To add or not to add?

Getting Fit For Forty!

Getting Fit For Forty

If you had taken the time to read my last post you will have seen that I had decided to attempt to write a “Bucket List”. This is something I haven’t done before and also when considering what to include in it, I realised I wasn’t sure even how to get started.

I mean, writing a “Bucket List” is a personal list of things to achieve before you die. A list of things that are seemingly unachievable during your daily routine but are things you aim to have achieved should you be given the opportunity. This therefore should be fairly straight forward right? Then why am i struggling to come up with some of them?

I believe the majority of people who take the time to read this post will have agreed with my last statement and will naturally be sat there thinking, yeah so what…Why cant you get…

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Is It Time for You to Find Your Inner Spectacular?

I was thinking today and a question came to mind: Why aren’t there more amazing and spectacular people?  Before you get your feathers ruffled, I am not referring to being a great person but to accomplishing great, amazing things.  Why are there not more Steve Jobs, Michael Jordans, Muhammad Alis, Thomas Edisons, Edwin C. Barnes,  etc.?

I believe that every single human being has in them the potential for great and amazing things; a light, a spark.  Bill Gates was once quoted as saying, “I don’t believe there is anything unique about human intelligence,” and I could not disagree more.  I know as sure as anything I’ve ever experienced that human intelligence is what makes each of us so incredibly unique and special.

 

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It allows us to experience the exact same world in 7.125 billion different ways.  But, with that said why do so many of us sacrifice our uniqueness and allow “life” to squeeze us through a sieve and mold us into individuals that, all to often, fear being different?  If you believe and understand that there are no two human beings that are the same, why do we teach to conform?

We should be teaching the individual to celebrate and announce his or her uniqueness from the mountain top!!!

But as we learn quickly in life, the norm will move swiftly to extinguish any hint of creativity or originality.

Take for example how teenagers learn (I’ll use my teen years as example).  If you don’t wear a Members Only jacket or glacier glasses, you are out.  If you don’t own a pair of Vans, you are out.  If you don’t like Break Dancing, you are out.  I realize I am dating myself, but if nothing else maybe it got a couple laughs.

From a very young age we are conditioned to go with the norm and to keep our uniqueness to a minimum.  After all no one wants to be different lest they be branded the “weird kid.”

After college it is expected that you will get a good job, pay taxes, buy a car and that is the path to becoming a contributing member of society.  Then get married, start a family, raise your family, retire and enjoy the fruits of your hard work.  And I guess there’s nothing wrong with that, but what about living a life that is spectacular?

Is that not possible for us all?  Are we supposed to believe that all there is to life is paying rent or mortgages, bills and hoping one day to have enough to retire?  There has to be more.  If not, I’m checking out.

I challenge each of you to try something new and different.  Find something that is so outside of your “world” or comfort zone and participate.  What is one thing you would be afraid to do?  Sky dive, public speaking, hold a spider?  How about something you’ve always wanted to do but have not?   Guitar lessons, enter an open mic night,  join a poetry club, start up a band!, take a class at the community college, join a theater group or VOLUNTEER YOUR TIME AT A LOCAL CHARITY!!

I want you to challenge yourself.  Show yourself you are capable.  This world is here for us to experience and it is time for more of us to do so!  Get uncomfortable and reignite that spark that makes you, YOU!  It is time to break the mold that life presses us into and spread those wings and fly!

 

Open or Closed Door?

Being open-minded does not mean you have to change. It only means you are willing to listen and experience a different point of view. Are you open? Or are you closed?

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Are you an OPEN or CLOSED door?

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In the world do you show up open to people or are you closed? By this I mean, do you attempt to meet people with an open-mind or a closed one. I have become more open-minded, and open-hearted about others, as I have been learning to love and accept myself more.  As I got older, I also noticed as a teacher that I felt more love and connection with my students, and I learned so much about life from them.

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There is a real down side to NOT being open with all kinds of people of all races, cultures, and sexual orientations. You miss out on getting to know interesting, intelligent, and fun people when you remain closed in your thinking. You miss opportunities to eat their delicious food or hear different kinds of music. You are also cutting…

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Be open-minded

Do not limit your experiences by limiting your thinking. Open your mind, open your world!

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Maybe I’m particularly open-minded when it comes to my circle of friends… I have gay friends, lesbian friends, black friends, Indian friends, colored friends, rich friends, poor friends, you name it!!! But it goes beyond “not seeing in color”, I see my friends for what they are, but I ‘accept them for who they are’, and whatever other clichés you wanna chuck in there…

How can you not be that open-minded though?! Like, older generation I understand, but as a young South African, how can you admittedly say you only want to interact with about 2% of the population?! How boring!! Stop mingling with people who think the same as you, study the same thing, come from the same wealth-class, from the same culture… Open your eyes, open your mind, and you’ll realize you can learn a shitload from “different” people.

