That depends on the person. I’d generally say follow their gut, commit to what they love to do, and go for it to the best of their ability. I’d offer my help as well, in whatever manner possible.
Good advice. I usually recommend that someone begin doing something from their past that they enjoyed that they stopped doing (i.e. painting, drawing, poetry, writing, etc. )
I would say to pay attention both to what, even momentarily, feels right and what feels wrong. Its kind of like the difference between shoes that fit well enough and those that feel as if they just grew around your feet – between the tool that is good enough to do the task, and the one that feels made for your hand only – notice those differences.
I’ve always thought a good route is to do enough to figure out what isn’t your passion. Process of elimination is what I think you are saying in a sense.
That is exactly what I pushed my son to do. He was so uncertain but wanted to be in school so I encouraged him to mix it up and at worst he would know what he didn’t want to do. It actually worked! Go figure. 😉
This is an awesome question. I’d tell them to be aware of when something excites them. What attracts their interest. That is how they’ll know what they need to pursue.
I would find out what makes them cry. For instance, for me it’s when kids show victory over obstacles. So I was a teacher and worked boys and girls clubs.
I don’t think I can say anything that tops what Bob said!
I would tell them to follow their instincts…their heart. To find what makes them happy and gets them excited. That is the thing they should be spending their time doing. I would also tell them that that ‘thing’ can change and morph and that that’s ok. Just go with it. 🙂
I usually go deeper, imagine yourself in a field, in the midst of nowhere or no one, you have no responsibility, no restrictions, you can do whatever you want, you have no family, no friends, it’s just you, with endless time, what is the first thing you want to do? Whatever that is, you could have picked absolutely anything, but you chose that thing, that.. is what you should do
No…I mean that if you are afraid of something inside of yourself such as a need to paint, to write poetry, to sketch or to dance and you believe for whatever reason that you don’t have the ‘right’ to do those things because of education or background or lack of degree then those are the things you should do. Study on your own if you can, study those you admire and take the risk of failure.
I suppose it really comes down to this; if your worst fear is failure than take the risk of failing.
Great question! I would ask “What is it that makes you so happy that it stops your breath for a few seconds? What makes your heart pound when you approach it?”
I like when someone gives advice in the form of a question because it makes the other person think, but directs the thought in a particular direction. 🙂
You only have one chance at life. You don’t want to get to the end wondering what would have happened if you didn’t follow that passion. Also, find a life partner that allows you to pursue your passion. I’m lucky enough to have done that and it makes the road much easier.
My advice is always “Follow your bliss.” In addition, I ask: “If this were your last day on earth, and you knew it, what would you most regret not having done in your life?”
Your hobbies are usually pretty revealing. I’m practical, but after 7 years in medical field it was a “No” for me and decided to fully commit to jewelry making &Etsy. I figured out what I was passionate about after traveling & meeting new people.
My advice is, TRAVEL! If money doesn’t allow much, then travel to other cities/states, meet new people, do something out of your comfort zone. JUST.DO.IT! Then ask “Do you enjoy your life or has it become a routine?”
“Travel is fatal to prejudice, bigotry, and narrow-mindedness, and many of our people need it sorely on these accounts. Broad, wholesome, charitable views of men and things cannot be acquired by vegetating in one little corner of the earth all one’s lifetime.” Mark Twain.
I would probably say to take an inventory of talent and skills and seek input from friends and family. Then I would suggest they try some of the prospective ideas out!
I like to think that would what a person would do if they didn’t get paid. Just for the enjoyment of it. Also find out what you enjoy that you “loose time” doing. Meaning you are so engrossed in the activity that time slips away. Also something that you would loose sleep to do. If you find something you would do for free, regardless of the time and willingly loose sleep for – I think that may be your passion.
This all seems like reasonable advice. I think in the end it is important for people to just do something, anything. Usually, people who don’t realize their passion are sedentary.
I’m on the same road. ❤
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I’m not sure I understand your answer. Are you saying you would tell your friend that you guys are in the same boat?
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That depends on the person. I’d generally say follow their gut, commit to what they love to do, and go for it to the best of their ability. I’d offer my help as well, in whatever manner possible.
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Good advice. I usually recommend that someone begin doing something from their past that they enjoyed that they stopped doing (i.e. painting, drawing, poetry, writing, etc. )
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What I always tell the gkids, go for it!
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Just do it!
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What makes them smile and feel endorphin’s
without the assistance of a drug…
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Seems like sound advice. So maybe take up a hobby or try something new and different?
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I would say to pay attention both to what, even momentarily, feels right and what feels wrong. Its kind of like the difference between shoes that fit well enough and those that feel as if they just grew around your feet – between the tool that is good enough to do the task, and the one that feels made for your hand only – notice those differences.
