Stress is defined as “a state of mental or emotional strain or tension resulting from adverse or very demanding circumstances.” The adverse or demanding circumstances do not occur within you, but are a reference to things which happen around you or to you.
I’ve been dealing with a couple stressful situations lately that are impacting me adversely.
Here’s the kicker: all of the internal stuff I’ve allowed is 100% my own doing.
I view stress as an external thing that I allow myself to then internalize. I have the option to control what my mind dwells on and what it does not dwell. Stressful situations happen AROUND you not inside you. What occurs inside you are the thoughts and emotions about the situation.
What has happened to me is I have allowed the situations in the physical world to get inside my body which then manifest themselves as tight shoulders, headaches, anxiety and stress. And it is 100% my own doing.
To combat this I am beginning meditation. I will sit for 15 minutes or so each day in the middle of my day when I begin to feel my mind trying to enter into what I call “The Fear Zone”. I will then sit quietly until my mind quiets and empties. Then I continue with my day.
I think it is important for us all to realize we are in control, not our surroundings. You do not have to live with a mind that controls you. You do not have to live with anxiety. You do not have to accept that “this is just the way I am”.
You have the option to decide to take control. Or you have the option to continue on as you always have feeling helpless and living as an effect instead of a cause.