Originally posted in March 2015:
I wonder what the world would be like if all white lies were eliminated and people told the truth? “Yes, your butt does look fat in that dress.” I find it interesting that we teach kids to tell the truth, but when they tell someone their breathe stinks or that their nose is big, we scold them and tell them to stop. Kids learn quickly that telling small lies is acceptable as long as they lie in an acceptable manner. I am not sure how I feel about this topic as I have bent the truth to get out of unseemly dinner dates or the undesirable business luncheon.
I know people that speak the truth and they are not the most well liked individuals, although they do have people seek them out for advice. Sometimes I think we want people to lie to us to escape certain realities of life. The unattractive want to hear they are beautiful. The unintelligent want to be told occasionally that they are smart, The selfish want to hear that their actions were generous. The bad want to be told they did something good. The workaholic wants to be told he/she is a good family member.
Maybe the white lie exists to protect us from unnecessary negativity. After all, who wants to hear the brutal truth on a bad hair day?! Or who wants to hear 100 times per day that their ears are big? It would be an incessant barrage of truthful confidence crushers and would require someone to have a heart of stone to go unaffected. Maybe we lie to keep the peace. Plus, most people simply cannot handle honesty about their tasteless wardrobe or poor choice of hair color or the obviously bad comb over. Could you imagine our society if people told the truth?!
For me I’ll pick the world that lets me believe I am a normal eared, brilliant, generous, beautifully bald, intelligent, funny, stylish, charasmatic and handsome guy. Oh, and awesome dancer! And anyone that says anything to the contrary is just a big meanie!