10 Lies You Tell Yourself That Keep You From Your Goals

Here is a list of 10 lies you tell yourself that keep you from your goals:

1.  I am too old/it is too late.  It is never too late to do the right thing and it is never too late to chase your dreams!  The longer you procrastinate the older you will be when you begin…so begin now. Lots of people look back on life with regrets…don’t be one of those people.

2.  I need to save up money.  I can say this is at the top of most people’s excuse/lie list.  You can create “extra” money right now if you eliminate lots of unnecessary spending: Starbucks, cable tv, satellite radio, expensive or multiple car payments, etc.  You don’t need more money, you need a better budget!

3.  It’s safer to work for someone else if I am not interested in owning my own business.  I guess that is one way to look at life.  Here’s another: your future is never safe when someone else has the power to terminate you!  “If you do not build your dream, then someone else will hire you to help build theirs!” –  Dhirubhai Ambani

 

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4.  It’s not the right time.  Those that have kids know there is never a perfect time in life to have kids and so it is with dream chasing.  If you wait on perfect timing, you will find yourself waiting your entire life.

5.  I can’t afford to fail.  Do yourself a favor and Google the top 10 wealthiest, self-made people.  Their careers are littered with failed businesses and bankruptcies.  Failing is the greatest teacher. And although failing might be part of the game, it is not the end of the game.

6.  I’m not smart enough.  If this lie is in your mind, then add an additional step to your plan: get more education.  Enroll in a night class at your local community college and get educated.

7.  It’s too much work.  Nothing worth having comes easy and things that come easy usually don’t have high value.  Sitting on your couch gaming, eating Cheettos, texting your friends and picking your nose hasn’t launched you into the stratosphere so let’s develop a work ethic.

8.  I am not good enough.  I was hired to run a golf course as the golf pro at age 27.  I kind of knew what I was doing, but wasn’t 100% prepared.  I learned how to do the job by doing the job.  You will never have complete knowledge of any topic so stop believing this lie.  You will never be fully prepared to do anything in life, but it should not keep you from moving forward. Ever heard the saying “fake it till you make it?”

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9.  Change is too scary.  The only thing in life that is consistent is change.  Friend circles change, jobs change, people change, cars, schools, policies,  finances, etc.  Everything changes and it can be scary sometimes, but everything will be fine.  Change is a good thing sometimes as it can serve as the catalyst for advancing yourself.  Also, if your dreams don’t scare the crap out of you, then you aren’t dreaming big enough.

10.  It’s just not realistic at this point in life.  My least favorite word is “realistic.”  To me when someone says be realistic, I hear them say just settle for the norm like the rest of the herd!   Being realistic is a matter of perspective: let your imagination run crazy and refuse to be realistic!

Did I miss anything?  What lies have you told yourself that you realized were not true? Take a few moments to leave me your thoughts in the comments, I would love to hear from you!

93 thoughts on “10 Lies You Tell Yourself That Keep You From Your Goals

    • Many people struggle with this one. One method to overcome this is to find a hobby that you are good at performing. This will build your confidence which will seep into the other parts of your life. For instance, when I began blogging I did so as a hobby. But then my confidence grew incredibly as a writer and that confidence permeated my entire life!
      Danny

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      • I have a hobby (or at least something I love doing) which is writing. These past few months I started writing this book, but went to a halt because I ‘thought’ it’s not ready yet; I’m not ready yet, despite my research and outline. However I’m still trying to overcome these thoughts. And thanks for reminding me that they’re lies!

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      • Danica, if you think it’s not ready, it probably isn’t. So what you need to do is figure out how to get it ready. It’s a long road the first time around. There’s a lot to learn but it is worth it. I once felt like you, but by the time I self-published my novel, I was sure it was the best it could be.
        Also, just keep writing. You will know when it’s ready for the editor. You will feel that it all fits together right.
        Thank you for posting this comment. I am working on my 2nd novel, the prequel, & I have a lot of the same feelings as I did with the last. (I was sure this wouldn’t happen again!) At least, I no longer have to study the Story Arc or the Character Arc. I finally understand those.
        Good luck to you, Danica! You can do this! 😉 ❤
        Peace,
        Sherrie
        P.S. I just posted something about writers who publish too soon, so please check out my blog. 😉 ❤
        Sherrie Miranda's historically based, coming of age, Adventure novel “Secrets & Lies in El Salvador” is about an American girl in war-torn El Salvador:
        http://tinyurl.com/klxbt4y
        Her husband made a video for her novel. He wrote the song too:

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  1. Yep, I have used number 8 a lot. I often worry I won’t know the job thoroughly enough or I think I don’t have the experience but I am beginning to realize that a lot of people feel that way but go for the job anyway and make it.

