Is Happiness the Thing That’s Making You Miserable?
It is easy to have a smile on your face when life is going according to plans. It isn’t so easy to keep a reasonable attitude when life drops you in a pile of manure. And I don’t think it is expected of anyone to lie in the manure with a beaming smile on one’s face. Sometimes you are going to feel a little melancholy and that is okay.
I’m not sure who started this “you need to be happy all the time” idea, but they need to be shot. Figuratively speaking of course.
Happiness is an emotion. And like all emotions it comes and it goes. Sometimes you will be sad and there will be periods of time when you will be happy. But you should not expect to be happy all the time; it simply isn’t a realistic expectation and having a goal of happiness might be what’s making you miserable.
Instead of happiness I focus on fulfillment and joy. I work everyday to find more things that make me feel full. Full of self-pride, full of confidence, full of self-esteem, full of joy, full of wonder, etc.
I find ways to get full by eating a little healthier, working a little harder, seeking out new experiences, loving my wife to the fullest extent, reading books that challenge my brain and, of course, writing my blog.
I seek to be full of joy, not happiness. I strive to increase my fulfillment, not to be happy all the time.
The goal of happiness is what makes so many people feel as though they are broken or “less than” and that is unfortunate.
Here’s a thought: stop trying to be happy all the time. Start focusing on joy and being a little more fulfilled.