Why a “Bad Luck” Mentality Is the Key to Mediocrity

The fourteenth item on the list of wealthy people’s habits is wealthy people believe good life habits produce good “luck” and bad life habits produce bad “luck.”

Wealthy people do not become successful because of luck and unsuccessful people are not unsuccessful because of bad luck. Your life is what you make it and the better your life habits the better your chance for success.

I know a lot of people that are struggling in life financially at 40 because they did not apply themselves in high school.  Poor grades and study habits set the course of action for their life and they have been riding the wave of mediocrity ever since.  They learned poor life habits early, never corrected their actions and continue those poor habits today.  Some of them will use a variety of excuses like life has been hard or they just keep getting bad breaks or my boss will not give me a raise or I never was good at school or insert unending list of excuses here.

Secretly they wish that they had paid attention in school and had received  some type of secondary education and oh how their life might be different now.    It is not bad luck or bad breaks that put someone in a low paying job.  It is the absence of successful life habits that aim someone in the direction of mediocrity.  The friends I have that continue to struggle all focus lots of energy on the trivial while neglecting the crucial things in need of serious attention.

When you neglect to concern yourself with studying in high school, you receive low scores.  Low scores produce a poor transcript.  Lack of studying produces low college entrance test scores.  Poor transcripts will limit college opportunities.  Limited college choices limit the quality of secondary education.  Limited secondary education limits career opportunities.  Limited career opportunities limit upward mobility.  Upward mobility limits financial gain.  Limited financial gain limits everything you do in life.  Some get it, some ignore it, but IT IS NOT TOO LATE TO CHANGE IT!!!!  I find myself frustrated with folk that fail to realize the impact they can have on their own lives!

I say this again and will preach it until I have no breathe left…go today and enroll in 1 class, get outside and walk down the street and back, cut out cable TV and apply the $125 to paying down credit card debt.  Do something, anything to redirect your current path in the direction of successful growth.  Sometimes life requires tough love and god knows I am not perfect.  I yell because the unsuccessful people I know are ridiculously stubborn in their laziness and stubbornly committed to neglecting themselves.  They underestimate and underappreciate their abilities.  They have allowed life to convince them they are not good enough.  They cling stubbornly to the one thing that separates them from success: a mindset of accepting mediocrity.

I am no where close to where I want to be, but I am far from where I was 3 years ago.  My wife and I made a decision then to change our direction.  I read about and studied successful people to learn which habits to emulate.  I focused my energy on creating a life where my income was only limited by my actions.  I changed my entire set of habits.  For anyone to use “luck” in referring to success truly shows they have a limited view of life.  It reminds me of golfers that envy the scores high skill level players shoot.  What they don’t see from are the 20 degree days on the driving range for 5 hours.  They don’t see the years of dedication in the face of failure that one day led to success.  The thing about those that see their neighbor’s green grass is they fail to see the hard work that produced the lush end product!

This post has been more critical in tone than most I write, but sometimes I/you/we need a kick in the butt.  If you believe your life sucks because you have bad luck, then you have fallen for the biggest deception in life.  Your life is the product of your doing, but the future is still unwritten.  Look at life as writing a novel with you as the author picking your future.

If you are 45 years old and live to the average age of 77.8, you still have 32 + years on this planet.  You can change the course of history with a 3-year plan.  You have a lot of time left so why not make a change for the betterment of yourself?

 

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32 thoughts on “Why a “Bad Luck” Mentality Is the Key to Mediocrity

  1. good to have a kick in the butt sometimes!!! a lot of pop culture seems to promote a victim mentality and/or the idea overnight success without work. this post is good reminder that success and change take work!

  2. Nothing bothers me more than someone who won’t take responsibility for their actions, it’s the victim mentality all the time with them. When really, there is freedom in admitting you have made some poor choices but are working to change your life! Great post!

  3. Okay… the article is mostly right. But isn’t it bad luck to put every effort to save someone’s life needing huge money, isn’t it a bad luck when every other day you have very good idea/project and you are cut off one step before the contract, isnt’t it bad luck when you struggle everyday and it becomes more difficult, more unstable things broke and you have to fix, isn’t it bad luck when you have to work 10-12 hours for paying huge inevitable bills and no direction for raising the profit by constant denial by new clients ??? May be I am the 0.01% of the real bad luck people. But you know what? I am not giving up, no I will fight to the end, but liked to let you know BAD LUCK EXISTS and you must FIGHT BACK with work,effort and hope

  4. Wow! I’m sure this is a slap in the face and a down right kick in the butt, for many out there who are blaming ‘bad luck’ for their current situation or failures in life. I’ve often look at bad luck as missed opportunities more than lack of success.

