One of my all-time favorite games to play as a kid growing up in Louisiana was Hide and Seek. As the youngest, smallest kiddo in my neighborhood, I couldn’t play many games as well as the other kids. They were more athletic, funnier, and more creative than I. They made growing up on that street memorable. They were all like big brothers and sisters to me — allowing me to play whatever they played, but they were just more experienced at everything. The one thing that I did better than all of them, however, was hide — between things, under things, and on top of things. I could hear them out there. “Wow, where could she be? We can’t ever find her. How does she do that?”
Imagine me crouching between the old wash house and the tree that rained down pecans every time the wind blew. No one could…
Is It More Difficult Raising a Child In the 21st Century?
I wrote yesterday about bullying and how it is dangerous for everything to be viewed as such. It led one reader to email me and ask me how will I raise my children once Evelina and I start a family. This question intrigued me so I thought I’d drop a few letters together and formulate my thoughts. Here goes…
The types of things we have discussed that we would like to be a part of our parentology will be (in no particular order):
Understand that your parents love you no matter what, but sometimes we must discipline you. It’s for your own good.
Not all people are bad, bud not all people are good so don’t ride with strangers.
When you grow up you’ll realize the world is ruled by “nerds” so don’t be afraid to show your intelligence.
Befriend the kids that others make fun of and love the kid who teases; he or she is hurting inside badly.
Don’t rely solely on technology; look up occasionally!
Always do what you say you will do; your word will be incredibly important when you are an adult.
In all things show character; people will respect you for doing so.
Don’t talk about people behind their backs; mind your own business.
Keep your checkbook balanced.
If you can’t afford it, then you can’t afford it; do not accumulate credit card debt.
Things will always be things, but life is all about experience and memories; invest your energy into making memories.
Lie in the grass and stare at the clouds once in a while.
Forgive your parents, we’re not perfect and will make mistakes.
You have incredible value so expect others to treat you as such.
Volunteer your time to helping others.
Be a good friend.
Do not be afraid to dream big dreams. The great innovators didn’t become great by thinking “normal”.
Not everyone is meant for college so if your life course is a skilled trade then be the best skilled tradesman/woman you can be.
Always know that no matter how old you get, you’ll always be our little boy/girl.
Always know that your mother and father love you.
Obviously I have left a lot off of this list, but I have to end it somewhere. Evelina and I are putting together some of the values that we agree we want to instill in our kids. I’m not sure how many people have this conversation, but I think it is critical versus winging it. Of course, there is no definitive guide, but I believe couples need to talk about and have a common belief system; especially when it comes to disciplining children.
We have had this conversation about every aspect of our life thus far and it has not failed us so we are continuing the practice.
I never thought I’d use my bathroom as a place of refuge but over the years that’s what it turned into. It started off as a place I’d go to hoping for a moment to myself to collect my thoughts. By a moment, I literally mean that, a moment! I thought I’d take a page from my husband’s book and shut myself in the bathroom to take a breather. Turns out, that trick doesn’t work for me as well as it works for him! While he can go in and close the door and sit nearly as long as he likes, I have little hands knocking at the door, little high-pitched calls for my name, and fingers reaching under the door within a minute. I’m starting to think maybe I should leave the door open and see what happens when the mystery is taken away…
Last year was our first Christmas as a little family. Smeckle was six months old and although she didn’t have a bloody clue what was going on, she was what made Christmas come alive again. She was a reason for the magic and the best excuse for us to relive our childhood!
She received her first letter from Father Christmas which came through the post with a packet of reindeer mix that was of course left out on Christmas Eve, accompanied by a couple of beers which managed to go down a treat! She even managed to wangle a date with the big guy himself! She was given her own elf name, Joyful Sugarsocks, along with a little elf hat and was led through the colourful grotto to receive her gift from him and his helpers. There, we had a mini photo shoot and was able to pick from the…
Last night I became a Grandma. My son and his girlfriend got a little boy. This is really huge for me. This is my first Grand Kid and I feel so very happy
In short time, I will bring up some photos of the little boy
If you have followed my blog for longer time, you know, that I have two adult kids, a young man and a young woman. Both of them decided to get kids now, my daughter is pregnant and should give birth in February, so the happiness will be double up 😀
While I lay in ICU in the hospital, both of my kids visited me here in Spain. When I woke up, they both gave me these gifts by telling me, I would become 2 x Grandma, which absolutely gave me more to live and…