How Far Are You Willing To Go To Reach Your Goals?

Danny's iphone 022I think more people don’t reach their goals because they give up when things get tough. Life is easy when things are going your way, but it is how you respond to obstacles that reveals your true character.  Are you willing to go to any measure in order to reach a goal?  Or do you buckle in the face of adversity?  Do you quit when the going gets tough?  Are you willing to do whatever it takes?  Are you willing to make the sacrifices needed to reach your personal goals?

I recently talked with a lady who was complaining about her weight and how it made her feel awful to look in the mirror and see how big she was now compared to a few years ago.  Amazingly, she also mentioned her reluctance to stop eating ice cream.  I listened to her speak and then wondered if she put two-and-two together.  She said she’s not willing to go so far as to give up ice cream in order to lose weight.  I was dumbfounded.  On the one hand she complained about how her weight made her feel, but immediately said she wasn’t willing to sacrifice to change her own life.

But we do this every day with our actions don’t we?  In small ways we show ourselves that there is a limit to what we are willing to do to reach goals or to have more success. By slacking off at work we acknowledge that we are not willing to put in the dedication required to overachieve.  By eating fast food we acknowledge that we are not willing to truly sacrifice in order to be healthy.  And when we use credit to purchase unnecessary material possessions we tell ourselves things are more important than living debt-free.

I’m sure there are other valid examples of this, but I think my point is clear.

I’m curious…How far are YOU willing to go in order to reach your goals?


24 thoughts on “How Far Are You Willing To Go To Reach Your Goals?

  1. Hey Danny 🙂 I think it’s really easy to judge on this one. If you want to lose weight, just stop eating ice cream, right? But sometimes there’s more to it than that. What is behind the need to eat ice cream? What is behind the need to buy that material thing? Is it self soothing? She feels awful when she looks in the mirror, she loathes herself! And ice cream (carbs) gives that boost that satisfies the brain to help you feel better. Contradictory, I know.

    So maybe its not that someone is not willing to sacrifice or put in the dedication, but need to look at the root cause of their lack of their unwillingness to do so.

    This is something I struggle with daily as I work to get my depression and anxiety under control. If I’m having a bad day, chocolate is my go-to. Recognizing the cycle that eating chocolate will make me feel worse once the sugar crashes and the pounds pack on is something I am working on. 🙂

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  2. I would say that I am willing to go as far as necessary. With my physical health I continue to do therapy, swim and use a cross trainer. For my emotional health, I am picking my battles with my mother. We are so different that we are often at odds. And it’s not that important enough for me to go to battle with her. As far as my spiritual health, again I’m ready and willing to do the work that it takes me to draw closer to God. I have four devotionals I read in the morning. And then at night I have one more and I read scripture and then journal. I go to a Bible study and I teach a Bible study. And for my mental health, I read, do puzzles, play mah-jongg, and obviously work on my blog, which takes a lot of mental energy! 😊😊

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  3. This is true. We place limits on ourselves sometimes even subconsciously and give up when things get tough.
    I think it’s important to focus on small steps we can do everyday that lead us closer to our ultimate goal and practice finding joy in the journey

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  4. It all depends on whatever I am doing is worthwhile. If something really is genuinely worth doing, then I will go to the ends of the earth to get it. Otherwise if it’s not really important, then it’s not worth devoting a lot of time or resources on it.

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  5. I agree with Jo Ann, I think first you need to deal with the elephants in the room and be in the right mental space to make that decision. And depending on what you are hurting from, you may never see how you are committing self sabotage. I speak from experience with that. Also, trauma from toxic relationships and cycles that keep you in a never-ending loop of self loathing and depression, you can never be sure where that woman was exactly in her life. If you are hurting, it’s really hard to see clearly.

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  6. I’ll do anything within ethical limits. Most of the job is overcoming self-imposed limits, and of course accepting one’s share of life’s pain. I think the illusion that life is supposed to be pain free limits us culturally and makes us numb to ourselves. In considering the woman who won’t give up Ice Cream to lose weight, perhaps the question is why is she afraid to be the person she says she wants to be?

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