I have been thinking about something I wrote a week or so ago about an exercise a college professor had us do to gain perspective on a topic: argue the opposite of your belief. So I thought I would write an article on why it is not necessary to do anything that relates to self-improvement or personal development. I am also not going to edit this, it will be honest and freely associated. I have no clue how this is going to turn out, but here goes anyway:
Too many people think it is necessary to continue to work on themselves. Why can’t we just appreciate where we are, who we are and what we are in the moment. So many people are focused on the future that they completely miss the present. What if, while planning this super awesome future, you died and missed out on life right here, right now? I am reminded of the John Lennon line “Life is what happens to you while you’re busy making other plans.”
Plus, shouldn’t we accept ourselves for who we are. If I’m a little overweight and that’s the way I want to be, then so be it. If I don’t make a lot of money, but I am content, then so be it. If I don’t like or have no desire to exercise then so be it. Life isn’t always about me trying to be a greater version of myself. What if I like me for exactly who I am, exactly the way I am?
Companies are constantly attacking our self-confidence with advertising, inferring that we are not good enough, smart enough, happy enough, pretty enough until we buy their product. Then we will be happy. Then we will be pretty. Then we will have tons of friends and be popular.
Then you have websites encouraging us to “Do These 5 Things in Order to Achieve Happiness.” If I spent my time online reading all the advice on how to make me happy I would’ve missed out on my trip to the balloon festival. Now that is living life. I saw friends I haven’t seen in over a year, breathed in some incredible fall air and got to see hundreds of balloons in the air!
But back to the “me being me” talk. Why is it necessary for me to change? Why should I have to make more money? Why do I need to listen to anyone that says I am not okay just the way I am? Isn’t life going to happen regardless? And I will change in time so why put so much effort into it?
Why do I have to have this elaborate plan? Why do people keep telling me I have to have goals? I don’t have to do anything. What if I just want to work my job, hang out with my friends and be okay with that?
I have zero desire to conquer the world. All I want to do is enjoy my little bit of peace and quiet on this little rock as it spins around the universe. If people around me would just accept me for who I am it would make my life a whole lot less dramatic AND a whole lot easier.
I am okay with my spot in life. I like my friends. I like my job. I like where I live. So why can’t everyone else be okay with it also?
How would you counter this viewpoint if this was debate class?