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Why Do Folks Do What They Do?

We have been discussing opinions and the difference of being opinionated. This topic is leading my thoughts to what makes us the person that eventually has informed or uninformed opinions. What happens that makes a tick and tock?

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Why do folks do what they do?

Is it because of them or is it you?

Maybe it’s the witness standing by,

Pushing a point, like a poke in the eye.

Ask a question, expect a response,

One comes back like a cat on the pounce,

Dang that hurt, not what I expected,

Right in the eye, a bit of expectorate!

They’ve said they love me, what happened to that?

Three strikes you’re out! Like Casey at the bat.

Is what we have no longer valuable?

Or perhaps our love is a bit too malleable.

Lest I be too quick to judge,

It’s best I simply weave and dodge,

Live to fight another day,

Or forgive and forget, who’s to say?

– Wint

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How to Find Your Creative Spark and Ignite Your Life!

Several years ago I remember having a conversation with a friend about food.  What types of exotic foods we had eaten, which were our favorites and what we disliked.  I recall my part of the conversation being short as it has only been in recent years that I have moved off of the southern delights of fried chicken, mashed potatoes, fried okra and corn; on the cob or off!

But what is so vivid in my memory for some reason is my friends challenge to me to step out and try new things. And it was out of that conversation that I realized that I loved broccoli. I had spent the majority of my adult life explaining to people when presented with the veggie that I didn’t like it. I can’t recall why I didn’t like broccoli nor why I had never tried it since I was a kid.

And as a matter of fact the memory of first tasting it and deciding I didn’t like it escapes me. But none the less I had decided in my mind that I did not like broccoli therefore broccoli was not a food option.  I am thankful now that many years ago I tried broccoli and realized I loved it as now it is one of my favorite vegetables.

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This veggie situation got me to thinking about the dilemma that some have when starting to design a life of success.  Step one is deciding on what you want, what you have desire for, and stating it to the universe.  But how do you begin when you don’t know what you have desire for?

So here’s my answer: you have to experiment in life to determine what might release desire in your heart. Just as I stepped out and gave broccoli a new place in my life, you must be open to new things in order to find passion and desire!  Until I started writing I did not realize how much I loved it.  It has become more than something to do, often times it is my therapy, my release from stress. It releases in me a creative juice that permeates all parts of my life.  I think we treat our life sometimes like I treated broccoli. We don’t know what we will like because we close ourselves off to the opportunities!

There is true desire and passion inside of every single human being. Some have a desire to serve and help people. Some have a desire for business and money. Some have a desire to write. Some have a desire to draw. Some have a desire to fly. What you must do is retrain your thinking, start saying yes to more experiences in life that will open up the creative spark inside of you and awaken your desire. (If you haven’t watched Yes Man starring Jim Carey do so).  Think of life as a Chinese buffet bar.

And when you are standing in front of that buffet bar with your empty plate don’t go automatically to the things that you already know you like.  Fill your plate up with things that you have never tasted before or have passed over.  I am going to promise you some of those items on that plate you very well may not like. But, you may find one new item that you had never given the opportunity before and it may become your new favorite Chinese buffet bar item!

There is such a big, beautiful world in which we live, full of amazing and spectacular things to do and experience.  Yet, we sit in our cubicle and type away.  And that might be okay for work, but that is not okay for LIFE!!

from the movie Office Space

from the movie Office Space

Life was not meant to be lived in a cubicle. And many of us struggle with desire because our life has become so normal and ordinary, that we haven’t taken the time to expand ourselves by expanding our life experiences! Our routines have numbed us to the amazing world we live in; and many of us live with dying spirits.

So, step one to developing desire is to get outside of your “world.”  Go to the park and kick a ball, experience being a kid again by finger painting, make a mess, cut your own hair, take a picture, paint a picture, skip a stone, go fishing, fly a kite, get grass stains on your jeans, play in the rain, lay in the grass and watch clouds, go hiking….Scream at the top of your lungs and sing a song.

Break that shell and declare yourself to the world!  Once you have awakened the creative spark, finding your passion is right around the corner!

Just a thought for a Thursday morning…

Why Mentoring Matters…

Why does mentoring matter? Read this post!

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For many, many years of mentoring, I’ve witnessed the changing of lives both young and old. Because of mentoring received throughout my young and adult years, it has allowed me to grow, learn, step outside of my comfort zone and reach for the stars. It has truly impacted my personal and professional life. Everyone should have a mentor or two. The role of a mentor is to encourage the personal and professional development of a mentee through the sharing of knowledge, expertise and experience.

