Talking About Fat Gets Me in Trouble Every Time: My Healthy Living Update

The topic that gets me in the  most trouble with some readers is obesity.  I am not sure why this one gets more outrageous response than debt, organized living or charitable living, but it does.



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It seems when I express my opinion/fact that being overweight can be dangerous and that carrying around too much fat increases the chance of heart disease and other health-related issues, people lose their minds.  Am I speaking an untruth?  Or has the political correctness mentality of the age gotten to the point that telling my readers facts about health is considered body shaming?

And before we get too far in this conversation here is my disclaimer: my comments are based on non-medically related health conditions.

The simple truth is you can live your life however you want!

You can live in debt.  You can live the life of a hoarder.  You can eat as much as you want whenever you want.  I don’t care!  Your life is your life.  BUT, there will be consequences.

Is it a fact that too much fat around vital organs is dangerous?  Yes.

Is it a fact that too much fat on the human body raises the chances of disease?  Yes.

Is it a fact that too much fat on the human body increases the chances of high blood pressure?  Yes.

Is it a fact that too much fat on the human body statistically shortens life span?  Yes.

Is obesity a choice?  In most instances, Yes.

Do I really care if you decide to carry around too much fat on your body?  No.

I am not telling anyone that they must change their life.  What I espouse are changes you can make IF you choose to do so.  There is a huge difference.

Living a healthy lifestyle has nothing directly to do with weight!  This is an assumption that many make and it could not be less accurate.  Living a healthy lifestyle has to do with becoming more active, making better food choices and consulting with your doctor to monitor your body for disease.  Your doctor can direct you as to what you should weigh based on your body fat percentage and your body type.

Ultimately, your life is yours to live.  I learned a long time ago that I don’t have time to spend trying to convince people to do something they don’t want to do.  Therefore, I invest my time in those that have decided that their values align with my values.

Even with all of this said, I will get emails from “outraged” readers.  It happens every single time. “Obesity is not a choice.”  “I have no control over my body type.”  But what doesn’t happen is a reasonable objection to what I have stated here. And, by the way, the facts that I usually list are not my opinion, but facts printed and documented by the American Medical Association.

I encourage, but do not demand, that people take care of their bodies.  Whatever that means to you so be it.

Your life, mentality and perspective are better when you exercise, eat healthier foods and practice better preventative health maintenance.  Fact?  Yes.

scaleweightRecently as most of you are aware I began to refocus my health after gaining a few pounds from the holidays.  I weighed in on January 8 at 185.6 pounds.  I am happy to report that I weighed-in yesterday, January 18, (Monday is my habitual weigh-in day) at 181.2!  Nice little 4 pound week!

Here are a few of the habit changes I have made since January 8:

  1. Introduced more fruits and nuts to my eating habits.
  2. Drinking more water
  3. Snacking on cottage cheese and lowfat yogart
  4. Eating more home prepared meals
  5. Introduced more veggies
  6. Tracking my food intake with my LoseIt app.
  7. Tracking my progress with a Monday weigh-in.

You will notice that my habit changes do not focus on things I am trying to quit.  I have adopted the approach written about in The Power of Habit by Charles Duhigg and instead focus on the positive habits I want to implement.  I easily could have included “stopped eating candy” or “stopped eating fast food.”  The mind that focuses on trying to quit anything will only focus on the action with which it is trying to quit!

Instead, focus to replace the unwanted or undesirable habit with something positive or desirable. In my instance, the positive habits are eating more veggies, fruits and legumes and tracking these efforts with my app.  This mindset creates personal responsibility that will, in time, strengthen my resistance to junk foods and sodas.

I still have sour candy; I just don’t eat 10 pounds per week.  I will still have an occasional burger; just not every week.  All things in moderation.

The life you want to live is right in front of you, but it must be designed.  You must have a plan for exactly who you want to be, what you want to have and what you are willing to give. Without a plan you will live aimlessly and your results will vary drastically!





89 thoughts on “Talking About Fat Gets Me in Trouble Every Time: My Healthy Living Update

  1. It’s just that a lot of people cannot face their own reality sometimes. When people stop making excuses for themselves, they will find that things will change. Unfortunately, most never do. Like you I have started changing habits, not necessarily changing what I eat. Just how much I eat. Keep writing all you write, I love to read it!!

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  2. Danny,
    First congratulations on your quick weight loss by simple additions to your life – I mean, the addition of positivity to your life.
    I have been sick, so diet is gone meaning I am not eating anything. When I recover, I hope to have a plan ready. I like the advice that you give because I know you mean well and want everyone to get the same benefits that you get from making lifestyle changes- and I agree with you, obesity is more or less, self made.
    I thank the day I met you in Blog Land( I think it was in August) when you increased the number of my followers by 50 overnight.
    You are doing good, Danny and we all need you and to hear you.

