Maybe we should stop trying so hard to be happy.

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Originally posted on October 2, 2016

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We live in a society that demands we always be happy and smiling.    “Negative” emotions are generally unacceptable, and we are told over and over again via pop psychologists and the mass media that constant happiness is not only our birthright, but our responsibility!    People are encouraged to stuff their feelings and wear a smile, no matter how they are really feeling.

Some people are more naturally given to cheerfulness than others, regardless of their circumstances.  We are all different; and those of us who aren’t naturally inclined to be upbeat and perky all the time are made to feel like we are somehow defective and our darker emotions aren’t okay.

So we seek out therapists, read self-help books, recite affirmations, pin up positive-thinking posters, and beat ourselves up if we don’t or can’t conform to the pervasive “don’t worry, be…

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Wise words are like seeds. The more you scatter them, the more they will grow into infinite gardens of knowledge.

Suzy Kassem (b. 1975)

Have a blessed day all. ❤

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Do You Walk a Pedestrian Path?

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Student deftly walks the high ropes course at the Challenge Center. When simply walking won’t do! The word Pedestrian brings to mind someone walking along a path, sidewalk, or street. It also means “lacking inspiration…

Let’s Talk Forgiveness

Good Monday morning, friends! Lily Tomlin,  an American actress, once said that Forgiveness is giving up all hope of a better past. If we can begin there as the first step toward forgiveness, the journey may be a bit easier. Perseverating over how things could’ve been or should’ve been won’t do anything to change the past. The only purpose this serves is to haunt you.

I used to dream about how my life would’ve turned out if “this” had happened or “that” hadn’t happened, and I always felt empty or sad afterward. Sometimes I even felt angry as I attempted to rewrite the past in my mind as a way of effecting change in the future. Again, it served no purpose other than to fuel my anger.

What I learned to do instead was to accept the past — good, bad, or downright ugly. Along with that acceptance, I…

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The Truth Is I Haven’t Always Been So Positive

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DannyAbout once per week I’ll get an email asking me how I maintain such a positive attitude. And I get enough of these emails to make me believe people view me as being a positive person, although, I don’t view myself as a positive person.  The truth is I haven’t always been so positive.

In 2007 I began working for Dick’s Sporting Goods as a PGA Professional.  My job was to manage the golf shop staff, keep the shop stocked with the appropriate types of merchandise, inventory and maintain customer service levels.  For anyone who has worked retail, this short story should register with you.

I worked that job and dealt with customers throughout the store; there were good days and there were really bad days.  And as the years moved forward the really bad days began to outnumber the good days 10 to 1.  Customers in retail are vicious.  They complain constantly.  They drop trash on the floors.  They spill things and use merchandise to cover up the spill.  They leave used condoms in the fitting rooms.  They make messes in the bathrooms that you could never imagine (especially the women’s room!).  They scream, yell and blame the staff for ruining their child’s Christmas.

The list goes on and on.

Dealing with the public turned me into a person who didn’t want to be around people outside of work.  So I began to resent other humans.  I began to hate being around other people.  I saw the worst in humanity and expected people to be awful.  I became a negative person.

Then came 2013 and my retail career ended.  Unfortunately, my negative attitude did not.  It would take me another year or more to eventually purge myself of those negative tendencies and find “Danny’ again.  It was such hard work.  Every day I had to focus on finding the good in people and expecting good things to happen.  I had to go through a complete revolution of my mind to exorcise the negative demons.

It was a long fight, but it was worth it.  I no longer maintain that nasty, negative attitude and I am happy now that people email me asking how I stay so positive.  It’s a great reminder to me that people can change if they want to change.

Did You Plan To Fail?

 

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Nearly every person I know is a planner and has a planner. If not for these organizational whizzes, there would be no need for businesses that allow you to customize your own planners each year. I must admit that I marvel at…

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MEET RICK JOHNSON

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My guest today is one of the very first I met on Facebook and he has been one of my most supportive friends. We have the same sense of humour and all Rick’s books are funny and off the wall. He’s written a wide range of quirky novels, including talking dogs who operate in gangs, the topsy-turvy world of black plantation owners employing white slaves, to a man who loves his vacuum cleaner. You never know quite what to expect when you open one of Rick’s books.

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Instead of a photo of the author, here is the Dog – his owner is very shy. Over to you:

I decided to enter the world of writing a few years ago because I knew I couldn’t spend all of my time eating banana Moon Pies and waiting for Sandra Bullock to wake up one day and deciding that she was head over…

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Happy 85th Birthday Ted Cassidy

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Today is the 85th birthday of the actor Ted Cassidy. The world is a better place because he was in it and still feels the loss that he has left. NAME: Ted Cassidy OCCUPATION: Television Actor BIRTH DATE:…