Mentoring is giving advice or direction to someone using your own experiences to provide guidance. It also involves tutoring, skills training and coaching. Research shows that young people showed an increased belief in their abilities to succeed in school and felt less anxiety related to peer pressure. Your setbacks or struggles, where you have succeeded or failed is the best form of…

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Mentoring – Good or Bad?

Here are some great suggestions to keep in mind when finding a mentor.

Mentoring – is it a good thing or not?  I came across this article by James Caan and thought it was worth sharing.  Please let me know your views.  

Find a mentor who can give your business a helping hand

How important is it to have a mentor? Columnist James Caan explains what a mentor could do for your business.

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James Caan: My father was my mentor – without him, I’m not sure I’d have made it. Photograph: Alamy

Is it essential to have a mentor? If so, how can I find one and what help should I expect?

The practical advice and guidance a mentor can offer is priceless. Not only can they help you avoid business hiccups, they can share words of wisdom that are invaluable, be your stirrup during struggles and share your happiness and excitement during good times. They’ve been there, done that and…

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10 Lies That Are Keeping You From Success

Too often I read emails from people expressing how they would love to participate in a certain activity, profession, adventure, etc., but cannot because (insert list of excuses here).  Sometimes things we want to do are unattainable.  I understand that at this point in life I am probably not going to be an astronaut; and I am okay with that.

But I think we learn to make excuses too quickly and learn to accept the status quo way to easily.   And then sometimes we simply learn to lie to ourselves.  And the lying is tough to swallow.  I have compiled my list of the 10 basic lies we tell ourselves that are keeping us from success (success defined as achieving any goal):

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1.  I am too old/it is too late.  It is never too late to do the right thing and it is never too late to chase your dreams!  The longer you procrastinate the older you will be when you begin…so begin now. Lots of people look back on life with regrets…don’t be one of those people.

2.  I don’t have any money.  I can say this is at the top of most people’s excuse/lie list.  You can create “extra” money right now if you eliminate lots of unnecessary spending: Starbucks, cable tv, satellite radio, expensive or multiple car payments, etc.  You don’t need more money, you need a better budget!

3.  It’s safer to work for someone else.  I guess that is one way to look at life.  Here’s another: your future is never safe when someone else has the power to terminate you!  “If you do not build your dream, then someone else will hire you to help build theirs!” –  Dhirubhai Ambani.  And just because something is safer, does not mean it is better!

4.  It’s not the right time.  Those that have kids know there is never a perfect time in life to have kids and so it is with dream chasing.  If you wait on perfect timing, you will find yourself waiting your entire life.  And then you realize time has passed you by!  

5.  I can’t afford to fail.  Do yourself a favor and Google the top 10 wealthiest, self-made people.  Their careers are littered with failed businesses and bankruptcies.  Failing is the greatest teacher. And although failing might be part of the game, it is not the end of the game.

6.  I’m not smart enough.  If this lie is in your mind, then add an additional step to your plan: get more education.  Enroll in a night class at your local community college.  Or take advantage of free educational opportunities online!

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7.  It’s too much work.  Nothing worth having comes easy and things that come easy usually don’t have high value.  Sitting on your couch gaming, eating Cheetos, texting your friends and picking your nose hasn’t launched you into the stratosphere so let’s develop a work ethic.

8.  I am not good enough.  I was hired to run a golf course as the golf pro at age 27.  I kind of knew what I was doing, but wasn’t 100% prepared.  I learned how to do the job by doing the job.  You will never have complete knowledge of any topic so stop believing this lie.  You will never be fully prepared to do anything in life, but it should not keep you from moving forward. Ever heard the saying “fake it till you make it?”

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9.  Change is too scary.  The only thing in life that is consistent is change.  Friend circles change, jobs change, people change, cars, schools, policies,  finances, etc.  Everything changes and it can be scary sometimes, but everything will be fine.  Change can be a good thing as it can serve as the catalyst for advancing yourself.  Also, if your dreams don’t scare the crap out of you, then you aren’t dreaming big enough.

10.  It’s just not realistic at this point in life.  My least favorite word is “realistic.”  To me when someone says be realistic, I hear them say just settle for the norm like the rest of the herd!   Being realistic is a matter of perspective: let your imagination run crazy and refuse to be realistic!

I want you to stop and spend a few moments taking inventory of yourself: what lies have you allowed or are you allowing to rob you of advancing yourself or reaching a goal?  Feel free to share with me in the comments!

20 Things To Do When You Are 30 That Will Make Life Better At 50

This is such a great list, and one of my favorite finds from StumbleUpon, especially the first 2.  I love this type of list because it forces me to take personal inventory.  Read, contemplate, take action, make a change.  Happy Sunday to all! 

http://www.the-open-mind.com/20-things-to-do-when-youre-30-that-will-make-life-better-at-50/
  

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