Successful Habit #4: It’s Not Who You Are, It’s Who You Know

I must admit that this post from yesterday morning was intended to run today, but I set the wrong date!  Anyway, with yesterday having been a holiday, I wanted to rerun this for those that missed:


We have been discussing the list I compiled in January of Habits of Successful People.  The first habit dealt with eliminating television and the second and third taught us to live within our means and avoid credit card debt.  Next on my list is developing the habit of networking.

It is not who you are, but who you know.  In golf you come to understand that in order to get better at the game you must play with players that are better than you. In instruction we often tell our students to start playing with golfers of better skill level that way they can see what better golfers do and how they act on the golf course and these habits will help them get better; and so it is in life also.

Successful people spend time each month networking.  How much time varies from a few hours to a couple days.  The important thing to understand is that successful people see the importance of meeting new people and developing new relationships. Previously I posted a statistical data sheet Dave Ramsey published on his website breaking down the percentages of successful versus poor habits.  On that list Ramsey reported that 79% of wealthy network five hours or more each month vs. 16% of poor.

Why is it important to make an effort to network?  Networking serves many purposes, but the one that comes to mind immediately is exposure to other avenues of success.  When you meet a new contact you may meet your future #1 customer or your future #1 employee or your soon to be new employer!

New people bring new energy, new perspectives, new challenges and new knowledge.  Successful people network in order to meet new people that will push their business and their life forward.  Without new “blood,” life and business becomes stagnant.

Networking exposes one to potential opportunities, individuals from which to seek advice or motivation to move forward with a new occupation or becoming an entrepreneur.  You never know from where your next job offer might come and spending face-to-face time at social meetings increases your chances of advancing, improving your situation and giving yourself more choices.

Successful people are very open-minded and understand the fact that they have limited knowledge, therefore, networking brings people into their lives that might fill a valuable spot in their employee roster or provide a crucial business partner to drive profits.

On a personal level networking brings new relationships into your life.  For those that have emailed me about the difficulties of meeting Mr. or Mrs. Right, networking or socializing allows for more opportunities.  You are probably not going to meet your next boyfriend or girlfriend sitting on the couch watching television.  In order to meet new people you must get out and meet new people!  Sounds simple, but I cannot tell you how many people complain about being alone, yet spend most of their time with the same friends, in the same hangouts, doing the usual stuff.  “Same ole, same ole” yields “same ole, same ole!”

Get out to where people are socializing!  Break out of your social rut and try something new!

It does not matter if you own your own business, are an employee or are looking for a new friends; networking is the key!  Dedicate 5 hours per month to meeting new people in a face-to-face setting: chamber of commerce meetings, social clubs, luncheons, etc.

The key to your future could be just around the corner waiting for you, but if you are not actively seeking you might miss your opportunity!

Big Dreamer


20 thoughts on “Successful Habit #4: It’s Not Who You Are, It’s Who You Know

      1. There are 2 follow buttons on the right side of my page. One for email and one for WP members. And thank you so much for your kind words!!

  1. Thought provoking write and you make some good points for positive results. Networking works, no matter whether its finding friends, employment (definitely). It does work.

  2. Very true! I’m learning to be more confident and to mix more with others. Social events are not just frivolous, they can make a real difference. When people are relaxed they will be much more open to new ideas and are often only too willing to help others.

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