I received an email last Saturday that didn’t sit well with me at first, but I have taken several days to process the criticism. So today I am going to write about emailing other bloggers and what I consider appropriate.
To begin, the email criticized me on two levels: writing syntax and my casual tone (notably my use of “lol”), especially in the light of considering myself an “expert in self- improvement/life skills.” I spent several days thinking about the email and suffice it to say, the criticisms still are not sitting well, namely because I didn’t ask for them. The criticism was volunteered which still baffles me and feels like someone calling only to tell me my dog is ugly and hanging up.
There are many ways to respond to criticism, but I choose two responses. First, I always thank the person for taking the time to express their criticism. I try to refrain from responding emotionally. Secondly, I take a few days to read and reread the email. Why? I never assume I am right. Especially when it comes to writing. I am not an expert writer and I am comfortable with making a few mistakes here and there, although I work to limit the mistakes. If you take criticism for what it is, evaluate yourself, judge the critical merits and then use the criticism to make yourself better, then you are being an adult. View criticism in the same light as a work evaluation; it isn’t always easy to hear, but can make you better if it has merit.
With all of that said, here is my advice to you should you feel the need to email another blogger and criticize their work/page/style.
It is not your place to be critical of another blogger’s style or page. If you feel the need to do so, then simply stop following that blogger’s website or limit your interaction with said blogger. And to be clear, my reference is to criticizing another’s writing ability or style, not a topic with which you disagree.
If you have followed my page for any length of time you will know I have never claimed to be an expert in any field, much less writing or personal development. The truth is I am not even an expert in dealing with myself. I have used my example of making errors and experiencing success as an example for others, should they choose to change. I do not make claims about what I am, nor will I.
I am one man trying to make a difference in one other person’s life; that is all.
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I will end by saying, if you ever find yourself emailing another blogger to discuss how they run their page (i.e. style, writing ability, syntax)…stop and delete your email. It is not your place and you will be out of line. Email about a particular post with which you disagree or email about a topic that you enjoyed. Don’t criticize style unless the blogger asks for your opinion. Just my two cents.