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  3. Kudos for tackling tough subjects. With one-third of the US population obese, the odds are that a large number of your readers will feel angry when you show them the facts they don’t want to face. It’s self-anger, but much easier to direct it at you. Keep it up though, for some number of your readers will be inspired to finally tackle the eating behaviors that have taken them where they are now. Sadly, you may never be made aware of your contributions. But keep on anyway. It’s the right thing to do.

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    • Jerry, thank you for your encouragement. My new least favorite politically correct term now is “body shaming.” As the AMA has documented, 1 in 3 women will die every year due to heart disease, with most of those deaths attributed directly to non-medical obesity. It is a shame.

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  4. Great post Danny, we always like reading them; what you speak of is not an untruth, just apt. Yes, a ‘healthy’ lifestyle is multifaceted and is not directly depicted by your weight. Just think about how many people are thin and not necessarily ‘healthy’. A lot of people do not like facing change and/or hearing about how their lifestyle choices are less than ideal. Implementing realistic and positive changes (a healthy mind set) is the only way to go; most people would be fooling themselves if they said they could permanently cut out all processed food items from their diet. We just all have to take some personal responsibility every now and then. Thanks for sharing! 🙂

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    • Personal responsibility is the key. Two days ago I was craving fast food, terrible I know. But I went online and Googled a few chains to view the nutritional info. Big Mac-563 cal., fries-510. 1073 calories for those two things. My daily allotment is only 2000!!!! That’s half in one meal. Some people eat fast food every day!

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      • Exactly. Cravings happen; well done for going out of your way to gain ‘informed consent’! The food industry and/or companies are good at hiding or more so discouraging people from finding out what they don’t want us to know, e.g. having to go online to find out nutritional values! Yes, some people blindly eat fast food every day! There was a BBC article lately discussing whether our food labels should actualise energy values. Maybe we need that further perspective? It’s definitely worth exploring. We’re sure that if the label said: one portion= 30 laps around a football pitch, most people would give that unhealthy snack a miss!

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  5. Everyone, and I mean, everyone knows how to lose weight. Eat less. Move more. Period.

    It’s sad to me that when you speak simple truths, Danny, folks get offended. Yes, there is certainly a psychological component to weight gain. So many use food for comfort, some to replace love, ease stess, etc. If you can get to the cause of your overeating, there is much healing to be done. The weight will come off then, but it all comes down to the original 2 rules….Eat less, move more.

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    • It is a simple formula for success. In the past, the emotional addiction to food has been brought up. I explained that they needed to seek help for their addiction and they scoffed at the idea and said “it’s not that easy.” Some people simply don’t want to work.

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  7. In most cases, it is a choice. I know so many overweight people (myself included) who eat without exercising and make poor food choices. People need to own how they got to the place of unhealthy and work to be healthier. I’m not saying a size 6 because you may never be a size 6, but you should be healthy and have healthy eating habits.

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    • I recommend people visit their doctor and work out a plan that will get you the results you want. He or she can tell you what you should weigh ideally AND help design a food regimen to help you find success. Ultimately, the individual must want health more than donuts. I use donuts as an example because I had one this morning! lol

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  8. I have recently started making a change myself. I can’t use the excuse that I had a baby- 7 years ago to be exact, and think it’s okay. Yet I have HBP and acid reflux and love to eat. But, instead of me saying I’m dieting, I say I’m making a healthy change. It helps keep a healthy lifestyle. Also, I heard some people mentioning that if a person want to lose weight and maintain it that they should become a vegan. It’s not for me but I will eat better and do better. Congrats to you and thanks for posting this! It’s very encouraging!

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  11. I’m in the same boat as you. It annoys me that people are ignoring the facts and get offended when talking about obesity. But it is dangerous, and it is a choice (usually).
    But you are also right in saying that it is up to anyone how they deal with it. Their life is theirs and mine is mine.
    I also love your approach to losing some weight, doing so by focusing on the positive rather than the negative! I’m a natural optimist and positivity is basically what I teach, but in all honesty – I had never thought of this before! Thank you for sharing.

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  12. Great post, all very true (literally). And way to go with your new habits and loss of 4 pounds! I do get (to a very small point) where some people come from with the “I can’t help my body type” for the last 3 years I’ve been battling an extra 35 pounds (25 of it that I gained in about 2 months time out of nowhere) and I am an active person, I eat well- anywhere from 60-80% of the time and yet I have not only not lost weight but I’ve continued to gain weight. My thyroid is fine… It’s definitely strange, but I still workout, and I still continue to do whatever I can to reduce the weight and to be “healthy” because that is the choice I’ve made, even if the scale only minimally changes. I wish more people could understand what you mean when you write about weight and still making healthy choices!!

