Upon re-entry into the complex world of dating, I began to educate myself on “all things men”. It had been five years post-divorce and I was as shocked as my friends when my spirit said, “it’s time!”.  I had never planned to retrace my steps, feeling I wasn’t cut out for relationships. More than once, my “I DO’s” became “I DID” and year 5 always eluded me even though a study from 2013 (Today.com) promotes it as most challenging (https://www.today.com/parents/many-couples-struggle-fifth-year-marriage-study-I548000). Kids and career demand the couple’s attention and the state of bliss is shoved to the back-burner as the realities of life begin to sink in.

While many of the male/female challenges still mirrored those initiated as a result of the females entry into the workforce, lack of communication still took center stage. My mindset, however, had gone under reconstruction which meant I needed a different approach. I inhaled a degree’s worth…