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  2. Excellent read. Very true, very relatable. The moment of realisation one has when acknowledging these ‘lies’ in our life are holding us from our true potential is a life changing moment…. So thankful to have this moment. Love it.

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  3. Your Number 8 is my favorite, and a lesson that we only learn after a bit of time and experience. I took many jobs where I “learned to do the job by doing the job”. It is no secret to me now that almost without exception….everyone goes into a position with that same insecurity. We all wondered when someone would find out that we really didn’t know as much as they thought we did. Fascinating. Real. Great post. ☺

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  5. Being new to finally staring my own dream business, I can say that so many of these resonate. It probably should be obvious, but it’s always good to know you are in good company with defeating thoughts. I’m so thankful that my mindset has changed, and even when it seems slow and frustrating it’s always comforting that hey, I’m trying ! Great read.

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  6. Along with waiting for the right time, I think most people wait to have more time. Being “too busy” is such a common excuse for not accomplishing things. Busy has become such a glorification – like if you’re super busy then you’re giving the impression that you’re popular, important, successful, and interesting. Most things that keep these people so “busy” are fluff things, like watching TV or shopping or scrolling through Facebook. Even if you’re sitting at DMV waiting you can be reading, learning, writing, doing whatever it is you need to do! There’s always time for your dreams. If people actually tracked how much time they spend on various unimportant activities they would probably find that there are plenty of hours in their week that could go toward their goals.

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  7. I believe if one is doing something which he/she is passionate about time they will automatically get time for it. Difficult part is to take the first step and actually start do it. Once the work has started passion for it will make you mange your time and work efficiently.

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  8. ” I can’t do it” is my very favourite one- not favourite actually but most commonly used one. If it is to start on a weight loss campaign, I say, dieting is too difficult- I don’t have the time to exercise. Nothing will ever look good on me- so why should I ever try ? And so on..
    Susie

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  10. At age 63, I finally lost that weight been struggling with all my life.
    I finally wrote that book I always dreamed of writing. My dreams are coming true in my 60’s after I cried out to God in desperation. This will be the greatest decade of my life and I expect every year hereafter to be great.

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  11. This is a great post! Our days are our most valuable asset. They never come back. Sure it’s true that some things cost money, but there’s usually some way we can get started with our dream. If we are willing to take the first step, the rest will follow. We have to take that first step. Surrounding myself with people bolder than me, and to not take finial advice from broke people, have been two very helpful reminders for me. If we choose to really listen to people that already achieved their dream, it will make it much easier for us. I can’t stand braggers, and people with a big mouth. If I noticed that someone truly achieved something I crave to listen to them.

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  12. Thank you for writing this post. Reading each one I know I regularly put these doubts in my mind and hear others saying the same things. We all have our dreams, some that feel bigger than others and perhaps that is why sometimes it all feels a little daunting. When I unpick the reasons for my doubts it comes down to fear of the unknown and those programmes that I grew up with. Over the years I hav learned to surround myself with people who are positive and where I create an environment to grow and with people who challenge me when those doubts start to creep. Life is too short for regrets .

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    • Julie, I apologize for my delay in responding. I found your comment buried in my spam folder. I will do a better job in the future of clearing that folder more often. Sorry!! 😦
      Danny

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  13. Love this! Call me crazy but I just usually go for it, being in a comfort zone is so stifling! I was waiting to get my fitness life/career off the ground until I reached my “goal weight”… Then I realized going for it now is a huge part of keeping me accountable and on track. Sometimes you just have to go for it and not worry about what others might think about being good enough, smart enough, thin enough etc.

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  14. Brilliant post! I’ve been through every thing on that list. One day, about 5-6 years ago, I realized it was all in my head and then I started to change my priorities and I have never regret that turn.

    It almost hurt me to see others that still uses that list of lies/lame excuses and especially those who claims I have bigger possibilities, to never mind that list and go do what I want, than they have. That’s the biggest lie of them all and they don’t even bother to ask what I sacrificed to reach the possibility to do what I want. I still have many drems unfulfilled, but I take it slow and always move forward to reach them one by one.

    Life is to short for waiting. I did a post a while ago with one of my drawings title: What’s holding you back?

    https://fargaregardsanna.wordpress.com/2015/10/22/whats-holding-you-back-vad-hindrar-dig/

    But your post put this in words a lot better than mine does 🙂

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  15. Great post!
    I am guilty of some excuses, but luckily not of all. And when I just go for a dreaded step I am usually amazed of how good I actually did whatever I did.
    Even if I fall right on my nose. The point is to get up and try again. And there’s never been an occasion where this would not have brought valuable insights.

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