You Should Dare To Be a Rower, Not a Rocker

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You Should Dare To Be a Rower, Not a Rocker…

A friend once said to me “Those who are busy rowing don’t have time to rock the boat.”

For some reason this adage has landed on me hard.  In today’s world you find there are people who are really good at manipulating and they are not always genuine when they make inquiries of what is going on in your world.  They seek out conversations to steal snippets, take them out of context and then use them as ammunition to slander.

You learn who these people are the hard way and I have learned.

So I have a brand new personal policy: I don’t talk about anything or anyone which doesn’t pertain to the exact job I’m doing and the exact person I’m working with.  If anyone ever approaches me about any topic that has nothing to do with me I immediately excuse myself from the conversation.

I figure that if I’m never a part of these types of conversations, then I can never get caught up in other people’s crap.

There are many people in life who are more concerned with other people’s business than they are in being the best they can be.  They invest a tremendous amount of energy in frivolous activities many of which are absolutely counterproductive to anyone being successful.

I work to be world-class at what I do and over the last 18 months I have become one of our best; and I’m proud of the hard work I’ve invested.  I focus on keeping my head down, doing my job to the best of my ability and getting results.

I don’t have time to rock the boat because I am too busy working and producing.

One eye-opening revelation for me has been that there are boat-rockers in positions throughout your life.  People want to talk about others (gossip).  A friend of mine calls it jealousy and I have witnessed it first-hand.  I don’t understand it because it isn’t in my nature to talk about people behind their back.

I have a lot to learn and a lot of people on which to keep my eye!

I guess the question we must all ask is…Am I a rower or am I a rocker?

Danny

Jealousy Is the Root of All Gossip

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It never ceases to amaze me how humans act when they see others getting ahead or getting more.  The neighbor who buys the new luxury car which leads other neighbors to begin gossiping about how they can afford such things.  The member at church who shows up wearing a new fancy dress which leads other members to begin talking and speculating on why she’s wearing that dress.  Why is talking about others so natural for some human beings?

Maybe it’s jealousy or envy?

Why can’t people mind their own business and focus on their own issues and tribulations?  Why can’t people focus on their own business?

My favorite is when others then venture out to spread their venom in the form of gossip.  They spread from person-to-person like the plague talking about something that does not pertain to them in the slightest.  “Did you see what Beth wore today?”  “Did you hear that John got a raise?”  “Well I heard they can afford that new fancy car because Joann just came into some money.”

Jealousy is the root of gossip.

Sometimes the gossip is innocent, but then there is the spiteful, vengeful, evil “innocent” gossip which is spread by someone whose primary mission is to destroy.  These people are some of my least favorite and I categorize them with narcissists and manipulators-avoid at all costs.  These people have venom in their souls and they seek to use any morsel of truth to spread misinformation with the intention of burning and destroying others.

Sometimes you learn the hard way that you can trust no one.  Keep your own business close to yourself and protect even the slightest of details.

Danny

6 Things Anyone Who Moves A Lot Knows

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As a child, I was raised by parents who decided to move around every one or two years, whether it was because of a job far away, or shifting from an apartment to a suburban town home of our very own. Some people say “Oh I am sorry. That must have sucked,” but in retrospect, you think it was pretty awesome to get cultured in so many ways. Sure, it was stressful at first but I learned to adjust.

If you were one of those kids, you definitely relate to the following list:

1. Everyone assumes your dad was in the army.

And when you tell them he wasn’t, you have to sit through an entire conversation explaining why you moved so much, and how it really wasn’t as bad as they presume it to be.

2. Everywhere you travel, you will have a group of friends close by.

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Rear View Mirror – My Week In Review

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Tomorrow will be the one year anniversary of a very good friend’s death. He died six months after my father and coincidentally of the same thing. That is a lot of loss and regret. In both cases, I wish there would have been more contact with them at the end. I know I can’t make someone communicate, but I could have tried harder. At least made sure that they knew they were loved and valued, that they mattered and they were important.

I can’t change anything once it has happened and I probably cannot change the amount of sadness I carry with me, that is just my reality. Life really is a lot about losing and doing it gracefully and enjoying everything in between. And knowing that you have to keep breathing and experiencing and creating energy and living for those that no longer have that luxury.

When I think…

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Meet and Greet Link: 7/16/16

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Don’t forget to use your Sunday to relax and enjoy doing absolutely whatever it is you enjoy!

The Meet and Greet continues today and will conclude this evening so be sure to jump in and have some fun!

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Meet and Greet Link: 7/16/16

The Unintended Consequence of Digital News

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My cousin, a moderate who leans slightly left, and I, a conservative who leans slightly libertarian, were discussing  the Orlando terrorist attack on Facebook yesterday.  I’ve stopped discussing pretty much anything important on Facebook–especially politics–and stick to sharing cute kitten videos and silly family photos.  I have to watch my blood pressure and as most people have discovered in recent years, arguing on Facebook is just another distraction that keeps the real issue buried in emotion and misinformation.

I do read the ensuing insanity in the comments section on big “news” stories when I have a few minutes that I’m willing to sacrifice with no discernible payoff. Even then I’ve come to  keeping my hand on the mouse so I can quickly scroll away as soon as my teeth start clenching and the muscles in my upper lip start contracting. As my Texas friend says, the juice ain’t worth the…

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Meet and Greet Link: 7/9/16

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Don’t forget to use your Sunday to relax and enjoy doing absolutely whatever it is you enjoy!

The Meet and Greet continues today and will conclude this evening so be sure to jump in and have some fun!

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Meet and Greet Link: 7/9/16

Meet and Greet Link: 7/2/16

Happy Independence Day!!  The Meet and Greet continues for a third day so be sure to leave a link and visit others!

The Meet and Greet continues today and will conclude this evening so be sure to jump in and have some fun!

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Meet and Greet Link: 7/2/16

Meet and Greet Link: 7/2/16

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Don’t forget to use your Sunday to relax and enjoy doing absolutely whatever it is you enjoy!  And for my American readers, please have a safe and celebratory July 4th!  Be careful with those fireworks!

The Meet and Greet continues today and will conclude this evening so be sure to jump in and have some fun!

And don’t forget, you can leave your link multiple times!!

Meet and Greet Link: 7/2/16