    You know, like when you go that the fair and play a coin toss game and miss each time. Or always having mishaps 😉

    3 seem to be a magic number. It took me 3 yrs to convince my husband to take a leap of faith. Since then we’ve never looked back or had regrets in our decision.

    1. I use success because it is the only word that I could think of that is all-encompassing. It can be applied to many situations. With that said, I am glad to read you and your hubby jumped!
      Danny

      1. I gathered your point. I was being a bit sarcastic :p As my youngest daughter used to constantly say she had bad luck, because she couldn’t get the coins in the bottle. Until one day she did, I told her it was nothing to do with luck, it was more her concentration and determination to beat the game and not let the game beat her 😉

  5. a successful life does not have to mean “wealthy” I am not a wealthy person, nor do I care to be, but I am a very successful person, my life is successful, full of love and peace and wonderful family and friends and that is what is most important…

    1. The reference in a lot of my writing to wealth or money is made simply because I have so many people ask me about making more money. But as I have stated before and as you have pointed out, success is up to the individual.
      DRay

  6. Reblogged this on On Becoming a Lemonade Maker and commented:
    Our mindsets are so crucial to how we live our lives and then by extrapolation how successful we become!

    A few years ago when I talked about writing, I had a few people raise their eyebrows at me… Surprised that I’d want to do something so audacious and doubtful of my success in even completing a book… Oh, and don’t even mention their doubt that an artist can make a transition to become a writer and hope to be any good at it!

    After all , wasn’t it blind dumb luck that I was any good at making art in the first place? How could a person hope to be good at TWO different types of creative jobs?

    Well, you know the expression “10% inspiration, 90% perspiration”? Yup that applies to every role we choose in life!

    Most of us already HAVE that 10%… And we know it!

    The thing is, we allow ourselves to be fooled into thinking that we can’t possibly succeed because we weren’t graced with more than 10% natural skills and abilities!

    We forget that the other 90% needs to come from US! From our own blood, sweat and tears!

    Trust me, I’ve been putting blood, sweat and tears into that 90% bucket that I’ve been accomplishing my dreams! Slowly, but I’m steadily working to get there! (Don’t believe me? Go check out my body of writing work! http://www.amazon.com/Tamara-Kulish/e/B00IVWCAEI

    Next month I’m planning on releasing at least one more title.. Well it was on track for this month but computer issues (my puppy chewed through my power cord and a new one had to be ordered) has slowed down the completion of a few books!

    Hehehe! Now I’m even combining my art and writing into adult coloring books! Even if it’s purely a coloring book, the skills I learned while writing and publishing real books have helped me with being able to get these new gems out to you!

    So don’t despair, we’re never too old to learn new skills to move our lives forward!

    Start with something, but start! (…if life’s issues have really gotten to you and you mind is gridlocked, my book On Becoming a Lemonade Maker can help you do the work of unblocking and moving forward! I won’t chastise you or make you feel badly… I’ll guid, support and encourage you!)

    You can do this! Let me know how it’s going?

    Peace!
    Tamara

  7. I think perception is so important, too. I recently got restructured out of a job and while that could be devastating, I am choosing to see it as an opportunity. I got to leave a job where I wasn’t happy and while it wasn’t on my own terms, I did get a package that will last long enough to find a new gig that I am truly passionate about. People make their own luck and how we view the things that happen to us in life is so crucial. It’s not about having a good hand, it’s about learning to play a bad one!

    I love the Dream Big originals 🙂

    1. You are spot on. The mentality one has is everything. I know too many people that don’t have a lot and they complain that they have bad luck. I believe it is that mentality that keeps them down. You have said it perfectly.
      Danny

    1. I spoke a couple weeks ago to a group and this topic came up in the Q&A. I think it is imperative that we all adopt the attitude that we practice the right habits for our life which will aim us in the direction of our goals. Kind of like the saying…luck is when preparation meets opportunity.

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