Have you ever given thought to the power your words have over your life?
A couple days ago I was on a sales call with a coworker to talk with a veterinarian about doing business with the newspaper. She was there to speak about the benefits of print media and I was there to discuss how we could help them improve their online presence.
On the way back to the office we had a great conversation about the principle that people become the words they speak and the power of the mind. In the past year she has lost significant weight which led me to ask her what brought about her wanting to change. Her explanation was simple-she changed her mind. She expressed to me how her physical body had come to represent how she perceived the world around her and how she perceived herself…mentally. She went on to explain how years of negative talk had developed into negative habits which led down the slippery slope of gaining weight. And I found this explanation to be insightful.
She believed she had become the words that she spoke and outlined how she developed a specific plan to change the words she used, the foods she ate and the ways she thought. If you have followed my page for any length of time you know this type of conversation is right up my alley! She eliminated using the word “hate” especially.
We talked about the power of the mind and how people use negative words without truly thinking about the power those words have over their lives. Using powerful, self-motivating, positive words have the ability to aim one more toward a positive and successful life. While using negative words and negative mental images have a powerful ability to bend one’s mind into believing and perceiving life to be overwhelming, tough and too difficult to succeed.
Diane Setterfield expressed the power of words in her 2006 novel
There is something about words. In expert hands, manipulated deftly, they take you prisoner. Wind themselves around your limbs like spider silk, and when you are so enthralled you cannot move, they pierce your skin, enter your blood, numb your thoughts. Inside you they work their magic.
“Inside you they work their magic.” What kind of magic is working inside you? What words are you allowing to come from your mouth to manifest their reality in your life?
I don’t believe it is by happenstance that the vast majority of wealthy/successful people practice positive speaking. I also don’t believe it is happenstance that the majority of negative speakers experience limited success, limited joy, limited happiness and limited fulfillment. Some will disagree, but I have experienced it first-hand so you will never convince me that speaking negativity is more productive than speaking positivity. Once I changed my speaking and began to focus on using more productive and positive words, my mind began to change. My world-view began to become more positive. My life began to change for the better. Slowly but surely my life did change and I am better off for having put in the effort. Don’t believe me, then sit down with my wife and let her describe the man I was 5 years ago compared to the man I am today.
Most negative people will defend their negativity-I sure did. I proudly described myself as a realist. I thought by being true to my belief that people are genuinely awful in some way made me a martyr. Or maybe it made me feel more enlightened? As if my suffering somehow made me superior to those idiots that lived under rainbows. And I was wrong.
My negative thinking, negative speaking days are mostly behind me now and I am grateful that I put in the effort over the last few years to change. And my wife is especially thankful. As I have said in the past, my blogging style has transcended attempting to change people. All I can do is tell my story and hope someone out in this big world reads something I scribble, identifies with my words and decides to make a positive change. That’s all I can ask for. It does give me pleasure to read emails each month that express the impact my blog has had on someone’s life. To think about the impact blogging can have is powerful-and humbling.
My hope is that someone reads this today or tomorrow or maybe years from now after I am long gone and decides to focus on turning their frown upside down. That would make me smile. And I like to smile these days.