5 Easy & Self Fixes for Snoring😴🤗

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Do you snore? Are you being the brunt of jokes at family gatherings ? If yes, DON’T panic,you may be among 40 percent of adult men and 24 percent of adult women who snore habitually or occasionally.

Once you understand why you snore, you can find the right solutions to a quieter, deeper sleep—for both you and your sleep partner.

Why you snore:

When you can’t move air freely through your nose and throat during sleep that makes the surrounding tissues vibrate, which produces the familiar snoring sound.

It happens when

  • Being overweight
  • Age
  • Alcohol, smoking, and medications
  • Nasal and sinus problems
  • Sleep posture
  • Sleep Apnea, a serious sleep disorder where your breathing is briefly interrupted many times each night and feeling extreme sleepiness during the day.


How you can self-help: 

1. Change/Wash Your Pillows once every couple weeks: Allergens in your bedroom and in your pillow may contribute to…

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Today’s Featured Reblog is…Real Life!

Real life!

Real Life

“Hate the disease not the addict”. -heard in a Nar-Anon meeting.

Anyone who has lived with or loved an addict knows the all-consuming and unforgiving grip that addiction holds like hands around your neck, suffocating, deathly, and devastating. Anyone who is an addict (or recovering addict) also knows this. Addiction is a state of total control. It is a state of tyranny.

Addiction the authoritarian. Withoutregard for the rules. Without regard for the law. Criminal, robbing us of dignity, soul thieving, murderous.

Addiction the authoritarian. Scapegoating the marginalized, placing blame on others, without responsibility.

Addiction the authoritarian. Fear mongering, divisive, spitting hateful opioid-filled words, inciter of self-loathing and shame.

Addiction the authoritarian. Master of our universe, strong man, ruling by opiate executive order and heroiniron fist.

Addiction the authoritarian. Incessant deceiver, pathological liar, and master manipulator. Spinning silken lies as we nod-out in a web of obliteration.

Addiction the authoritarian…

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Style, Grace, Passion-A Few Words to Describe My Beautiful Wife


Today is Evelina’s birthday.  As a way to celebrate I want to share our love story:

I met Evelina, on March 8, 2011.  I had been out with a friend watching soccer that afternoon who had convinced me to play hooky from work.  After sitting and ingesting several margaritas he suggested we go meet up with another group of friends who were out celebrating Women’s Day.  I wasn’t overly excited about it but he informed me that there would be someone there that I would want to meet.

We arrived at a restaurant named Trio around 6:00 pm and began to chit chat with friends. I knew most everyone there so it took a little bit of time to move through the crowd, eventually finding myself near the front door with my friend and waiting impatiently to see if this girl made an appearance.  Several minutes later a young, beautiful, tall blond came through the front door and it just so happened that there was an alley way of people between her and I which gave me a perfect view.


It might sound clichĂŠ to say that the entire room stopped when she walked in, but it did.  It was if the lights from heaven were shining on her like a spotlight making sure I noticed. She was the most beautiful person I had ever seen.   She was tall and her high heels made her even taller than most of the men.  When I saw this I asked my friend who she was and that is when he informed me she is the girl he had told me about earlier.  It was fate.

We were introduced outside and talked for a few minutes and decided to join the rest of the group as they moved locations to a local hangout.  We sat that night and talked for quite some time and the conversation flowed so smoothly.   This was a Tuesday evening and she let me know she would be at a restaurant called Mickie and Mooch on Friday evening and if I wanted to drop by I was welcome.

From that night and for the next couple of weeks we would meet and talk, talk on the phone go for walks in the park.  We were becoming friends and falling in love.  Our first official date was on March 23, 2011 and we went to a movie she had wanted to see and then met friends for drinks afterward.  It was that night when-after a few beverages-I told Evelina that I was falling head-over-heels in love with her, that I was going to give her beautiful children and we would spend the rest of our lives together.  I told her not to react, that she would come around to my way of thinking in time.  I just knew she was the one-and she thought I was the crazy one!

One of our favorite places to spend time together was Freedom Park, a beautiful little park in Charlotte with a peaceful pond, ducks and a nature museum.  At the time, Evelina was in law school at Charlotte School of Law with classes in downtown.  I lived in downtown and worked in an area called Southpark.  Our paths crossed many afternoons at Freedom Park where we would meet en route to school and work and walk, talk, hold hands or lie on a blanket in the grass.  It was a magical place for us and still is.

045It was at Freedom Park that Evelina finally admitted that I was right and she was in love with me also.  There is a bench under a small birch tree beside the pond where she confirmed her love.  I will always remember that moment.



