62 thoughts on “Let Me Ask You a Question – 12/27/17

      1. It has been a Christmas filled with ups and downs… I tried to focus on all the good, but you know how it is. So it has been a bitter sweet kinda week. Trying to make the most out of it!

      2. Me too. I’ve never been sad at Christmas but this year I was. I uncovered some things in therapy that hit me out of left field and I’m not sure how to process it. Not knowing what to do is new for me. I hope you are able to make sense of things; and I truly mean that.

      3. I think the hardest about having sad moments during the Holidays is not sharing it, and giving the smiling face everybody expects… During our family dinner, everyone was just so excited and jolly around the table, it made it seem a bit unfair not to be in the mood too. :/ Better luck next year, I guess… It wasn’t all bad though (thank God!) and I did enjoy some of the celebration 🙂

      4. Me too. I give myself a hall pass for being sad. In my mind if I make being sad a “bad” thing then in a subconscious way I am telling myself I am bad, which I’m not. I just happened to be down when everyone else acted up. They might not have been as “up” as they portrayed. I actually give myself credits for honesty.

      5. It’s funny in a way… (not ha ha funny, of course) How we feel obliged to be bubbly and cheerful during one specific day/week. I can be happy all year long, but if I am down during the Holidays, suddenly, I feel like the odd ball.

    1. I think that is normal for most people but few, like you, are honest about it. And I think it is okay to realize it. I hope you find some quiet time to focus on being peaceful.

    1. I’ve been a little sad too. I am glad you expressed it. I think actually saying things out loud helps sometimes. I hope you have a better day today than you had yesterday. 🙂
      Danny

      1. Thank you Danny! Sorry to hear you’ve been a little sad too. You’re right, saying it out loud does help. Thank you for asking the question to get the conversation started.

  1. I am concerned and a little unhappy due to the prospect of my business ventures.. I feel that I am being pulled into two directions that of my business ~ I am a solopreneur and it is so hard to be in the business that I am in alone and then I am a newly married woman who feels that the needs of my husband is being met on a small level and that trying to be a happy couple is going to take some work on my end especially after I have gotten the business venture out the way! Thank you for asking!

    1. I hope that you find peace in your decision. Also, don’t be too hard on yourself. Every single person who is living or ever lived struggled with work-life balance. I just said a quick prayer for ya. 🙂
      Danny

      1. Oh, I believe that too. I think it’d be funny to just rattle off all these crappy things that are happening to the next person who asks that, whether true or not. They’d freak out, like “Dude, I was just making small talk!” 😃😃

      2. Funny cause I said the same thing…”Well, now that you asked…” and then just go off on all the shitty things going on. And don’t stop until they are just completely overwhelmed or simply walk away. lmao

      3. Yep. A relentless onslaught that would make Debbie Downer skits look like child’s play. The look of uncomfortableness on their face would be priceless. Then ask for advice from them. The squirming would be epic. 😃

      4. I would end it all with, “…and then there’s these damn hemorrhoids. i try every ointment but all they want to do is itch, itch, itch all day long. Add that to the rash on my….” I’m dying at the vision of that scene! lmao.

  2. I think you’re right. People ask but they really don’t want to know, it’s become a “fine” automatic response for most because they know its just asked as a rhetorical question. If it wasn’t, they wouldn’t pass by without waiting for an answer. Maybe that’s what’s wrong, people not really caring about others. What do you think?

    1. I agree with you and I’ve been the guilty party asking while not really wanting an authentic answer. But that will change in me. From now on I’m going to take the time to listen to people and show that I care.

  3. not at all “fine”. I am more contented. I am happy with my life, my husband, my friends and my home. Every now and then I am wishful for…well…stuff. Like an extra ten or twenty dollars so I can get a delivery pizza. It’s cold, but I have warmth from the furnace and a shawl, my pets are healthy and happy…….life is such a gift. That’s how I am.

    1. I try to do the same but wonder how healthy that is. For me I try to keep things in perspective but sometimes I think I devalue my own suffering. Does that make sense. I guess I need to realize that I deserve to admit I hurt too! lol

  4. Super stressed! My daughter is getting married outside on Friday and the high is supposed to be 4 degrees. Irritable because it’s one of the symptoms of PTSD I deal with. Grateful because we were all together for the holidays, and I have a wonderful family and friends. Excited because my book is on track to come out in a couple of weeks. Amazed that it is possible to feel more than one thing at the same time. Relieved that I can feel more than one thing at the same time. 😊

  5. Just okay. It’s been an interesting holiday season this year. I was on vacation (with several interruptions by my day job) then entire month of December. During that time, I faced some health issues and had the chance to really get closer to my youngest daughter. As I face getting on the travel treadmill in January once again, I have realized some truths. First is I hate leaving my home every week. Even though I have what most would call a ‘great job’, I hate it and wish I could make a change. I’ve painted myself in a corner income wise and don’t see an exit soon. As travel approaches once again, I am dreading it and will spend the last week at home psyching myself up to function in work mode.

  6. How am I really doing? Great question. Well I’m blessed in so many ways. Through the grace of god I can honestly say im Coming Out of a massive storm I’ve endured for six years. Yet as I see the sunshine appear in the distance I find myself wondering “who am I?” “What is my purpose?” “What is gods plan for me?” I’m no longer the woman I was six years ago. I can no longer do the things I used to. Things that defined who I am. Or rather who I was. I’m in constant pain throughout my body. I have good days and I have bad ones. I don’t want to complain. Especially since I may not be who or where I want to be but I’m so thankful I’m not where I used to be. I suppose I’m just trying to find my place in this new thing I call my new life.

    1. I appreciate your honesty Velma. And it is okay to complain, lament, vent, whatever you want to call it. I think one of the failures of modern society is we are supposed to act as if everything is fine when things are not. I’ve thrown up a prayer for you. 🙂
      Danny

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