My A – Z Codependency Challenge – D

Diary of a Recovering Codependent

Denial, Delusional, Deceit, Debacle 

Oh good grief! When I started this little A-Z challenge I don’t think I really thought it through well. I’m laughing at myself now because it’s only day 4 and who wants to admit these damn words?

Delusional: having false or unrealistic beliefs or opinions – Yep, I had false and unrealistic beliefs of my life. I believed my life was good for the most part. I believed I was truly helping people who needed me. I believed someone loved me when they told me they loved me. I believed I was put here to help others regardless of what it did to me. I believed my needs, wants, hurts, disappointments, even successes were not as important as yours. Oh good Lord was I delusional!

Denial: disbelief in the existence or reality of a thing – Yep, I lived in denial. I did not believe how…

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Danny’s World: Safety, Release and Escape

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Have you ever wondered why so many people blog?  I ponder the world of blogging daily as I answer emails and comments and the online world intrigues me.  Why do we participate in this activity.  What is it about publishing posts and interacting with others virtually that is so appealing?

Danny's iphone 022As I sat this morning staring at the ocean and drinking my coffee I can’t help but wonder if it is some combination of safety, release and escape.

By safety I am referencing how difficult it is these days to truly know you can trust people in the real world.  I could be wrong, but in this age it is becoming increasingly more difficult to know if people can be trusted.

By release I mean having the freedom to purge the soul with complete freedom; free of the chains of reservation.

And, lastly, by escape I am referring to getting away from the “real” world and entering the virtual world of blogging.  The blogosphere seems to be much more accepting of different, flawed, wounded, injured, etc. than the offline world.

Personally, I like having the freedom to purge my brain and controlling exactly what I say exactly how I want to say it.  I don’t get this freedom in the real world where I constantly think before I speak, hesitate and hedge my thoughts.

For me blogging is freedom to vent and purge.

 

Danny’s World: No One Is Obligated To Like Your Page

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One of the toughest things for bloggers to accept is the fact that no one is obligated to like your page.  This is tough because most bloggers believe they produce good stuff.  Most bloggers want people to interact with their page.  Most bloggers desire comments, views and LIKEs.   When all is said and done people have a lot of options: television, books, other blogs, Netflix, Yahoo, etc.  In today’s age there are a lot of distractions and even more options.

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I have always said getting people to my page is the easy part; getting them to return to my page is the true challenge.  With that said I still understand people do not have to read my page, therefore I must give them a reason to want to return.  I have to add value to the lives of my readers.  The same applies to all bloggers.

Most visitors to my page are silent readers which means they might give me a LIKE, but probably will not leave a comment.  I am perfectly fine with this fact as I myself practice being a silent reader.  I will comment on a page if I feel prompted to do so which happens infrequently.

The biggest key to getting someone to comment is to be “remarkable”; your post must be worthy of someone making a remark.  If the post is not worthy of a remark,  people will not remark.  This pattern is evident in the volume of views I receive daily compared to the number of comments daily.   I’m not exactly sure what the trick is to producing remarkable content, although I am able to recognize it when I see it.  I guess it has to do with the topic, bold opinions or maybe the article is well-researched.  Whatever the case I know the post cannot be ordinary.

What are your thoughts?

 

Today’s Featured Blog is…Pamela D. Beverly!!

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2012 Book Fair

Image Credit: Virginia Festival of the Book

Yesterday I participated in a local book festival.

Can’t get those six hours back.

A big goose egg.

Zero.

Nada.

Zilch.

And no, the photo above is not from the book festival I was a part of yesterday although I did attend that festival about five years ago.

At yesterday’s festival, there were probably more author and vendors than customers. And from what I could see from my table, those that were there weren’t buying much. Those authors lucky enough to have any sales seemed to be children’s authors.

Is it the demographic? I’m wondering. The genre? I don’t know.

Do you?

Or is just basically a crapshoot?

The hours I spent writing, editing, proofreading, having my manuscript proofread, edited, formatted, deciding on a cover design, working on my blog, marketing.

Spending money.

Lots of moo-lah.

Why? What’s my motivation?

I’m starting to wonder ’cause this…

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5 DIY Jewelry Cleaning Hacks

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Do you have that one pair of earrings you wore so much that they got tarnished and you just didn’t know how to clean? Bust them out and open your pantry because we have a quick and inexpensive fix. These DIY’s will literally take you minutes and won’t cost you an extra penny!

1. Tomato ketchup acts as a great household silver and sterling silver jewelry cleaner. because of the natural acids present in it.

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Just take the silver accessory, place it in a small bowl of ketchup, roll it around a bit for 5-10 minutes, remove from the ketchup, and clean the crevices with a toothpick. Voila! Say goodbye to the tarnished silver.

2. Aluminum foil, dish detergent, and baking soda bring the sheen back to hard stones like diamonds or crystal rhinestones, and platinum jewelry.

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Take a bowl and line it with a square of aluminum foil. Then pour the salt, baking…

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Blog Networking: 5/23/17

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Blog networking is one of the most undervalued and underused strategies for most.  But I believe it is at the core for growing a blog.

You will find links in this post to help eliminate some of the work; all you have to do is LIKE, COMMENT and FOLLOW others. The more you network with other blogs, the more other blogs will network with you!

(click How to Network Your Blog to view yesterday’s post)

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Another Hospital Trip, Another Purple Dress

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I am late to the party on this daily prompt word (it is from Saturday). However, when I finally checked it I couldn’t resist as it is the perfect word on so many levels.

  1. On Friday at 2:20 pm (exactly 2 hours late), I was wheeled into the operating room for my hernia repair. The on-again-off-again-on-again surgery was finally happening. Since I only had around 48 hours notice, I was feeling better about it – not so much time to stress out.
  2. Much of the stress I was feeling about moving also melted away with the surgery. I can’t lift for 2-6 weeks and we are going to be in our new place two weeks from today (Saturday). I have packed about all I can and now I just leave it in the capable hands of Hubby, friends and, of course, God.
  3. I was able to handle…

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Dizzy, MS and possible redundancy…

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Me and Dizzy had abit of a stressful week last week. For the first time we’re facing possible redundancy and it’s got us thinking about employment and MS.

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Having MS has always made me feel vulnerable when it comes to work. I’m one of those people that worries far to much about letting people down and I’ve always worried what my employers would think. Would they think I was too unreliable? Not fit for the job? This is partly why I kept my condition a secret at work until recently. As it turned out they’ve been amazing about it! 🙂

Loads of positives have come from this and it’s made me feel so much more secure in my job. Until this. First I sat and worried about whether my condition would effect their decision and then I also started worrying if I am made redundant what do you tell people at an interview?! I know it’s illegal…

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Today’s Featured Blog is… Fierce. Fabulous.Funny!!

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I read a blog today titled “Write Your Own Song”. It was so inspirational and true to my beliefs, I felt the need to share it. I would highly encourage you to read it.

I love to walk in the mornings. I love the outdoors. Being outdoors, breathing in the air, soaking in the sunshine is so healing for me. I especially love walks on the beach. The sound of the ocean is music to my ears. I love it. I listen to music on my walks while I reflect and pray. It’s my personal “me” time. Whether I’m outside or at the gym, music is my lifeline. My escape. I was listening to one of my favorite 80’s band this morning. For those of you that remember The Outfield, you can relate when I say, their music is still awesome today as it was all those years ago.

I…

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