11 Types of People to Avoid Like the Plague

I have written in the past about friends and relationships and how we must carefully consider those we allow in our circle. Too often we allow people to creep into our inner-circle that have no business participating in our lives!   When this happens we end up using valuable energy dealing with these individuals.

Be aware to surround yourself with people that are generous, kind, loving and supportive.  This way the majority of your energy can go to building a positive and productive life.

I have listed 11 types of people that you should avoid like the plague:

  1. The Leverager.  There are few things that will kill you inside more than a person that is constantly reminding you of how you have let them down so as to get you to do something for them.  This person is constantly documenting other’s mistakes in order to use those mistakes for leverage.
  2. Mr. Impossible to Please. 
    These people are the worst restaurant dates.  Because they cannot be pleased, they complain about everything!  Their taste for imperfection is insatiable which leads to loads of negativity and incessant complaining.  And it is only a  matter of time before their complaining and negativity gets directed at you and your life!  Their general negativity quickly becomes a drag to be around.
  3. The Dream Dumper.
    This is the person that is so unhappy with the results of their own life that they want to convince you that you are not capable either.  Misery needs company and they can’t have you achieving success because they might be left alone.  Therefore, their mission is to keep you anchored down right beside them.
  4. The Manipulator.  This is the most venomous of traits.  Manipulators are constantly directing the traffic, usually stirring up controversy.  Manipulators don’t live life, they plan it!  And their planning involves using their negativity to intimidate you to direct your thoughts and actions.  ELIMINATE THESE PEOPLE FROM YOUR LIFE IMMEDIATELY!!!  You will always lose with a manipulator in your life.
  5. The Drama queen.
    These friends always have some problem cooking in the pot.  They always seem to have someone causing them strife, accepting no responsibility for their contribution to the drama.  Problems are always someone else’s fault.  They are incapable to see that they are the common denominator.  And if there is no natural drama going on they will stir some up!
  6. The Selfish.  Most of you are aware of my belief that volunteering is the way to fulfillment.  Selfish people are only interested in activities that benefit themselves.  Why should they be bothered to do something for another human being?  It’s a dog-eat-dog world and they are only willing to focus on numero uno.
  7. The Controller.  This person is always looking for ways to keep you right where they want you; under their thumb.  They must know where you are, what you are doing and who’s company you are keeping.  The controller by nature plants seeds of distrust due to their high levels of insecurity.  Run!
  8. Mrs. Arrogant.  The arrogant person downplays the achievements, possessions and qualities of others in order to protect their limited worldview and lack of experience.  The arrogant person acts and reacts from a place of deep insecurity and will act out aggressively when cornered.  They must look the best, must be the center of attention and must have the best.
  9. The Materialistic.  Materialism might be the surest sign of a shallow person.  This person’s sole focus in life is to wear the latest and most expensive clothes, jewelry, perfume/cologne and loves to show off their stuff!  Nothing is too big and nothing costs too much!  Their self-worth is anchored in the possessions that they own.
  10. The Constant Victim.  The victim might be the most frustrating person to deal with as they demand lots of your energy and time.  Their story is the same over and over: someone or something has screwed them over.  They accept no responsibility in the events of their life, always casting blame for failure or mishaps on others.  They will bleed your energy reserves bone dry.
  11. The Liar.  This person can be difficult to identify.  The liar has made a life of weaving webs of deceit and rarely speaks the straight truth.  They can lie about the simplest things, even when the truth would benefit them more.  The problem with the liar is their character is like Swiss cheese: full of holes.  And their low character makes them prone to more serious character offenses.

(I frequent AskDr.Darcy.com as a research tool as she has people write in and she answers the reader; kind of a modern version of Dear Abby only with a Masters degree and PhD!!   Anyway, click the link and see what she has to say about toxic friends and the way they drain your life-energy.)

These are just a few of the types of people that I have had personal experience with that I eventually eliminated from my life.  In the end we must have positive, successfully-minded people in our inner-circle.  If not you will waste time and energy dealing with the shenanigans of people that do not have your best interest in mind.

If you practice speaking less and listening more you will be able to more easily identify these types of people.  And as Maya Angelou said: “When someone shows you who they are, believe them; the first time.”

If you have enjoyed my post today take a quick moment to share with your friends on Facebook or Twitter by clicking the Share button!


54 thoughts on “11 Types of People to Avoid Like the Plague

  1. This list covers it! Although it is using layman’s terms instead of psychology related linguistics, it does an excellent job of covering some of the most toxic types of people we can find ourselves tethered to. It also can help to examine the list, and see if you (the reader) exhibit any of the tendencies listed as well and try to improve upon your own behaviors and habits.

