My Daily Observation: 10/20/17

Danny

I am amazed by human behavior.  I love reading and learning about what makes people tick and I especially like watching people.

Blogging affords the opportunity to converse and interact with thousands of people every week.  One of the topics that usually gets a lot of responses is excuse making.  Every time I voice my opinion that people validate their lack of success by making excuses, someone will email me with a list of excuses explaining to me why they “cannot” thus making my point.

“I can’t live a healthy lifestyle because of x, y, z.”

“I can’t find a better job because of x, y, z.”

“I can’t do X because of a, b, c…”

“I can’t…”

“I can’t…”

“I can’t…”

The last 3 are really what you’re telling yourself.  When you use excuses you are reinforcing the idea that you are incapable and the excuse is a defense mechanism designed to protect you.  That is the incredible dual-edge nature of an excuse-you use them to protect yourself, yet they are doing more damage than good.

My observation is that people tend to have excuses locked and loaded, ready to defend their life. their decisions, their performance.

I makes excuses.

You make excuses.

We all make excuses.

Excuses are tools of the incompetent which create monuments of nothingness. – author unknown

I want you to spend some time in deep introspection about excuse making.  Until you are honest with yourself there will always be mental blocks that will disallow you from moving forward.

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

25 thoughts on “My Daily Observation: 10/20/17

    • I don’t think I ever used the word “reasons”. I am specifically speaking about making excuses. Each person must assess their own situation to determine if they are using reasons or excuses. But in this post I am only speaking about excuses. 🙂

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      • No, it’s okay. There are reasons and there are excuses. People tell me they cannot lose weight for instance. The truth is they can, but they choose to eat foods that stand in the way of trimming down. In this instance I think it is important to recognize health issues could be reasons, but if poor food choices exist then we are making excuses. If that makes any sense.

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      • You’re right. I took it out of context and didn’t read it right. I guess it triggered me in a way because I found out I have autism today. And I’ve always not understood how to deal with people, and before this diagnosis people would say that I’m using mental illness as an excuse not to get along with people, when in all reality it’s a reason why it’s hard for me. So it was completely me reading into your post wrong, and that’s my bad.

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      • We’ve all done it. 🙂 I can be honest and say that I have been struggling losing weight. I could use MS as a reason as it is difficult for me to exercise. The truth is my eating has been awful lately. So honestly I have been making excuses which has gotten in the way of my weight loss. We all have to weigh whether we are using reasons or excuses and sometimes it’s a fine line. As long as I feel that I am giving my absolute 100% effort then I know I’m not making excuses. If not, then I have to re-evaluate my efforts.

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      • But I still see that as a reason too because I don’t know what it’s like to have MS, but if you see it as an excuse you also know yourself better then I possibly could do it must be an excuse. This is where I get confused, because everybody sees things differently, so how can you know when it’s a valid reason or it’s an excuse?

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      • I measure “reasons” and ‘excuses” by my effort. If I know I am giving my 100% effort then all is good. But if I sit back and realize I’m not giving my best, then I figure out what my excuses might be and reapply and learn how to give 100%.

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      • But it all comes down to the individual. When I see people eating fast food while they complain about their weight, I see that as an excuse. Even physical limitations can be overcome. I use the excuse that I have a hard time exercising. The truth is that if I made exercising a priority I could go swim. So I’m actually making excuses for exercising.

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  1. I am well aware that I am always making excuses. My problem is figuring out how to stop all the excuses. I am aware of the excuses and as aware of my instant negativity no matter what happens and it could possibly be a positive thing, but my mind instantly goes negative. Plan to work on this with my therapist.

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  2. Great post Danny. And that word ‘cant’ … sometimes I think it should be eliminated from my vocabulary😊 if I say I can’t do something, it usually means I won’t, not that I actually can’t. Did that make sense?🙃

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