Warning, semi-rant ahead:
I was reading tonight as I allowed a show to play in the background. Sometimes having something else going on as I read allows my brain to kick into hyper-drive. Reading tonight reminded me of my mindset from not so long ago.
I was once a negative thinker. I now see that it was partially caused by dealing with the general public while working retail. I once said that working retail made me hate people, but the truth is people made me hate people. I am getting off course early here so I will self-correct…
My point is that I was a negative person. I still have tendencies, but I am much brighter now and happier than I was when I allowed myself to be negative. People suck, life is hell, I hate my job…and then you die. That was the gist of the note that prompted my thought.
Want to know the truth from a reformed negative thinker? Your mindset is a choice. As a negative thinker I masked my negativity with “I’m a realist.” That is all crap. Negative thinking is a learned pattern as a habit it a learned behavior.
I know because I reformed my thinking.
You don’t have to reform your mind. You can continue to be a negative, Debbie Downer, but stop flicking your boogers on the rest of us.
Being a more positive thinker does not mean that I smile at funerals. It does not mean that I turn the other cheek. It doesn’t mean that I am happy all day and all night. It doesn’t mean I don’t get mad. It doesn’t mean I don’t cry. I am not turning cartwheels as the world crumbles around me. I do not wear rose colored glasses.
Being a more positive person is simply a product of me realizing that if I didn’t curb my behavior and my thinking that I stood zero chance of finding the success I wanted personally and professionally. I looked at my life and the things I didn’t have; namely joy.
I realized that my crappy life was the result of my crappy thinking. Now you don’t have to accept this into your life, but it is the truth and the sooner you realize it the better off you will be.
It was easier for me to continue being negative than is was for me to change…so I chose the easy route and remained negative.
You can stand on a soapbox and declare to the world that the sky is falling, but the scary truth is the world is not coming to an end. You are going to be on this little rock for quite sometime so you better settle in and get comfortable. And possibly consider adjusting your attitude.
You think your life is worse off than the rest of us? Are you so vain to think that your plight exceeds the plight of humanity. You are no martyr my friend; you are simply confused. Everyone has awful things happen; it’s part of life.
I have MS. I don’t sit around and complain about it. This disease might end up putting me in a wheel chair; and in rare instances it kills! If I wanted to, I could ride my a** around in a wheelchair and no one would question me. But instead, I get out and speak to raise awareness to companies like Lowe’s Home Improvement, 2nd Harvest Food Bank, MS support groups.
I CHOOSE MY MINDSET. I CHOOSE MY FUTURE. I CHOOSE TO BE POSITIVE.
Your negative mindset is going to continue to produce negativity in your life. Having a positive mindset is not always going to produce positive results but it will produce more positive results than the alternative.
As a reformed Negative Ninny I am here to tell you the truth. You are in control of your mind and if you have a choice, why would you not choose success over negativity.
I am glad I did.