I hear people use the word “happiness” in referring to a state of being, which I personally do not like to use. I find it sets people up for failure and frustration. Happy implies smiling, laughing, giggling, enjoying, grinning, etc. And when people set this as their expectation they can find nothing but disappointment.
The word I prefer to use is fulfillment. Some might argue that this is really an case of semantics but I disagree. The word “happy” conjures up very particular mental images to which we then compare our lives. When those two do not match up, frustration sets in. Try using the word fulfillment.
I wrote about this subject several months ago, but thought I would offer an article to refresh our minds: