How to Keep the Spark in Your Relationship Vibrant

My mind was inspired yesterday by a post I read on A New Perspective Perhaps.  Sometimes I get overly focused on the goals I want to achieve.  What I mean is that I get so focused on the goal that I forget about the reasons behind the goal. One of the reasons behind everything I do is my wife, Evelina.  Too often, I am networking on WordPress or making a video or speaking at an engagement or volunteering or generally developing the Dream Big brand.

And my work takes away from my relationship with my wife.  This is not a good thing and many of us do it.

Life balance is not easy for me and never has been.  I am very type A and become very single-minded, zeroing in on one particular task and zoning out.  Have you ever done this or been guilty?

My thought today has been about how many of us commit ourselves to our profession or occupation and neglect our families. I am guessing this attitude contributes to the 50% divorce rate in the U.S.  Many of my friends that I’ve asked about their divorce say the same thing: “We just grew apart.”  My guy friends that are honest usually site working too much or never being home due to business as a contributor to their failed relationship.

Any successful relationship takes a tremendous amount of work.  I am not an easy person to be around so my wife has to work overtime!  All jokes aside, relationships will die if not nurtured and cared for and that is where we most often fail.

To combat my inability to multitask Evelina and I have decided that we are going to our local park and walk every day.  It is a great way for us to spend time together, get out in the fresh air and exercise a bit.  Mostly though it is great to get out and hold hands and walk together.  We talk, laugh, wonder, reminisce, anticipate, love.  And it is nice.

My challenge for you is to take a few moments and think of something you can do today to surprise your significant other. Maybe flowers, a hand-written letter or note, a visit to the park, a surprise date or maybe all of the above!

Love those in your life and appreciate having them.  Tomorrow could see things change.

Just a thought for a Saturday morning…


12 thoughts on “How to Keep the Spark in Your Relationship Vibrant

  1. It’s a good reminder. Between work, kids, blogging and chores it’s hard to find the balance and I’m so totally guilty of not being able to get that balance. Walking is good, so is a couple of wine to wind down after the kids go to bed for some quality time! 😊

  2. Thank you for this reminder. It is important to also remember that the people we care about in our lives have their own set of goals to pursue, we cannot expect them to know what we are doing, we have to tell them ourselves. =)

    1. I guess this is the “work” part of relationships, right?! Evelina and I have been taking a walk together every day. It’s nice and quiet, peaceful. It’s nice to talk

      1. We went to an outdoor relaxed restaurant and had a few drinks last Sunday. It’s the first time in a while we just sat and talked and shared some genuine laughs. Those moments are awesome, when we can forget about the outside world and just be in our own world. That time is precious and necessary 😉

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