Happy 101st Birthday Phyllis Diller

Waldina

Today is the 101st birthday of the comedian Phyllis Diller.  She was more hilarious and brilliant and lovely than we will ever know.  The world is a better place because she was in it and still feels the loss that she has left.

My mother-in-law had a pain beneath her left breast. Turned out to be a trick knee.

NAME: Phyllis Diller
OCCUPATION: Film Actress, Comedian, Pianist
BIRTH DATE: July 17, 1917
DEATH DATE: August 20, 2012
EDUCATION: Chicago‘s Sherwood Music Conservatory
PLACE OF BIRTH: Lima, Ohio
PLACE OF DEATH: Los Angeles, California
Originally: Phyllis Ada Driver

Hollywood Walk of Fame 7001 Hollywood Blvd (television)
St. Louis Walk of Fame

BEST KNOWN FOR:  First noticed as a contestant on Groucho Marx‘s game show in 1955, Phyllis Diller went on to become a successful comedian, actress and author.

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Confession Time: My Love of Coffee Causes Sweet Dreams!

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Confession Time: My Love of Coffee Causes Sweet Dreams!

As you might deduce from the title of this post, I love coffee.  I’m not sure when my love for the morning cup of joy developed, but I find myself looking forward to my morning cup the night before when I am setting up the percolator.   And before you begin thinking I’m addicted to the caffeine I will inform you that I only drink decaf.

I have found the old-school percolator to make the absolute best cup of joe and Evelina and I have experimented with nearly every brand of coffee maker.

It might sound crazy, but the thought of a new brand of coffee waiting to be tasted in the morning sets me up for a great night’s sleep.  I get excited like a kid at Christmas.

On the opposite side of this experience is waking up in a hotel, walking downstairs to the breakfast buffet and getting a bad cup of coffee.  Luckily for me this morning I got a great cup to launch my day!

Okay I’ll release you from the torture chamber that is my rambling.  Hope everyone has a relaxing Wednesday!

Danny

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Blog networking is one of the most undervalued and underused strategies for most.

You will find links in this post to help eliminate some of the work; all you have to do is LIKE, COMMENT and FOLLOW others.

Multiple Experiences

Cyranny’s Cove

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Issues from the Heart

Rafa Farihah

Advocate for Mental Illness

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The Courage To Shift

The Purple Almond

 

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Blog networking is one of the most undervalued and underused strategies for most.

You will find links in this post to help eliminate some of the work; all you have to do is LIKE, COMMENT and FOLLOW others.

The Pink Herald’s Blog

My Thoughts About Life

Untangled

In My Own Words

Fierce Fabulous Funny

An Overthinker’s Guide To Life

Health Fitness Beauty

The Runes of the Gatekeeper’s Daughter

A lesson in failure…

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Hello everyone!

I’m back from my sabbatical,

and

it went NOTHING like I planned.

As the old saying goes,

“Man plans, God laughs”.

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I started out doing well. I was on a good schedule, exercising, meditating, and doing some spiritual study everyday, when a minor tragedy occurred…

My oldest son’s college course was canceled on one day in April, and giving him the time to take our dog for his daily walk. I decided to take advantage of the little bit of freedom from my beloved canine, and drive to a local lake (above) and walk the paths….an hour walk, is what I decided to do…30 minutes one way, then turn around. (The path all the way around the lake is LONG, 5.3 miles to be exact, so I knew I couldn’t do the whole thing) Well, I had just hit the 30 minute mark and was about to turn…

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Fear of Sharks Can Get In the Way of A Great Swim

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Fear of Sharks Can Get In the Way of A Great Swim

I heard some people talking this past weekend about never swimming in the ocean because that’s where sharks live.  It was a funny conversation, but the lady talking was being sincere in expressing her fear.  She explained that if she never gets in the water she will never have to worry about getting eaten by a shark.  And I cannot argue with her logic.

But what about the coolness of the water on the skin?  What about experiencing the awesomeness of an afternoon swim?  Maybe a little belly surfing?  If her mind doesn’t change she will never be eaten by a shark, but she will also never experience the greatness of the water.

