Is the Way You Manage Stress Holding You Back?
I am going to be completely transparent here and say that I don’t deal with stress well. I tend to over-analyze and dwell or things that are directly in front of me. I work through the question tree, anticipating any and all outcomes and what my response will be. I worry. And it is not a healthy way of dealing with stressful situations in my life.
How do you manage your stress?
Do you dwell? Or do you let stress run off you like water off a duck’s back?
If you are the latter then congratulations. Unfortunately for me my mind does not operate like that. So because I realize I have “down the rabbit hole” thinking, I must find cues to remind me to control my thinking. I cannot allow stressful situations to send me into a death spiral of over-analyzing.
Here’s what I do. When my mind begins dwelling and hyper-focusing on one thing I tell myself the following: “There is nothing you can do right now except what you can do. Control what you can control and let the rest be what it is.” This is a reminder to me to let the future go and stop worrying.
For a long time I allowed myself to make excuses to justify worrying and having an out-of-control mind. “It’s how I’m geared.” “It’s just how my personality works.” “I don’t worry, I get my mind prepared.”
All off the following are just a few of the excuses I used to justify my mind. I am finding that I can change how my mind works, but it takes discipline and a desire to change. Every day I go through a process check to make sure I am not allowing my mind to control me.
It isn’t easy and I’m not always successful, but I will eventually get this under control. The key is I acknowledge that I have a problem with handling stress, I have a process to change my behavior and I am committed to changing.
“I cannot control the future, I can only control right here, right now. The future will be what it will be so let it go.”