Last week, when the temperature suddenly plunged to around 8 degrees Celsius (about 45 Fahrenheit for anyone still using the Imperial system), I wanted to put our gas fireplace on, but it wouldn’t start. I did what I normally do, which was to utilize my incredible fireplace knowledge. In other words, I removed the screen, opened up the door at the bottom, and wiggled the wires. Nothing happened. I said to Ken, “I thought you had this thing fixed in April. Why won’t it work?” When we looked closer, we realized that one of the wires was loose. It looked all shock-y and dangerous, and Ken, who can normally do electrical work, plumbing, carpentry or generally anything trades-related, didn’t want to touch in on the grounds that “it looks weird”. So he called the fireplace people and on Friday, I had a visit from the fireplace repair guy (the actual…
“I have a little exercise that Cristolot gave me this week and I’d like to work on it with you.” That Dear Readers, was my first clue that this “little” exercise might be simple but it would not be easy. My coach Belinda Trussell trains with multiple Olympian Christilot Boylen. Christilot seldom comes up with any “easy” exercises. So here we go!
Starting from the side of the arena make a half circle to the right to the centerline.
Go straight on the centerline.
Change flexion and bend to the left and make a 10 meter circle to the left returning to the centerline.
Go straight on the centerline and change flexion and bend to the right and make a 10 meter circle to the right.
EXERCISE AT THE TROT.
Trot the 10 meter circle to the right and on reaching the centerline walk, straighten, then transition…
It’s actually empowering when I use the tools of my recovery and watch how things unfold. Last night I practiced “staying on my side of the street” and it was so easy and refreshing.
I was expecting my boyfriend to come over but when we were texting, his texts were very terse and he said he was going to get something to eat and didn’t know if he was coming over. Now let me just say that in the almost three years that we have been together, he has NEVER gone to get something to eat before he comes over. We always eat together. My initial reaction was a feeling that he was upset with me. In the past, I would have worried and fretted over it. I would have even prodded him to tell me what was bothering him. But not last night!
I have never been driven by money nor have I ever been tempted with material possessions. When I see people who want, want , want, I feel sorry for them. They desire for things that have no real value; things that will one day rot in a landfill or junk yard. I desire for things that have lasting value-friendship, love, compassion, etc.
Evelina and I have nice things, but I could be as content living in a 500 sq ft cinder block building. The only thing I must have is reliable transportation so a 1988 Honda Accord will do just fine.
When I observe people who are enamored with “stuff” I usually find someone who is a bit empty inside. They are trying to fill a void internally with stuff externally and it will never, ever work to fill that emptiness.
“I LOVE ME! Shout it from the rooftops. Allow every action you take to reinforce it. Be love. Be totally in love with yourself. Give yourself compliments. Take yourself out on dates. Spoil yourself. Just be LOVE.”
This is a page from my little book of Angelical Wisdoms and I decided tonight to open a page and write a blog on it.
This is a perfect one to start with, and lets face it – the hardest!
Daily life can totally get in the way of this. Shit happens and loving ourselves and feeling that super duper loved up feeling takes a back seat to everything else that is happening to us.
But here is the thing, I will let you on in a not so secret secret… this is the absolute BEST time to practice this, when shit is hitting the proverbial fan. When you feel like…
I am really bothered with so much in the world lately and there doesn’t seem like there’s much anyone can do to change anything. The government is so big and does as it pleases. Extremists on the right and left are in a contest to see who can puke their vileness on humanity the fastest. The majority of Americans are moderate, yet all I hear about on the news are ultras. The media is constantly pushing their agenda AND they might be the biggest hypocrites in the United States.
After typing that first paragraph I’m beginning to think it is time to unplug for a week or more to decompress and purge all the internet junk from my mind. That is my observation for today…
There was a time when I would never use sick days. In the golf business there wasn’t an opportunity to use sick time because there was no replacement staff; no one to call to come in to work. I would go to work sick and wore my dedication like a badge of honor. What I did not realize was that I wasn’t doing myself or anyone else any great favor by being “dedicated”.
Now I understand that sick time is designed to be used and for a few good reasons: 1. When your body doesn’t feel well it needs rest, and 2. You need to be respectful of others when you don’t feel well. The former is self-explanatory. But the latter is one of those things I never thought of until I got someone else sick and they got mad at me.
A few years back I went to work sick. One of my fellow employees who was pregnant at the time made one of those comments like “If I get sick because of you I’m going to be mad. You need to go home.” Of course I didn’t go home and as you can imagine by now, she got sick. And she was mad. She took her time off work and then yelled at me for not being more considerate and staying home. Her point was valid and I hadn’t thought about how unfair it was to others to walk around spreading my germs.
Part of being human is about relationships with other humans and being considerate; considering the feelings and views of others when making decisions. It doesn’t take much effort to stop and evaluate how your actions might impact another human and I highly recommend doing so from time-to-time.