You should never, ever compare yourself to others…
One of the lowest points of my life was around 2005 while I was working in the golf business. I had a decent job at a good club and I was completely miserable. I was surrounded by members who had more than me. They had better jobs, better homes, better cars and more money. And I spent the vast majority of my time looking at them with envy. I wanted everything they had, but more importantly I didn’t want what I had.
I spent many years comparing myself to others and feeling completely inadequate. Those years of comparing my behind the scenes to their highlight reel nearly ruined me. I drank heavily and lamented my lack of achievement. It was not a fun time.
What I would eventually realize was that if I continued to compare myself to anyone other than myself then I would always be miserable. So I changed my thinking.
I began to compare me to me.
I decided that I would focus solely on becoming everything I wanted to be not on becoming what other were or what others had. I realized that if I wanted something I would have to go get it. I would have to change. I would have to leave golf and go challenge myself. And that is what I did.
But of all the life changes the single most important was the changing of my mind; I changed the way I thought.
Change begins in an instant and that instant is the exact moment when you decide in your own mind that once and for all you are going to take action.
That was my experience when I decided I was no longer going to compare myself to others.