    Thanks for sharing this Danny! Xoxox M

    1. Great perspective in using the list to evaluate ourselves for these qualities. So often we view and judge others but are very slow to judge ourselves! Great thought!

      1. Yes! Evelina has class today so I am going to take my tablet and go write in the park. The Carolinas are beautiful this time of year: 80’s with low humidity!! Perfect fall, park weather.

      1. Exactly! IF these types were associated with pets, I would have reblogged this, as is, if I had done that, I suspect my followers would have wondered why this excellent information was on a pet-care blog.

      2. Very valid thought! It has often been a joke around here that Purrseidon loves water so much because I spend so much time writing The Sea Purrtector books and she is picking up on some subconscious thoughts – this may or may not be valid, but I can see how an actual toxic personality would affect everyone around them, just like a rotten apple in a fruit bowl.

  2. On the one hand, I see the unmet emotional needs of all these types of people, and I know that I was once one or more of these labels. I was lucky enough to have certain people in my life who never gave up on me, but continually tried to encourage me and build me up. If it wasn’t for them, I would have most likely committed suicide.

    However, unless one is emotionally healthy themselves, they cannot help others to heal. Therefore, I would encourage everyone to not simply dump their “toxic” friends, but to limit contact and first heal themselves. Then, reach out from a place of experience, empathy, and caring, and bring those people up to your level. Without healers, none of us would be healed. But the healer can’t heal until they themselves are healed 😉

    1. i can see your point of view. My hesitation is those that are incorrigible. At what point do you decide enough is enough? I can say that my latest experience has been dealing with a manipulator. I have never known a manipulator to rehabilitate. And even if they do, how do you truly know they are speaking straight-forward versus working an angle? There does come a time when one decides they simply cannot deal with the drama any longer, unfortunately.

    2. Also, the intent of the post was not to simply dump toxic friends. The inferred intent was coming from the angle of having known someone for a long enough period of time that the conversations have been had encouraging them to change. Friends infers more than acquaintance and also represents enough years to have grown tired of the shenanigans. And I have personally never known any of these 11 to rehabilitate. With that said, every person has to judge their own situations and also judge if it is time to cut bait. Personally, I just grew tired of constantly propping these types of people up and I am a very compassionate person. They simply wear me out.

      1. Completely understandable. I’m the daughter of a narcissistic mother. I was a very angry, bitter, selfish, person whom I would not want to be friends with. I changed. Looking back at my old Facebook posts is bitter sweet, because I feel sorry for the people who put up with me, but so very grateful they did.

        How much is too much? An individual must decide that for themselves. I went no contact with my mother twice, and it was very healing for me. Now I have very minimal contact. Yes, she still hurts me with her words and actions at times. But I have a great support system to turn to when she does. I may decide in the future to cut ties again. Maybe I’m too optimistic, but I believe we are all capable of change and growth. But without an example to follow, how will we change? How will we grow?

        This is a thought-provoking post for me, thank you for taking time to discuss it further!

      2. I am so happy for you that you were able to rehabilitate yourself, with the help of your supporting cast. You are fortunate to have listened to those around you. I tried to “fix” toxic friends for years and they were not self-aware.
        I love discussing these issues because it allows me to see a different perspective than my own. I never want to assume I am right.

  3. Fantastic food for thought! Valuable comments, too. I have a wonky internet connection (grabbing bits from thin air…). Otherwise I would reblog this in hopes of continuing the conversation. It is an important conversation to have. Your blog is rich with this quality content! Thank you for all that you pour into it.

    1. Diane, your words mean more than you know! I appreciate that you find something in my posts that you can take with out in life. Thank you thank you thank you!!

  4. Hi Danny,
    I hope this is an okay place to write you. My 6th Meet and Greet is suddenly getting a lot of traffic this weekend. I’d recently given you my link. Do you have a list of Meet and Greets you had written you might publish? Can I have the link if you do? I follow you but never saw it Thanks.

  5. Very thorough and very well done. The Victim – I have found – is the one I most difficult to communicate positive affirmations because it is against the being of victimhood. Thank you for sharing. You are appreciated.

  6. Wow ..think I know most of these and avoid if I can but thank you for sharing this ..it seems to be the day for sharing and reblogging…as today is meet and greet I will reblog you tomoz….. promise…. 🙂

Leave a Reply

%d bloggers like this: