This question is so interesting. My answer is that it depends on the situation. If it were a medical situation and I could give blood or bone marrow or something like that I would absolutely do it. If someone needs a shoulder and an ear, I will do it. In a relationship situation though, that is where I set my boundaries. I will not align myself with some low energy, needy, passive/aggressive person that makes me feel like I have to prove I care. Forget it, that’s not happening. I’m not lowering my vibe to make anyone feel better.
I have, on occasion, gone well beyond good sense. I suppose it depend on how much I feel I need them to know, or how much I think they need to know (there is a difference between those). And then, there is the condition known as “madly in love” where good sense goes right out the window.
I think good sense is a valid practice. Some people go too far when maybe they should be reserved and then others don’t go far enough when they should.
There have been several times in my life where I have gone beyond and above the call of duty. Then again… I have had support as well. I think an empathetic ear is always a way of showing someone you care about their well-being.
In the sand, Kidding. 😊
I have patience, but even that gets stretched out too. I won’t enable anyone. I have gotten through a lot over the last 4 years, and I listened to others advice, and I worked hard.
Others have to take care of themselves too. Helping guide them is all I can do.
I agree. I am curious when people say “I’ll do anything” as to what they really mean. Life will teach you their are people in the world that you must set those boundaries.
That is a tough question. I think it is a case by case scenario. I would do everything I can until I felt like I was being used and taken advantage of. Once I got to that point, my well would run completely dry.
That’s tough. There’s a fine line between showing how much you care and being taken advantage of and/or being taken for granted.
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As far as it takes.
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Would you give someone all of your possessions?
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I would give them a kidney, it might not be mine, but it shows I love them 😉
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lol
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This question is so interesting. My answer is that it depends on the situation. If it were a medical situation and I could give blood or bone marrow or something like that I would absolutely do it. If someone needs a shoulder and an ear, I will do it. In a relationship situation though, that is where I set my boundaries. I will not align myself with some low energy, needy, passive/aggressive person that makes me feel like I have to prove I care. Forget it, that’s not happening. I’m not lowering my vibe to make anyone feel better.
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You picked up on where I was going with the question. Boundaries have to be set.
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They do!
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I have, on occasion, gone well beyond good sense. I suppose it depend on how much I feel I need them to know, or how much I think they need to know (there is a difference between those). And then, there is the condition known as “madly in love” where good sense goes right out the window.
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I think good sense is a valid practice. Some people go too far when maybe they should be reserved and then others don’t go far enough when they should.
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There have been several times in my life where I have gone beyond and above the call of duty. Then again… I have had support as well. I think an empathetic ear is always a way of showing someone you care about their well-being.
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Where do you draw the line?
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In the sand, Kidding. 😊
I have patience, but even that gets stretched out too. I won’t enable anyone. I have gotten through a lot over the last 4 years, and I listened to others advice, and I worked hard.
Others have to take care of themselves too. Helping guide them is all I can do.
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It is true that you have to be careful. People will take and take and take and take….if you allow them to do so.
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Definately too far… Something I still have to work on.
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You go too far with all people or just people to which the “care” is mutual?
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I’ll go as far as I’m comfortable going in each circumstance and if I’m ok in that instance not feeling like I am “owed” something in return.
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It is not an easy question to answer. So much to consider and so many factors.
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Absolutely!
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As a retired pastor I know that caring and boundaries can become blurred and that whatever you do needs to be healthy for all parties.
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I agree. I am curious when people say “I’ll do anything” as to what they really mean. Life will teach you their are people in the world that you must set those boundaries.
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As far as I can. I like to help people in any way I can.
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Would you give someone every penny in your bank account?
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That is a tough question. I think it is a case by case scenario. I would do everything I can until I felt like I was being used and taken advantage of. Once I got to that point, my well would run completely dry.
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I go as far as I need IF the person is in my circle of trust. Other than that I only go so far.
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Yep!
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To the moon and further.
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Every single time for anyone?
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