I am amazed by human behavior. I love reading and learning about what makes people tick and I especially like watching people.
Blogging affords the opportunity to converse and interact with thousands of people every week. One of the topics that usually gets a lot of responses is excuse making. Every time I voice my opinion that people validate their lack of success by making excuses, someone will email me with a list of excuses explaining to me why they “cannot” thus making my point.
“I can’t live a healthy lifestyle because of x, y, z.”
“I can’t find a better job because of x, y, z.”
“I can’t do X because of a, b, c…”
The last 3 are really what you’re telling yourself. When you use excuses you are reinforcing the idea that you are incapable and the excuse is a defense mechanism designed to protect you. That is the incredible dual-edge nature of an excuse-you use them to protect yourself, yet they are doing more damage than good.
My observation is that people tend to have excuses locked and loaded, ready to defend their life. their decisions, their performance.
I makes excuses.
You make excuses.
We all make excuses.
Excuses are tools of the incompetent which create monuments of nothingness. – author unknown
I want you to spend some time in deep introspection about excuse making. Until you are honest with yourself there will always be mental blocks that will disallow you from moving forward.