One of my new favorite websites is AskDrDarcy. She allows readers to write in and she answers their questions or addresses their issues. I click on the sidebar category of “Friends” and found this situation involving a drama queen friend. I have known these types of people and they require way too much of my time and energy.
Dear Dr. Darcy:
My best friend always has her panties in a twist over someone or something. She’s always fighting with one of our friends, always pissed off at someone or causing someone to get mad at her. She shares her business (aka, talks shit) with anyone who will listen and almost never asks about anyone else’s life. I’ve seen about six friends part ways with her in the two years that we’ve been very close and I’m beginning to see why they do it (I’m a slow learner). I really think I finally need some…continue reading.
Cut the ties, pay the alimony 🙂 and move on very fast. Draining relationships can be so time consuming.
They can be very draining! I wasted a lot of years of energy propping up a drama queen. Every week it seemed like there was something new. Wore me out!
I can very well imagine. After a while I simply lapse into silence.
I simply removed myself slowly. Eventually they were gone.
When I was in college, I was associated with one of my classmates, who was a drama queen, period. Everything revolved around her. We got together to do some joint study and then after some time, it reached a very bad situation. When I tried to get out, there was big time drama and blaming and yelling, – you name it , it was there. I remembered this when I read this and I agree it was very draining.
Susie
Distancing from friends for any reason can be tough, but in the overall scheme of life we are better suited to have positive influences, right?!
It really is not tough- it is as tough as we want to make it to be- but distancing oneself from family can be tough.
Family does make it much more difficult.
Have recently the cut the ties with a drama queen friend. Her constant drama and mood swings made me weary and exhausted. Looking back I am glad although feel a bit sad. I just know that some people drain you and you have to sometimes have to look after number one.
Usually distance brings relief and perspective. I feel bad for those that have a drama queen in their life but continue to allow the energy siphon to occur.
Danny
Sometimes, that drama queen happens to be in your own family. Breaking those ties is a bit harder, but saves you in the end. ☺
I was just thinking about this fact when responding to another comment. I agree, distancing yourself from a drama queen family member can be tough. I have a blog friend that had this going on and her way of dealing with it was to only be around the person when required and to wear invisible ear muffs when around: in one ear, out the other.
Danny