I think a lot.
One of the things I like most about the marketing industry is I am able to speak to and watch businesses thrive or die. This is important for my job because it allows me to watch the actions of business owners which brings about the death of that business, which I can then take and use to help my current clients. If I can help them avoid the pitfalls I witness in others then I have done my job.
And then of course I am able to look at the parallels of business owners and life in general. One of the mentalities I have observed that almost all of my thriving business owners possess is the willingness to challenge their own beliefs. They are quick to recognize that they do not know everything and are slow to make assumptions. They are willing to consider the possibility that they could be wrong or their thinking could be flawed. And because of this mentality they are able to make decisions which take into consideration many angles and many perspectives. To assume you know is death. I was once told by a successful Charlotte business man that the most important question I could ever constantly ask myself is “Could I be wrong?”
I get a lot of comments each week and I get even more emails about posts I create; especially those relating to positive thinking. I find it ironic that those who express opinions contrary to mine on being more positive are themselves somewhat negative people; and I know this because they tell me they are. I also know this because positive people generally agree with my view, therefore it is a safe assumption that someone arguing against one of my posts is by default more inclined to negativity or less likely to be a positive thinker.
So I want to lay down a challenge for my readers.
My thinking goes this route: if you are opposed to more positive inclinations (meaning you are reading this and already beginning to construct your anti-comment), is it possible that your reluctance to begin developing a more positive attitude is contributing negatively to your life? Are you willing to challenge your own beliefs? Are you willing to consider that you could be wrong? Are you willing to consider for a moment that your mental inclination does in fact have a profound impact on your life?
For those of you who do not believe in the power and benefits of a positive outlook I am here to inform you there is hope. I was once just like you. I was once an incredibly negative person and still battle complaining, getting pissed off at the simplest of things and seeing life through a negative lens. I was the realist. I was the naysayer. I did not believe. I was a procrastinator. And I definitely did not buy the belief that I could change my life by simply seeing the world through rose-colored glasses…and I was wrong.
One day about three years ago it dawned on me that I had to make a change. I looked at my life and what I had achieved and realized if I wanted more, then I had to figure out what was going wrong. I wasn’t happy in my profession. I felt like an underachiever compared to my own expectations. And my research on habits led me to realize that I had created the box in which I felt trapped. I had created my own mental cage.
The only way I could escape this cage was to go through a revolution of the mind; a coup d’etat if you will. It was at this time that I began researching the habits of successful people and began to insert these habits into my life. I began to take better care of my body. I began to read more history. I stopped watching television. I started learning how to become a better listener. I stopped eating too much junk food. I started something new and exciting (this blog!!). In short, I completely revamped my existence and in turn I completely reshaped my view of the world.
None of this would have been possible if I had allowed myself to assume I had it all figured out; if I allowed myself to remain in that same old broken mindset. I can tell from the comments I get that many of you are in the same boat I was in 3 years ago. I hope some of you take a long hard look at yourself and challenge your thinking. I mean take a long hard look at yourself, your thinking, and then ask yourself what has your mentality produced in your life. If the answer is disappointment, failed relationships, hardship, unhappiness, loneliness, financial hardship, etc. then isn’t it about time you challenge your current belief system and adopt one that begins to produce better results? If you continue to hit your thumb with a hammer and it hurts and bleeds, why would you continue to hit your thumb over and over and over and over? Wouldn’t it make more sense to stop hitting your thumb?
Challenge your thinking. Weigh the results you’ve gotten thus far compared to your mindset. If you like the results then keep on keeping on. If you don’t, then maybe it is time for your own mental revolution. Remember this, if you keep doing what you’ve always done, you will keep getting what you’ve always gotten. If you want something different, then you will have to do something different.
Just something to think about on a Friday morning.