6 Mindsets People Have That Will Always Lead to Underachieving

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Life can be difficult, but sometimes we fall victim to believing things that simply are not reality.  And the problem with this thinking is what we allow ourselves to believe does become OUR reality.

Maybe events from our past have led us to believe all people are dangerous.  Or maybe we believe that we have no control over what happens to us.  And then there are some who believe life is truly out of their control.

And it is for these reasons that I beg people to be aware of the inventory of thoughts in their mind.  It is easy to believe life shapes us instead of the inverse and it is because of this that I believe many of us truly are victims-of our own thinking.

I have put some thought to it and believe I have come up with a fairly accurate list of 6 mindsets people have that will always lead to underachieving.

  1. Looking to the future while neglecting the present.  I see this mindset a lot.  Let me explain to you that the future will not be what you want it to be unless you begin working diligently in the present to prepare yourself.
  2. Failing to understand that your life is shaped by your habits.  Too often people live their life haphazardly and do not take the time to implement the specific habits they need to bring them more success like healthy eating, exercise, being organized, setting goals, etc.
  3. Jumping from one “passion” to another never giving any one of them a chance to take root.  People who jump from one thing to the next rob themselves of valuable experiences and leave their life unfinished.  Their life becomes a collection of unfinished hobbies, tasks, jobs and relationships.  Pick something and see it through to completion.
  4. Allowing yourself to use excuses in an attempt to justify one’s shortcomings.  I have spent a ton of time talking about making excuses.  At some point you have to take responsibility for your position in life.
  5. Believing that there are no real repercussions to living a neglectful lifestyle.  Don’t jeopardize your future by being irresponsible today.  Put down the cigarettes and lay off the cheeseburgers!
  6. Ignoring the connection between the body, mind and spirit and achievement.  The successful people I know all spend time educating themselves on how to grow mentally, spiritually and physically.  They understand success in anything is tied to being healthy in all three aspects of being.

I wish I could implant in people the power of thought, but I cannot and unfortunately most people will live in a fog.  The mass of the population think luck and chance play a larger role than they actually play.  There are things each of us can do each day to prepare ourselves for the life we want to live.

Expect more of yourself and begin to hold yourself accountable.  Begin getting your body in better condition.  Start getting your mind sharpened.  Meditate or pray and get your spirit aligned.  Stop living an out of control life.  Quit staying busy in order to distract yourself from the important things in life.  I know I can get a bit “preachy” sometimes, but it is only because I care.  I care even if I don’t really know you.  I want everyone who reads my page to find the joy and success they want.

I just wish more people realized joy and success don’t always happen by chance-sometimes you actually have to put yourself in position to receive them.

 

59 thoughts on “6 Mindsets People Have That Will Always Lead to Underachieving

  1. Hi Dan,
    I’m guilty of 1 and 3 for sure.
    I’ve recently made a commitment to myself to start living in the present and to start enjoying the moment.
    I’m learning life is about balance especially balancing what I believe to be true or not. And that starts with what I tell myself.
    Thanks,
    Vernon

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    This morning, on the way to work, I was pondering about the many dreamers I know, and the fact that almost none of them are taking steps to acheive their dreams, but see them as far off “someday” things that will eventually fall in their laps when it is time. I used to have a mindset quite like this, but life has taught me discipline. Dreams are wonderful, but they do not just happen. We have to live our lives in a way that furthers our path. We must press on through the difficulties and through the trials and come out on top a stronger more able individual. We must focus on our end goal, and take steps daily in its direction. Fellow blogger, dray0308 shares on DreamBigDreamOften thoughts on living that I 100% agree with. Take a look (and consider following him!)

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    • I used a lot of reading resources like self improvement books. My fave is called The Power of Habit by Charles Duhigg and I highly, highly, highly recommend you buy a copy and read several times. It changed my life.

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  4. Great post, so true! You have to be the one to work hard to make things happen, then the rest will (hopefully) fall into place. It reminds me of one of my motto’s: “God helps those who help themselves.” I don’t pray for something wonderful to happen magically (ok, sometimes I might, I believe in miracles). But instead, what I often pray for, is for God to help me stay motivated to do the work I need to in order to reach my goal.

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  5. I am a great fan of Being Present with my Problems – that is the mantra I hum. Whatever the block or the hold up or the lack, I breathe into my body and pause. All those problems are out there, in that concrete world of materialism most of the time. Or in here, in my mind, thinking about them. To release myself from the grip of these constructed problems I return to conscious awareness of the Presence. Do the problems go away? Do they heck! But at least I am now aligned with my power and presence and able to respond in a much wiser way, rather than overreacting and responding with negativity.
    http://www.innerbodywisdom.co.uk

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  6. Interesting reading this as I just had a very similar chat with my son. I pointed out all the points you mentioned to him and he asked many questions. It was amazing to have such a deep conversation with such a young man in the making…

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  7. I can validate much of what you are saying here from life experience, especially when you write: “Let me explain to you that the future will not be what you want it to be unless you begin working diligently in the present to prepare yourself.”

    The first step is to stop running from your pain. Stop trying to pretend it didn’t happen.

    When you deny your pain you deny yourself the ability to understand the source of self destructive behaviors.

    If one is a survivor of childhood abuse it is imperative to understand that feelings of worthlessness were imposed on you as part of the psychological abuse.

    Once I began to accept my past and to let myself grieve the fact of it my attitude toward my mind, body and goals began to change. This change in perspective , from unworthy to worthy, is a long process for some of us. It is unpleasant at times. But it is always worth it.

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  8. A great half dozen lessons to follow in our lives. I think not finishing projects, jobs and education is sad.
    I like your lucky #7, the wish to implant thought or brains in the general public. 🙂
    I think this overrides the other mindsets.

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    • I wish I could implant more positive, effective thoughts about a lot of subjects but alas, people have to find their own way. And many will never break from the “life happens to me” mindset.

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  10. I think the root cause of a lot of these symptoms of underachieving really come down to fear. Fear traps you in your own head and cuts you off from reality which causes you to sink back into underachievement. Great post!

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  11. I really liked this post and defiantly agree. So many people don’t realise the impact of their thoughts and how these lead to actions. Too many leave it down to chance or luck

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