Do A Lot Of People Really Do All They Can Do?

DannyThe other day Tremaine at A Cornered Gurl (give her a visit!!) and I had a discussion in the comments of one of my posts about life not owing you anything. You can read the thread here  The basic premise of Tre’s comment was that there are tons of people who do everything in their power to get ahead and fail to do so because of people in higher positions not giving them the opportunity to advance.  My return question to Tre was to ask if there really are “a ton” of people who do all they can do.

My opinion on this is based on my experience and other’s opinions will vary, but I don’t see a lot of people in this world doing everything in their power to advance.  Are there people who give their all?  Yes.  Are there a ton of people who do so?  No.

To give one’s all is to use every moment of every day to figure out a way to achieve one’s goal.  To do everything in one’s power does not mean to work hard.  To give one’s all supersedes hard work; it is an unquenchable, burning flame of desire to possess what it is one wants.  To give one’s all is an obsessive, definiteness of purpose.    It is more than showing up every day.  To give one’s all means someone is so determined to get to their goal that they will do anything and everything necessary to do so.  I don’t know many people who possess this type of drive; present company included.

So I stand by my assertion that very few people actually give their all.  Very few people do everything in their power.  And when I say very few I am guessing that number is in the low single-digit percentile.

Danny’s World: MS Can’t Hold Me Down-Obstacles Are Designed To Be Overcome

I know a lot of my readers suffer from chronic pain and I try to be an example of how to fight back.  Today I went for a quick walk.  I didn’t want to and my body yelled at me every step of the way, but I know I have to do it.  I look at exercise like this…if I don’t force my body to move, then MS wins.  I know a lot of you don’t exercise because you have told me so.  You have said it hurts too bad.  You have said you are too tired.  I get it.

I almost had to call Evelina to come and get me, but I didn’t.  I willed myself to finish what I started because in the long run it will benefit me more than sitting around doing nothing.  Do you think I want to?  No, I would rather sit and do nothing.

To those who tell me they cannot I would challenge you to begin thinking about what you can do instead of what you cannot do.  If you can only walk to the end of the driveway then do so.  If you can do arm lifts from your chair, then do so.  If you can swim in the pool, then do so.  Do what you can do, but don’t settle for doing nothing.

And it begins by putting one foot in front of the other.

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For the past few weeks, for some reason, I haven’t had a lot of interest in blogging.   Part of it is laziness, but the truth is I’m having trouble thinking of new things to write about.   I’m finally sort of over writing about narcissism, and feel like there’s nothing new to add to the subject.   I feel like I’ve moved on — but where to?  I’m not sure right now.   It’s not really writer’s block.   I can write, but unless I actually care about what I’m writing about, why bother?  I feel vaguely guilty about this but can’t explain why.

I’m deeply interested in political matters these days, and I think that shows.  I’m still reluctant to write a lot about the political situation, but I’ve broken my rule to stay away from politics on this blog several times now.  I’ve toyed with the idea…

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Why You Should Never Ever Listen to Naysayers

Do you believe anything you have desire for can come to fruition in your life?  I ask this because I know there are millions of people who do not believe this principle.  I have said over and over that if you can believe it in your soul, envision it in your mind, then you can make your desire a tangible thing in the real world.  The issue is many don’t have true desire and most don’t have the mental fortitude to see things through to the end.

I want to share an impossible story with you I found on USA Today which demonstrates why you should never ever listen to naysayers:

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Joe Thomas Sr, 55, became the oldest Division I football player to take the field when he took a hand-off and ran for three yards on Saturday afternoon.

Joe Thomas Sr. made college football history by appearing as a running back for South Carolina State.

Thomas at the age of 55 is believed to be the oldest player to participate in a Division I football game. The father of Green Bay Packers linebacker Joe Thomas Jr.,  practiced with the team with his son and then stayed on the past two seasons with the hope of find his way into a game.

His dream was realized in the first quarter on senior day against Savannah State when he carried for three yards.

Do you think Thomas Sr. had people in his life, in his own family, telling him this was a crazy idea?  Of course he did, but he listened to himself and ignored those who told him his dream was “impossible.”  You should stop listening to naysayers as well; they are holding you back.

Don’t tell me dreams can’t come true.

