Sometimes Your Freedom Is Found In Forgiveness…
One of the easiest things to do is ignore or neglect a relationship in which you need to demonstrate forgiveness. I can think of one immediately that I’m kind of doing this.
Forgiving someone can be easy if the person has not perpetrated something devious and if the person has a long track record with you. But if someone does something awful or spiteful, then forgiving them can be really difficult. And forgiveness doesn’t always happen if the offender does not apologize. So there we are, offended, hurt, angry, upset, sad. No one says “I’m sorry” and no one says “I forgive you”. Now life moves on and the offender might not think twice about the occurrence. You, however, think about it for a while and eventually kind of move on; so you think.
But every time you see said person you instantly recall what they did and you instantly relive the event with all the emotional side dishes.
Here’s the crazy thing…most of us have tons of these types of occurrences happen to us over the course of our life. We relive a lot of happenings like the one I described. It makes me wonder what the long-term impact is of holding all these events inside instead of exorcising these demons and letting them go?
Why do we hold on to these things? Family disagreements that result in estrangement for years and years. Lost friendships over an argument that we cannot recall the original reason we started arguing.
Anyway, my point is to say it might be time to forgive; even if the other person hasn’t asked for forgiveness. Why hold on to the emotions? Why should you be the one to carry the emotional baggage? It doesn’t make sense to me that most of us do this.
Forgiveness is a two-way street and is not contingent on an apology.