We were engaged at Walt Disney World in June of 2012 and married March 23, 2013.  Our first date occurred on March 23.  We were engaged on June 23.  And we were married on March 23; the wedding date was originally planned earlier, but had to be rescheduled due to a conflict at our venue.

Evelina is and will always be my angel for she rescued me from myself.  She gave me back my passion for life and believed in me more than I believed in myself.  She will always be my love and my rock.


To my love on your birthday:

You are my rock, you are my lover and you are my best friend.  As each year together passes my birthday wish for you remains the same-I want you to be the happiest, not just happy.  I want you to have the best.  I want you to smile a lot and I want to help be the source of your joy as you are the source of my joy.  I hope for a long life together filled with so many great memories.  I want you to know how much I care for you and how often I think of you when we are apart.  Had I been given the chance to special order all the attributes to make up the perfect wife, my order would fall woefully short of your style, grace, caring, selflessness and passion.  Simply put, you are magnificent and I will adore and love you until the day I take my final breath.  Happy Birthday Evelina Ray, my beautiful.  

Nothing for Granted!

We need to take time every day to appreciate those in our lives. Life can throw a curve ball at any moment…
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Not for granted

It is not Father’s Day, Husband’s Day, my beloved’s birthday or even our anniversary. It is an ordinary day. I worked all day at the boutique.

And like every other day the last almost four years, I have come home to a clean house, completed laundry and a delicious dinner. No, it is not a “maid” or someone trying to impress me or win me over.

It is my husband of 35 years.

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25 Romantic Ideas to Surprise Your Special Someone

loveSo we now understand that we must pay close attention to nurture our personal relationships.  If we focus to heavily on work we might just find ourselves all alone one day.  Relationships take work and lots of communication.  Now that our attention has been drawn to not neglecting our relationships, what can we do to nurture the flame of romance??

I have found a few more suggestions that you can use to surprise your special someone.  I know that the times I come home with flowers or a card or ask Evelina out on a date, she smiles bigger than life.  You owe it to each other to show your love and appreciation.  Connect and enjoy each other’s company:


5 Secrets to Achieving and Maintaining Work-Life Balance

IMG_7129Today’s topic has dealt with the importance of maintaining your personal relationships and being aware of life balance.  These 5 tips will give you an idea of the mindset you should have to develop a solid balance in your relationships!

We work, take care of kids, run errands, etc, and often times our love life takes the back seat.  Be very careful because one day you might wake up all alone.


16 Alternative Date Ideas

Asking your significant other out on a date is a great way to nurture romance. Here are some fun date night ideas. When was the last time you and your special someone went on a real date?

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by Kierra Lewis
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Photo by Christopher Cabello Photo by Christopher Cabello

Going on dates doesn’t always mean breaking your piggy banks to go to fancy restaurants. Surprise your significant other with a few of these activities occasionally and not only will he/she be happy but so will your pockets.

  • Throw a fondue night, experimenting with unique ingredients
  • Watch a movie in a drive – in theater and bring your favorite snacks.
  • Go to a bingo night
  • Go on a picnic
  • Find a Jazz bar and spend the night jamming out to classic tunes.
  • Don’t spend a beautiful day inside. Take in nature by enjoying a hike
  • A bit breeze today? Go to your nearest store and a by a few cheap kites and spend the day flying them
  • Minigolf is always a fun and competitive sport to play with your partner
  • Find an open mic night and sing your heart out

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This Doesn’t Feel Right

Meet My Life is a Soap Opera!

My Life is a Soap Opera

The other night my husband and I were discussing ways I can have him show me he loves and cares for me. This was an assignment from the marriage therapist. I have been unable to do this assignment because I feel if my husband truly loves me, then he should know loving things he can show or say to me.

See my post about Setting Up to Fail and Waking Up

I think I’ve given him very easy tasks to show me he loves and cares for me.

I told my husband I love the notes and cards he has gotten for me, especially the loving sweet ones.

This discussion then turned. They usually do turn sour as I keep getting blamed for his insecurities.

I showed my husband a card he gave me from Mother’s Day 2005. The card was pretty, thoughtful and even had a handwritten message inside…

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What’s YOUR Story?

What’s Your Story?

Evening conversation:

Love StoryEveryone has a story of how they met their beloved. In its own unique, sometimes quirky way, the love story has the ability to penetrate any heart. Whether you’re looking to be married or already vested, share YOUR STORY with us!  Our team will choose the top five submissions. You will be featured in an upcoming blog as we lead up to the Release of our NEW BOOK, OUR STORY.


  1. Submit a summary of your story in 700 words or less. Let us know why you feel your story is beautiful.
  2. Send your full name(s)
  3. Send a serious picture and a fun picture of you both.
  4. Email requirements to: mr.mrs.roach@gmail.com

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