 

How To Understand the True Struggle In Life

Life is not easy and anyone who tells you otherwise is lying or has never put forth much effort.  

It is my belief that the real struggle in life isn’t against getting ahead or finding success. Our struggle isn’t against the system or against other people.  Our struggle isn’t even against ourselves.  Humanity’s struggle is one against desire; we want more-more money, more recognition, more love, more friends, more promotions, more stuff.  

More, more, more.  If it exists, then we want it.  

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Desire is the root cause of all evil

The Buddha

Some would argue that this quote is better translated as “craving is the root of all suffering” which says what I believe to be the essence of the statement.  The undisciplined mind will focus on that which it does not possess and will crave those things leaving us wanting.  And it is this disconnect and discontent that creates in us feelings of inadequacy. Buddha realized this and warned us to put off craving for material possessions.

I believe Jesus had a similar belief in the struggle against desire and human nature.

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Image depicting what Jesus would most likely have looked like based on anthropological data.  Stark contrast to the European blond hair, blue eyed depiction.

If you want to be perfect, go, sell your possessions and give to the poor, and you will have treasure in heaven.

Jesus of Nazareth

Whereas Buddha was referencing more the struggle here on Earth, Jesus was taking the concept one step further when he begins to speak of the spiritual nature of life. Nonetheless, there is still a clear statement that perfection or contentment comes when human beings realize that separation from the desire to possess is necessary.

Do you realize this essential principle?  Do you understand that 100% of your struggles relate to your desire to possess things which you don’t currently have?   Do you recognize this truth and are you willing to separate from craving in order to become content with the person you are right now?  Are you willing to accept yourself with all of your flaws and deficiencies?

It is my belief that until each person comes to terms with desire and craving that he/she will never be truly content.  

Desire will always be man’s downfall.  

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I believe these types of questions about mistakes, are the beginning of change. You cannot change until you spend time in introspection and ask yourself the hard questions!

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Oops I Did It Again!

Are we doomed to repeat past decisions? Worse yet, are we doomed to repeat past mistakes?

That friendship which ended with a showdown? That abusive relationship? That bad business decisions? That wasteful month where you ate your way into extra large jeans? All tendencies. All patterns. Ones that may make a comeback.

Is it a character flaw? Is it conditioning? Is it fear? Is it fate?

No matter what it is, it happens without fail. We can learn from our mistakes but avoiding tendencies is a whole different battle. So how do you fight it? How do you make it stop? How do you break the cycle?

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Why I Am So Positive: My Life Ain’t That Bad

I had a question posed to me this week: how are you always so positive considering you have secondary progressive MS?  Well the truth is I don’t live my life in a continuous state of positivity.  I write a blog that focuses on learning how to transform oneself from an under-achiever, non-doer into a personimages (1) of organization, purpose, plan and action; full of desire and ambition.  It takes a lot of work to remain positive.

Honestly, I am more positive now in life because the alternative is not acceptable.  I will not allow myself to go to the dark side and focus on how crappy life can be, how crappy people can be, how I hate my job, how life just keeps putting it to me.  I just refuse to allow my mind to think it those terms.

Why?  Because I choose to focus very little on the negative, while focusing heavily on the positive as I work toward achieving my goals.

This does not mean I am not aware of the negatives.  I do not live my life with my head buried in the sand.  I simply will not allow myself to use valuable life energy to focus on negatives.  It is not productive, thus I find productive things on which to focus.

It is not easy and takes much effort to live a life focusing on the positive.  Part of me wants to give in and just become negative.  I do not talk about my MS, too often.  I do not complain about my MS pain, too often.  I do not complain about not playing golf anymore, too often.  I do not complain about having to take my Copaxone shot 3 times per week, too often.

I think many people would understand if I did complain.  AND I know a lot of chronic sufferers that complain incessantly, most of whom I give a hall pass because I know what it feels like to hurt.  But I will not give in.  I will not relent.  I choose to fight.  I choose to stay positive.  I choose my mentality.  I choose my future!

I am positive because it is the one thing I get to control. 

To those that live a life of negativity I say: suck it up buttercup.  I bet there’s a kid in a third-world country that would give a limb to switch places with you and do it without hesitation.  We have it easy in civilized societies; we are so incredibly spoiled. Most of us suffer from first-world problems and act as if the world is coming to an end.

