Why You Should Be Careful About Who You Label a ‘Friend’

Several months ago I wrote about being careful with the people with which you surround yourself; control your friend group. Do you know who your true friends are?  Not acquaintances, but true-blue friends.  “Go to bat for you no matter what” friends. “Tell you the truth no matter what” friends.  Not social buddies, but true friends.

photo 3Life has a way of weeding people out and revealing those that have our best interest in mind.  Time eventually shows the truth in individuals.  I came across an article by Kelly O’Brien a couple of days ago titled “Want to Know Who Your True Friends Are?”  In that article a couple paragraphs struck me dead solid:

You may never know who your true friends are until life throws you an unwelcome curveball. When this happens and the friends or family you thought would help carry you through don’t, you go through stages of grief. It’s devastating. As time passes, you can either be resentful, bitter and heartbroken, or you can be so incredibly thankful that you’ve learned a valuable life lesson.

I encourage you to do the latter. The people who DO step forward to be by your side are your true friends. You’re blessed to find out who these people are, so love them up. Some people will never have this luxury; they’ll spend their entire lives surrounded by people who aren’t their true friends. Be grateful and cherish your true blue friends, and put your effort into these relationships now.

I can honestly say that becoming more sick and dealing with the limitations from my MS has revealed this truth in my life. People come and go, but friends are there no matter what.  I am learning that friends are a very rare commodity and can be counted on a couple fingers.  If you don’t believe that then get diagnosed with a disease and watch them slowly fade into the sunset.

My challenge for you is to take a long, hard look at those in your life.  It is up to you to decide who you allow to have influence in your life and it is up to you to control your inner circle.  Don’t be fooled, you can ride your true friends on the back of a motorcycle, not in a school bus.

Just a thought for a Wednesday morning…

p.s. Click Here to read the original post by Kelly O’Brien


14 thoughts on “Why You Should Be Careful About Who You Label a ‘Friend’

  1. Lot of truth here. A person is lucky indeed if they have “true blue” friends. I know the grieving part – maybe someday I’ll be blessed too. Thanks for posting this.

  2. This is so very true. What’s often difficult for me is to make new friends, since I’ve been “burned” before. It makes me skeptical of their intentions or sincerity. I often wish for that time in my youth when “friends” were easier to make and keep.

    1. When we were kids, friendship started with one simple question…”Would you like to play?” or “Would you like to be my friend?” Kids have it all figured out then we grow up and over-complicate things. lol

  3. This is so true. Fortunately, for me I found out who my true friends are by moving hundreds of miles away from all of my family and friends which revealed who cares and how much. I’m thankful that a positive change in my life revealed this. Cherish those you have!


    1. You are fortunate to know! My MS is revealing the same truth. It simply reclassifies those that are there versus those that are convenient associates, if that makes sense.

  4. So very true…unfortunately, besides my husband and my sisters, I have been burned too many times…so I have never found a true friend out there..here’s hoping one day it will happen 🙂

    1. I have never really put so much stock in another person that I was “burned” as you have expressed. I’m not so sure that is a good thing, it simply is what it is. I slowly let people in over a very long period of time. So if there are warning signs the person probably hasn’t infiltrated my life. I have 2 friends and my wife.

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