Why Is It So Hard to Make Dreams Come True?

Why Is It So Hard to Make Dreams Come True?

I am not surprised at the number of people who never live the life they want to live; or at least live the life they fantasize about in their mind.  There’s a lot that goes into making a mental image become something tangible.  Someone once said that making dreams come true isn’t easy or cheap which is why Disney is so darn expensive!  And although it is a joke, making a dream become something real is not easy and definitely not cheap.

Magic Kingdom, Disneyworld, Disney World, Orlando, Florida, USA
Credit: Magic Kingdom, Disneyworld, Disney World, Orlando, Florida, USA

If you don’t believe the words I have just typed, then take your own time and conduct interviews of people you know.  Begin with a few people you know who have dedicated themselves and lost a lot of weight.  Then interview small business owners.  Then interview a local city council member.  Then interview your boss.  If you speak to these people and ask them to tell you their story some common themes will quickly develop.

“It took a lot of work.”

“There were a lot of setbacks and challenges.”

“There were times when I wanted to give up, but I didn’t.”

“My family had to make a lot of sacrifices to help me reach my goals.”

“There were times when I was scared.”

What separates those who take action and reach goals from those who do not?  Why are there haves and have-nots?   Why do some people talk about hitting the lottery while others go out and dig their “lottery” out of the dirt?  I really don’t know if there is an exact answer, but I think I have a clue-unquenchable desire.

Ultra-successful people tend to be incredibly self-aware.  They tend to listen more than they speak.  They exercise and eat the right types of quality foods.  They do what they say they will do.  They are honest with themselves.  They set goals.  They refuse to fail.

The awesome thing is these attributes can all be developed, but only a select few embrace them.  Which side of the equation do you fall?  The under-achiever or the over-achiever?  I think I’m somewhere in the better than average group, but building my rocket ship each day!


38 thoughts on “Why Is It So Hard to Make Dreams Come True?

  1. I believe small changes become habit, which becomes a new approach. It could go either way. You have to decide what is more important – achievement of your dreams or comfort in the present moment.

    1. I believe the same. On the wall of my office at work I wrote a note: “Proper daily habits lead to long-term goal achievement.” The small habits are the most important.

  2. I was a huge dreamer growing up. When we took career evaluation tests in grade 12 mine came back “inconclusive” because I had interests in so many different fields.But if I really think about it, I have achieved my dream. In grade 8, at a school job fair, I headed straight to the newspaper booth and said I wanted to be a syndicated columnist. I patiently listened as they told me all the steps including journalism school, cub reporter, getting a by-line, then a small column that if I was lucky would become syndicated. I looked at the guy, and said “no, I want to be a syndicated columnist”. He looked at me this time and said “young lady, if you keep that determination you will do just that” and he wished me luck. Well here I am 40+ years later with a blog that isn’t making me much money (yet); however, it is read by people all over the world! It wasn’t the straight road I wanted to take getting here, but even with the modifications, it feels like success!

      1. Yes, if it is all about money then it is a job not a dream! The satisfaction comes from the fact people are actually reading and enjoying what I write! Today I was on Skype with a young woman who was in hospital in England and having a rough time. She just needed to chat with someone who could understand what she was going through! Wow, that is what it is all about!

  3. Everything you say is true; and it is especially true for people with disabilities. This is in the post I’m writing for my blogs third birthday: blogging taught me that the next thing to do is the thing you think you can’t do, but you do it on your terms.

  4. My parents were scared for me, but I was never scared. I was always throwing myself into everything face first. I moved away from home when I was 16, I road tripped around the U.S. when I was 21 to pick a new place to live, I’ve gone through a few passports. Now that I’m faced with an illness that has stumped 56 doctors and counting for 6.5 years, I’m less afraid than I would have been if I hadn’t had those previous experiences. The biggest lesson in life (I think) is to never let fear stop you. <3

    1. Excellent point. Sorry you are facing an unknown illness and I hope the doctors get it figured out sooner than later. Fear is such a funny thing because by design it is a preservation mechanism designed to keep a living being alive. But in humans we allow fear to keep us from living.

  5. I’d say I’m an underachiever, though, in all honesty, I can’t really recall having many dreams or goals, except for that one where I was going to be the first female Secretary of State. I guess Madeline Albright beat me to it anyway, and I failed on my first and only attempt at the Foreign Service Exam. I mean, could they really expect me to know much about Japanese art? I was never driven or built like that, and glad I’m not as it’s enabled me to go with the flow and, in the words of Steve Winwood, to “just roll with it, baby.” That means I’m nearly the complete and polar opposite of those performing arts students who were told, on the TV series “Fame”: “You’ve got big dreams, you want fame. Well fame costs, and right here is where you start paying; in sweat.” Yeah, I can’t really recall wanting anything that badly where I was willing to work that hard.

    1. I once considered myself an underachiever as well. It took me 43 years on this planet and a MS diagnosis to figure out what my passion. Maybe one day you’ll find yours.

  6. I have no doubt I’m an overachiever. I have no job, can’t write or make music, my body barely functions, but I reared five kids who are all successful people and gave a sixth up for adoption, who came back in my life when she was sixteen and has given me four beautiful grandkids. Lots of people consider me a failure (I can’t tell you the number who have said – not in precisely these words – if I had your life, I’d kill myself), but I wouldn’t trade my life for any of theirs. I’m off to India in a few hours. Overachiever? you bet!

  7. Yeah, I like how you worded it…better than average. I think I fall squarely in that category. It annoys me the whole “think positive” movement. If that was all there was to it, there wouldn’t be any poor people in the world!

    1. All I can say about the think positive crowd is that my life is a lot better now that I focus on positives than it was a few years ago when I allowed myself to be more negative. Thinking positive is only the beginning. The other steps of thinking positive involve the work to accomplish goals.

  8. Dreams….A big lengthy term to explain..Nicely written…
    I heard a quote today……
    Do whatever you have to do Until You can do whatever you want to do….
    I think in the present moment I am an underachiever..But try my best to do everything My life wants from me…

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