Listening to her talk got me to thinking about fear in general.  I wonder how many people think like this on other topics.  If I never try X, then I’ll never have to worry about Y.  I would have to guess that the number is quite high.

Fear rules many people’s lives.  They operate out of fear.  It dictates the terms of agreement in their life.  Fear decides what will happen and what will not happen.  Fear dictates a few things to me.  I will never skydive because if I don’t I will never hit the ground and die.  I will never bungee jump.  I’m sure there are more things that I will say “never” to doing.  My list expressly relates to extreme sports.

Fear can keep people from fixing broken relationships.  Fear can keep someone from experiencing the freedom of being debt free.  Fear can get in the way of someone earning their education certificate.  In the end fear does one thing…it gets in the way of everything.

If fear is getting in your way I offer one simple suggestion.   Think about the worst possible scenario and then ask yourself, “What’s the absolute worst thing that could happen?”  You could get rejected.  So what?  You could get your feelings hurt.  So what?

But what if the worst case doesn’t happen?  Fear will rob you if you let it, so don’t let it.

Have a great Monday!

Danny

Can You See How Family Drama Could Be Absolutely Draining?

Danny

Can You See How Family Drama Could Be Absolutely Draining?

In many instances you cannot kick family to the curb, although I’m sure many of us have wished we could!  The old saying “you don’t pick your family…” is true, but it doesn’t mean you have to be a door mat.

I don’t have nor have I ever had much family drama.  When I say this I am referring to my immediate family.  Of course there is the occasional soap opera segment, but for the larger picture of my life my sister, mom and dad and myself have all gotten along my peas and carrots.  I do understand this isn’t how it is for some people and I feel for the position in which they find themselves.

If someone is causing me drama over and over, I will simply eliminate them from my inner circle; I don’t have the time nor the patience to deal with drama.  “I’ve got a long way to go and a short time to get there…”

This isn’t always the case when it comes to family though.  So how do I believe is the best way to deal with family drama?  I’m not sure and all I can do is speculate, but I’ve witnessed the wrong way to do it.  I believe the wrong way to do it is to allow their drama to completely consume you or to drag you in every single time.  I would play my part as I would if I were playing a character in a play.  I would become the person I needed to be when I was around them, dish out some love and let anything and everything said roll off like water off a duck’s back.

I do this in my work environment.  I am around a lot of people who want to gossip around the water cooler.  I don’t participate, but I don’t tell them to shut up.  I just go about my business and don’t allow myself to get caught up in their shenanigans.   I think it takes a lot of discipline to disallow yourself from getting caught up in drama.  You must practice.  And even the best have a little drama stick to their shirt when they walk out, but it is at that moment that you brush off that drama and go about your business.

I’ve also witnessed a common mistake which is to always be the mediator.  This position in the drama dynamic carries the most burden in my opinion.  If siblings are not getting along and you take the position of being the one constantly listening to both sides independently and then trying to help them work things out, then plan on carrying all of their drama and burden around with you for a long time.  Maybe it is time to redefine your role in their relationship, meaning, stop getting in the middle and let them deal with it.

I also see a common mistake of not setting boundaries.  You cannot allow conversations to always revolve around the drama and it is important to set boundaries.  “I am not going to discuss XYZ any longer.  If you want to talk about ______, then you need to call him/her and talk to them.  Don’t call me any more to talk about them.”  And stick to your stance!  Hang up if you have to.  If you disengage from allowing them to consume conversations they will eventually get the point and your life will be a little less dramatized.

I also think it is okay to take time away from people; even family.  Family drama can become totally toxic and spoil your energy.  He said, she said…”can you believe what she did?”….”oh my god, he said what?”…and the worst “what do you think I should do?”.  All of these are designed to drag you back in.  What if you took a week-long break from it all?  How would no drama for 1 week impact your attitude?

I am just thinking out loud and of course am no psychologist so take my words as a different perspective perhaps.  I hope everyone has a great Saturday!

Danny