On one hand, I believe that they are family because we were raised together. I love them deeply from the bottom of my heart. They are really all I know in regards to siblings.
We ate together, we celebrated birthdays together, we even shared a room together, catching each other’s dreams between REM cycle and wake.
When my incontinence was bad, I used to sneak into bed with my sister who is younger than me, and she would share her blankets with me. I don’t know if she will ever know how much that meant to me. Or how much it means to me now. I feel we had a bond.
I used to teach the other two just about life since I was the “older” one. They looked up to me. And then things changed.
We grew up.
We created our own memories, or blocked out things that were…
Last night I needed something from Publix so I left my hotel room and I drove the 2 minutes to the store. I go in and buy my dairy-free ice cream. When I come out there is a lady parked beside me putting her groceries in her car. She then proceeds to place her shopping cart directly in front of my car instead of walking it the extra 15 feet to roll it into the cart cage.
When I saw her leave the cart there I shook my finger at her and asked her why she would be so incredibly lazy to leave the cart so close to my car that if it should roll 1 foot it would hit my car. She completely ignored me and got in her car and drove off.
Have we gotten to a place that people are so absolutely and completely self-absorbed that they think they can just crap on anyone around them? I hate to vent, but it just pisses me off when people blatantly disregard other people. I hate to say it, but a few bad apples make me want to hate everybody. Not really, but kinda.
There are always going to be haters in your life. They could be in your family, at your job, at your place of worship or maybe in your neighborhood. There are people who are going to resent somebody for something and it doesn’t really matter who it is or why they hate; they just need to hate. Family might be tougher to deal with than others, but it is better to ignore the haters.
You cannot allow them to redirect any of your energy. Yes, they will talk about you when you are not around. Don’t participate. Yes, they will spread rumors. Don’t acknowledge them. Yes, they will make snide remarks. Don’t respond. These types of people should get zero of your energy and even less of your attention.
The truth is once your begin participating in their game, they have won. And trust me they are much, much better at what they do than you’ll ever be so ignore them. Ignore every single thing they do. Ignore every single thing they say. Ignore any of their soldiers who try to bring that venom into your life.
Absolutely, positively refuse to participate.
When they see you are not willing to play they will find someone else with which to play. And even if they don’t stop just continue to ignore them.
Walking into their world is like walking into quick sand. The more you struggle with them the faster you sink.
It is better not to play in quick sand; it is better to ignore the haters!