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  13. Reblogged this on Aaron Elmore and commented:
    I really like the idea of creating new habits through positive action, as opposed to trying to STOP actions as that will just draw your attention to them. Definitely going to try it out myself.

    Here is a great post about making choices when it comes to obesity and physical fitness. It makes for some interesting reading.

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  14. Hi,
    Found you through Jason’s blig (opinionated Man). This is exactly my approach to a healthier lifestyle, no elimination just sensible moderation. Although I have been able to cut out soda and fast food from my diet completely, I do like to enjoy sweets and burgers, moderately of course. Your post has motivated me to stick to my plans which have been gone off track a little recently. Thank you!

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  15. I think you should read my post from a few months back on this subject:

    Just keep in mind, that a lot of women are aware of heart disease today thanks to better education. But while I am “fat” and will always be defined as so by a lot of people’s terms my heart is in better condition than a lot of people with less weight around the middle.

    You are lucky that you can lose. Weight is part genetic and environmental, and the balance between the two differs from person to person.

    I know for me I get tired of talking about my weight and my lifestyle because people take one look at me and assume that I am not doing enough to take off weight.

    With healthy choices also comes compassionate and empathetic support for others. It also means we also sometimes need to reflect on our biases as well.

    Just a thought.

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    • I understand that completely. But not enough people are paying attention to what they eat or the country wouldn’t be in the midst of an obesity epidemic. I am always careful to speak for no one but myself and I am always careful to explain that it really doesn’t bother me how people decide to live their lives. If they decide to make better choices then so be it, if not I am okay with that too. Ultimately, someone will email me, tell me they are 6′ tall, weigh 450 pounds and sell me a “I eat healthy” bill of goods. The fitness expert and doctor I consult with have explained to me that there are a few instances where a medical condition contributes directly to someone physical condition. I don’t dispute these facts and feel awful for what they must go through. But every single person, and I mean every single person, that has ever emailed me has brought up some medical issue. Now is it possible that all of my emailers have medical conditions? Absolutely. Is it also possible that some don’t, but use that as an excuse? Absolutely. Only the individual knows this for fact. But my experience with people tells me that we are quick to jump to excuses. And lastly, I recall your post as it has stuck in my memory and I use your post often in my outlining session to make sure I am not demanding of people to change. But I want to remind everyone that reads this comment that I clearly stated in the beginning of my post that weight is a secondary concern to living a healthy lifestyle. The second part of my post was about me refocusing on my weight. Two different discussions. With all that said, that’s why I encourage people to partner with their doctor to formulate a plan based on his/her expertise and what they think is best for the individual. That is very important.

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      • Totally agree that starting conversations with your doctor is important. That also goes for the “skinny” people too.

        I have seen people on the other side of the obesity epidemic who use the excuse of well I am not “fat” or I am not “obese” to be a reason not to exercise or eat healthy. I think it’s a health epidemic more than a weight epidemic.

        And popularizing fad diets and miraculous weight loss by celebrities who have no business giving opinions makes people falsely believe that it would be easy to shed pounds. I think that is why people get discouraged, why can a Kardashian lose 20 pounds while I struggle to lose 2. And I think you are right when you say it’s because we don’t want to have honest conversations about how hard it is. We want to see physical transformations rather than the physiological and mental transformations that have to occur long before any fitness goal is met.

        I hope you know I value your opinion

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      • I agree on all points! One of the reasons I refer to healthy living is because “skinny” doesn’t necessarily mean healthy as you stated! It is a touchy subject for sure. This is a great discussion. I hope others see this in the comments and jump in.

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      • No offense taken. I hope you know I wasn’t trying to be either.

        But I have gotten plenty of comments about my size by people who have no concept of how hard I work and struggle. I don’t have a medical condition but I do have a lot of genetic factors working against me. And as my doctor pointed out because weight is polygenic, we haven’t yet begun to understand all of the genetic mechanisms behind weight

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  17. Personally I think when people think of being over weight they think of a size 16 or 18 who while may be big could run a marathon because they are healthy. I am all for the big bones sort of excuse. And so people get up in arms But being massively overweight is normally a sympton of not eating healthy and not exercising. My dad always says you weigh what you eat, and certainly in my case that is true, I have put on 2 stone over 6-8 months because of the amount I put in my mouth (in my case it was wine not food but it still stands) I also maybe think that more emphasise needs to be put on health eating rather than being too big because as someone else mentioned being too thin is also a major problem

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