ProblemsWe don’t have to walk 5 miles one way to carry back dirty water to our families.  Water that will kill millions of kids each year.  We don’t have to worry about polio, AIDS, diphtheria, measles, deadly enfluenza, lions, tigers or bears!  Seriously, the next time you start complaining, stop and listen to yourself.  What are you complaining about?  Take action, change your position, change your future.  You have the freedom to do so.

You ARE the answer to your own problems; start acting like it.

Why do I choose to remain positive?  Because I live in a country that allows me to write a blog to help others.  I live in a country where I can speak to MS patients and let them know someone cares.  I live in a country that allows me to turn my life into whatever I want it to be.

Why do I choose to remain positive?  Because when all is said and done, my life ain’t that bad!

Think And Grow Rich – Napoleon Hill Part 2

This is an excerpt I found on Desire and Achieve from Napoleon Hill’s book Think and Grow Rich. It describes Hill’s belief of how faith is used in achieving any goal. Great read!

(as always, please be mindful to leave any comments here and with the original blogger.  thnx. D)

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Faith is required for success, not hope, not wishes but faith. You need to constantly invasion yourself as a millionaire, see the money in your hands, imagine seeing the 7 digits on your bank balance and imagine yourself in your dream house. All accomplishment comes your way once you imagine yourself there.

“Faith is the head chemist of the mind. When faith is blended with the vibration of thought, the subconscious mind instantly picks up the vibration, translates it into its spiritual equivalent, and transmit it to Infinite Intelligence.”

How To Develop Faith

The art of developing faith in your dreams is being able to trick your subconscious mind into believing your goals will soon be a reality. If you can make you subconscious mind believe you are a successful person, you will begin to become one in reality.

1. Repetition. Constantly reassure yourself that you will be…

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The Bizarro World Version of Dream Big, Dream Often

IMG_7127I have been thinking about something I wrote a week or so ago about an exercise a college professor had us do to gain perspective on a topic: argue the opposite of your belief.  So I thought I would write an article on why it is not necessary to do anything that relates to self-improvement or personal development.  I am also not going to edit this, it will be honest and freely associated.  I have no clue how this is going to turn out, but here goes anyway:

Too many people think it is necessary to continue to work on themselves.  Why can’t we just appreciate where we are, who we are and what we are in the moment.  So many people are focused on the future that they completely miss the present. What if, while planning this super awesome future, you died and missed out on life right here, right now?   I am reminded of the John Lennon line “Life is what happens to you while you’re busy making other plans.”

Plus, shouldn’t we accept ourselves for who we are.  If I’m a little overweight and that’s the way I want to be, then so be it.  If I don’t make a lot of money, but I am content, then so be it.  If I don’t like or have no desire to exercise then so be it.  Life isn’t always about me trying to be a greater version of myself.  What if I like me for exactly who I am, exactly the way I am?

Companies are constantly attacking our self-confidence with advertising, inferring that we are not good enough, smart enough, happy enough, pretty enough until we buy their product.  Then we will be happy.  Then we will be pretty.  Then we will have tons of friends and be popular.

Then you have websites encouraging us to “Do These 5 Things in Order to Achieve Happiness.”  If I spent my time online reading all the advice on how to make me happy I would’ve missed out on my trip to the balloon festival.  Now that is living life.  I saw friends I haven’t seen in over a year, breathed in some incredible fall air and got to see hundreds of balloons in the air!

But back to the “me being me” talk.  Why is it necessary for me to change?  Why should I have to make more money?  Why do I need to listen to anyone that says I am not okay just the way I am?  Isn’t life going to happen regardless?  And I will change in time so why put so much effort into it?

Why do I have to have this elaborate plan?  Why do people keep telling me I have to have goals?  I don’t have to do anything.  What if I just want to work my job, hang out with my friends and be okay with that?

I have zero desire to conquer the world.  All I want to do is enjoy my little bit of peace and quiet on this little rock as it spins around the universe.  If people around me would just accept me for who I am it would make my life a whole lot less dramatic AND a whole lot easier.

I am okay with my spot in life.  I like my friends.  I like my job.  I like where I live.  So why can’t everyone else be okay with it also?

How would you counter this viewpoint if this was debate class?