Sometimes I Only See My Perspective, Which Is A Problem
I try to be open-minded, but I will be honest and admit that when it comes to getting things done I want them done my way if I am going to be involved in the process. If you come and ask me for advice I’ll explain to you what I would do, but then it’s on you as to what you decide. But if I’m going to be involved in helping you then I’ll expect you to follow my plan.
Guess what? It doesn’t always end as I plan. Imagine that.
Here’s why I am the way I am. I am a thinker. I am a planner. I exhaust all possibilities and work through the decision tree like a beaver chewing through wood. By the time I’ve developed a plan I have made sure that the plan is well thought out, is thorough and most importantly, will work.
I train entire divisions and my plan and strategy works if the group I’m working with will implement the process I’ve developed; and it works to perfection. There’s not one single detail of my plan that happened by accident. The groups that stick to the plan experience growth. Those that do not continue to struggle.
Here’s the big issue: I have to be flexible enough to allow each group to own the process in their own, unique way. This way the process becomes theirs, not mine, and they own it completely. I have to be malleable in my thinking to allow them to bend and mold things to their thoughts and actions. This isn’t always easy for me.
My first thought is “I’ve put all this work to developing this system, just work the system as it stands!” But that isn’t how life works. People want to make something their own and if my mind is rigid, then the training will be less effective.
I think many people think like this as it relates to opinions and beliefs. “I believe XXX, why can’t they just see things the way I see things?” I experience this quite often in religion. “I believe in Jesus and if you don’t believe Jesus is the answer then I’m not going to associate with you.” Or, “I believe in Allah and if you don’t believe like me then…”. And I don’t think I even need to bring up politics.
The point is as open-minded as I like to say I am, I find myself being judgmental and closed-minded quite often. It seems that what I say out of my mouth sounds good, especially when I type it on a blog. But what happens in my mind is often less open than I’d like to admit.
By habit we naturally want to say what we know we should say; possibly even what others want to hear.
I sense that I am going down the rabbit hole so I’ll get back to my point. When we are rigid in our perspective and closed to having our opinions moved, then I think we rob ourselves of the opportunity to learn and grow. Of course we should stick to our core principles, but we should approach life open and ready to learn.
I think it was Mark Twain who said “Travel is fatal to prejudice, bigotry, and narrow-mindedness.” When we realize how big the world is and how many varying cultures, opinions and views there are, then we begin to realize that we might be narrow-minded.
So right now I am going to begin my reformation be admitting to myself and the world that I think I’m actually much more narrow-minded than I would care to admit. But I’m set on changing that.
Hope you have a wonderful weekend!