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You Must Identify With the Problems in Your Life

IMG_7131The first step in turning your life around is understanding and acknowledging that there are areas in your life that need to be addressed.  For a long time I ignored my MS and did not conduct my life as someone should whose body is fighting a treacherous disease.  When I identified myself as having MS my life began to change because I began to make changes!


Being Yourself

This post succinctly states our theme of the day: be true to you!


Want to be happy? Be who you are not what others want you to be. Stay positive and stand strong against the negative! Take chances and opportunities as they come up because they may not stay long or come again. Focus on what you truly care about. Remember failure isn’t the end of something it’s just an example of how not to do or get what you want! Lastly life is a gift that you get to open everyday don’t waste a single moment of a single day, take life’s challenge and conquer it!!!

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Dear Deception,

“Indeed you are deception, a lie that is made to look like the truth.” Magnificent!

The PBS Blog

You try to hide, but I know your there. I can hear it when they walk, and smell it in their smiles. The truth is that you inebriate them with lies. Overflowing their very presence like air under pressure. Shame that some of them can’t even stand up straight, staggering through social media unaware that their ignorance is showing. You have taught them to expose their nakedness. Now their heart is blackened with the scars of falsehood, and their minds poisoned with comfort. Sometimes they are even unaware of the stench they carry like walking viruses and destructive pestilence. They sit among graves and befriend the first corpse they see smiling. You think you know wisdom, but foolishness is bathed in your shadow, and kindness is a game you play on the minds of the weak; snickering behind the concocted words of flattery and the secret winking you perform under…

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You Can Have Excuses or Success But You Cannot Have Both!!

Several years ago a friend and I had a great business idea.  We sat together and brainstormed for a couple months, developed a plan and set a date for our launch.  We had our product in hand and it was a good product.  It was spring 2007 and the possibilities of the future made it an exciting time in my life.  My visions of success would finally allow me an escape from the golf business, money and leisure time.

I could already feel the island breezes through the palm treezes!   Then, while on vacation in West Palm Beach, I noticed a quarter-sized numb spot on the bottom of my right foot.  It felt funny when I walked, but presented no other issues so I didnt put too much thought to it.

I left my Florida vacation on a Sunday morning and received a phone call from my mom that a good friend of mine had be shot and killed while on duty for the Charlotte-Mecklenburg Police Department.

I cried the entire way home.  SC and I had not talked in a few years, but throughout our teen years we were like peas and carrots; inseparable.

It would take several weeks of crying for life to start getting back to “normal.”  It was during this time that I noticed the numbness had spread and now my entire foot and part of my right leg was numb.  When i say numb, imagine the feeling you get when you’ve sat on your leg and it falls asleep.

I decided to visit one of the members of the country club who had worked as a podiatrist for 40 years.  He examined me and recommended I go see a neurologist.  His speculation floored me: multiple sclerosis!  My thoughts went immediately to Anette Funicello as she was the only example of MS that I knew.  I investigated the disease online, freaked out a little, then got my head right and started the search for a neurologist.

While this was going on, my partner and I still had a business launch waiting in the wings!  We had product produced and it was waiting for me to sell.  Long story short, I was ultimately diagnosed with a disease called transverse mylitis,  a fancy term for sick spine, which would serve as my precursor to multiple sclerosis.   My right leg was numb to the shin, I was experiencing a lot of shooting “flash” pains in my legs, arms and hands.  It was a scary time as I thought my life was finished and I should start picking out the fabric, style and color of my wheelchair!

One regret I have inside me is the truth of knowing I used my medical issues at the time as a excuse to dodge the challenge of starting that business.  Up to that point I was excited, full of enthusiasm and scared out of my mind!  So when T.M. came along I had my out; and I took it.  After all, who was going to argue with me??

Wikipedia describes making excuses as follows….”In psychology and logic, rationalization or rationalisation (also known as making excuses[1]) is a defense mechanism in which controversial behaviors or feelings are justified and explained in a seemingly rational or logical manner to avoid the true explanation, and are made consciously tolerable – or even admirable and superior – by plausible means.

[2] It is also an informal fallacy of reasoning.”   That’s a fancy way of explaining how we get scared or feel inferior or incapable and instead of facing a challenge we back down and rationalize our retreat.  “I would go workout, but my back hurts.”  “I would go back to school and complete my degree, but I’m too old.”  “I wish I could start my own business, but I don’t have enough money.”  “I would volunteer at the nursing home, but I don’t have the time.”  “I would start eating healthier food, but it just costs so much.”  I could list enough excuses to fill 10,000 books!


We makes excuses for a few basic reasons:

1.  They make us feel better about ourselves.

2.  Ignoring a problem is easier than making change.

3.  Failure makes us feel insecure and making excuses helps cover up our mistakes.

4.  We don’t like to admit the truth about ourselves and excuses help us maintain how others view us.


Ultimately, you either die making excuses, having lived a life full of regret and missed opportunities or you admit to yourself and others that you abuse making excuses and determine that you are going to change your habits.  What I do to try to overcome excuse making is to take action immediately when my mind says not to do something.

Pay attention to your speech patterns.  Do you make statements about things you want or wish to do and follow that up with “but?”  Often, what follows the “but” is the excuse.  If you have doubt then go ask a friend that will tell you the truth.  If you use excuse making, chances are others around you realize it; you are not fooling anyone but yourself!

This is the most honest article I’ve written and it was difficult to do so.  What I ask in return is for you to be honest with yourself about your ability to do more with your life and the excuses you might be using that keep you from excelling.


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