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Bob I love this. I’m using the shoe thing the next time my son and I talk about his future! Great advice.
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I’ve always thought a good route is to do enough to figure out what isn’t your passion. Process of elimination is what I think you are saying in a sense.
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That is exactly what I pushed my son to do. He was so uncertain but wanted to be in school so I encouraged him to mix it up and at worst he would know what he didn’t want to do. It actually worked! Go figure. 😉
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Knowing what you don’t want is valuable info to have! lol
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This is an awesome question. I’d tell them to be aware of when something excites them. What attracts their interest. That is how they’ll know what they need to pursue.
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And there is nothing that says people can’t have multiple passions throughout their life so you need to try a lot of different things.
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I would find out what makes them cry. For instance, for me it’s when kids show victory over obstacles. So I was a teacher and worked boys and girls clubs.
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Interesting advice. What if nothing makes someone cry?
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Oh, I never thought of that. I guess I would say what makes your heart sing with joy.
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So find something that brings joy to life. I like that. 🙂
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I don’t think I can say anything that tops what Bob said!
I would tell them to follow their instincts…their heart. To find what makes them happy and gets them excited. That is the thing they should be spending their time doing. I would also tell them that that ‘thing’ can change and morph and that that’s ok. Just go with it. 🙂
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Solid advice imho. I think it is important to do things which make one excited. Get the juices flowing.
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Go where your heart leads you.
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So maybe do some soul searching?
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Yes. Exactly.
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I usually go deeper, imagine yourself in a field, in the midst of nowhere or no one, you have no responsibility, no restrictions, you can do whatever you want, you have no family, no friends, it’s just you, with endless time, what is the first thing you want to do? Whatever that is, you could have picked absolutely anything, but you chose that thing, that.. is what you should do
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Absolutely great advice. I love the way you stated it. 😁
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I would ask them this question: “What would you do if you knew you could not fail?”
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Kind of a “what if nothing were impossible?” type situation.
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Indeed. It is not my original question it comes from a sport psychologist but could be applied to any dream or endeavor.
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Most certainly.
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Do what you think you can’t do because that’s where your passion is.
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Interesting approach. By this do you mean trying new things, new hobbies, new adventures, etc.?
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No…I mean that if you are afraid of something inside of yourself such as a need to paint, to write poetry, to sketch or to dance and you believe for whatever reason that you don’t have the ‘right’ to do those things because of education or background or lack of degree then those are the things you should do. Study on your own if you can, study those you admire and take the risk of failure.
I suppose it really comes down to this; if your worst fear is failure than take the risk of failing.
Happy New Year!
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Ok, gotcha!
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🙂
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Reblogged this on Art by Rob Goldstein and commented:
An interesting question from Dream Big Dream Often
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Thank you Rob!
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Great question! I would ask “What is it that makes you so happy that it stops your breath for a few seconds? What makes your heart pound when you approach it?”
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I like when someone gives advice in the form of a question because it makes the other person think, but directs the thought in a particular direction. 🙂
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Cultivate simplicity. Humans are far too complicated, the more one simplify the easier and more meaningful life becomes.
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So very true!
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You only have one chance at life. You don’t want to get to the end wondering what would have happened if you didn’t follow that passion. Also, find a life partner that allows you to pursue your passion. I’m lucky enough to have done that and it makes the road much easier.
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My advice is always “Follow your bliss.” In addition, I ask: “If this were your last day on earth, and you knew it, what would you most regret not having done in your life?”
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I like the last question a lot. 😁
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Your hobbies are usually pretty revealing. I’m practical, but after 7 years in medical field it was a “No” for me and decided to fully commit to jewelry making &Etsy. I figured out what I was passionate about after traveling & meeting new people.
My advice is, TRAVEL! If money doesn’t allow much, then travel to other cities/states, meet new people, do something out of your comfort zone. JUST.DO.IT! Then ask “Do you enjoy your life or has it become a routine?”
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“Travel is fatal to prejudice, bigotry, and narrow-mindedness, and many of our people need it sorely on these accounts. Broad, wholesome, charitable views of men and things cannot be acquired by vegetating in one little corner of the earth all one’s lifetime.” Mark Twain.
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I would probably say to take an inventory of talent and skills and seek input from friends and family. Then I would suggest they try some of the prospective ideas out!
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Trial and error is a good tactic. Try something new too!
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I like to think that would what a person would do if they didn’t get paid. Just for the enjoyment of it. Also find out what you enjoy that you “loose time” doing. Meaning you are so engrossed in the activity that time slips away. Also something that you would loose sleep to do. If you find something you would do for free, regardless of the time and willingly loose sleep for – I think that may be your passion.
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This all seems like reasonable advice. I think in the end it is important for people to just do something, anything. Usually, people who don’t realize their passion are sedentary.
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