reluctant to speak up. So to you I say “Thank you!” I appreciate the opportunity to clarify.

  4. I so agree with you! As you know, I have blogged about this lately. It is hard work and does take a LOT of willpower. However, it can be done! I hate negativity. I have been told way too many times that I smile too much or have to much fun. It is a choice! A choice I am choosing to make more often, because it truly does help you survive life :-). Thank you for the post!

      1. I’m enjoying your blog. My time is limited at the moment and my blogging is sketchy, but I’ve found some talented and interesting and inspiring people on WordPress.

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