Why I Am So Positive: My Life Ain’t That Bad

I had a question posed to me this week: how are you always so positive considering you have secondary progressive MS?  Well the truth is I don’t live my life in a continuous state of positivity.  I write a blog that focuses on learning how to transform oneself from an under-achiever, non-doer into a personimages (1) of organization, purpose, plan and action; full of desire and ambition.  It takes a lot of work to remain positive.

Honestly, I am more positive now in life because the alternative is not acceptable.  I will not allow myself to go to the dark side and focus on how crappy life can be, how crappy people can be, how I hate my job, how life just keeps putting it to me.  I just refuse to allow my mind to think it those terms.

Why?  Because I choose to focus very little on the negative, while focusing heavily on the positive as I work toward achieving my goals.

This does not mean I am not aware of the negatives.  I do not live my life with my head buried in the sand.  I simply will not allow myself to use valuable life energy to focus on negatives.  It is not productive, thus I find productive things on which to focus.

It is not easy and takes much effort to live a life focusing on the positive.  Part of me wants to give in and just become negative.  I do not talk about my MS, too often.  I do not complain about my MS pain, too often.  I do not complain about not playing golf anymore, too often.  I do not complain about having to take my Copaxone shot 3 times per week, too often.

I think many people would understand if I did complain.  AND I know a lot of chronic sufferers that complain incessantly, most of whom I give a hall pass because I know what it feels like to hurt.  But I will not give in.  I will not relent.  I choose to fight.  I choose to stay positive.  I choose my mentality.  I choose my future!

I am positive because it is the one thing I get to control. 

To those that live a life of negativity I say: suck it up buttercup.  I bet there’s a kid in a third-world country that would give a limb to switch places with you and do it without hesitation.  We have it easy in civilized societies; we are so incredibly spoiled. Most of us suffer from first-world problems and act as if the world is coming to an end.

ProblemsWe don’t have to walk 5 miles one way to carry back dirty water to our families.  Water that will kill millions of kids each year.  We don’t have to worry about polio, AIDS, diphtheria, measles, deadly enfluenza, lions, tigers or bears!  Seriously, the next time you start complaining, stop and listen to yourself.  What are you complaining about?  Take action, change your position, change your future.  You have the freedom to do so.

You ARE the answer to your own problems; start acting like it.

Why do I choose to remain positive?  Because I live in a country that allows me to write a blog to help others.  I live in a country where I can speak to MS patients and let them know someone cares.  I live in a country that allows me to turn my life into whatever I want it to be.

Why do I choose to remain positive?  Because when all is said and done, my life ain’t that bad!


40 thoughts on “Why I Am So Positive: My Life Ain’t That Bad

  1. I love that you choose to be positive because that is one thing in your control. We can’t choose what happens to us, but we can choose how we react to these things. I found your blog on the Follow to Follow Directory and will enjoy following you.

    1. It is so great to meet Jackie! I love Michael’s idea. I spoke with him yesterday morning about some of the things he has going on. And this conversation is why I love the Directory; it brings people together. I will come to your site today and read up!

  2. I love this Danny!! I work very hard at living a positive life. It would be easier to go over to the dark side of negativity…actually, I’ve been there and for me, it’s an unacceptable way to live. Things happen, some good and some not so good, it’s your choice as to how you deal with them….I try and choose the positive route!

    1. I am in the same boat. I was the definition of negative. Evelina sat me down and told me something had to give. My mind had become to pessimistic. It was miserable!

      1. …..the worst part was misery loves company…I found myself surrounded with like minded, miserable, negative people, watching negative horrible things on tv…(I was a crime show junkie). I didn’t realize how bad it was until I moved down here…..I credit beach soul strolls for helping me break free…it wasn’t easy, and it’s always gong to be a work in progress, but I’m more mindful of it now……..

      2. The beach is my haven as well. We have a house near Myrtle Beach, SC and I love going in the off season and taking long walks to clear the mind. There’s no one on the beach and I can sit and watch the ocean for hours! It just clears out the junk.

  3. I always like how you radiate positive energy. This reminds me of a story about a woman who kept grumbling to God that her cross was too heavy and she wants a lighter one. God granted her an opportunity to go into the store house of crosses and exchange hers for a lighter one. She dropped her cross in a huge pile and started trying out every other cross which were all too heavy for her to carry. She went round until she picked up this cross that felt like the right size and happily went to tell God that she has found the right sized cross. God smiled and asked her to check out the name at the bottom. She did and found out it was her original cross. She took it and left quietly with a change of heart.

  4. Your post inspires me. I live in Massachusetts, where we have had a wonderful summer with lots of sunshine and warm temperatures. The fall too has been pretty amazing, but we all know that winter is coming and I dread the cold and snow. Thinking about the change of seasons has caused me to be in a serious funk. Thanks for sharing your positivity so that I remember what is truly important: family, my health, friends, the world around me.

    I remember a friend who used to say, “How lucky you are that by accident of birth you were born in America.” It’s a land with infinite possibilities and choices. You have chosen life.

  5. I have really been enjoying your blog, I hope you don’t mind but I’ve nominated you for
    The Bloggers Recognition Award. 🙂

    The Rules:

    Select 15 other blogs you want to give the award to. You cannot nominate yourself or the person who has nominated you
    Give a brief story of how your blog got started
    Give a piece or two of advice to new bloggers
    Thank whoever nominated you, and provide a link to their blog
    List those you’ve nominated in the post and comment on their blogs to let them know you’ve nominated them.

  6. It’s really true. We have a beautiful life to live. We are blessed with the power to turn dvery negative aspects of our life into a positive, then why worry. We should think forward and alliw ourselves to see the brighter side of our life.

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