I like helping others although I will admit I don’t always like people. For the most part I don’t like crowds and it seems that our society is becoming more self-absorbed and selfish. I know there are a lot of quality people in the world, I just don’t see a lot of them on a daily basis.
I have a personal mission statement that states: “seek to add value to the world around me.” This means each day I work to be patient, teach, lead by example, practice generosity, etc. I don’t always achieve this mission statement, but it is usually at the forefront of my mind.
Do you have a personal mission statement? I’d love to read your comments if you do. Also, in a general sense, do you like people?
One of the joys of blogging is it serves as a source of therapy. I’m able to purge out things that I would normally hold in. To me it has always been a little weird that I share things on my blog for all to read that I don’t share openly to people who I know in the “real world”.
To continue the practice of transparency, I wanted to tell you guys and gals that I have started seeing a therapist. I’ve been kicking the idea around for a couple of years, but finally found a practice via Google that I felt comfortable in seeing. My first appointment was this past Thursday and it went well. I will admit that the dynamic of telling a stranger my inner thoughts is a bit uncomfortable, but I think it will be great for me in the long run. In its basic form therapy is simply talking and I love to talk!
To protect identities I will call my therapist Dr. Kate as I’m sure I’ll refer to her here-and-there. Our first session was a get-to-know-you type talk about what I hope to achieve through talk therapy and a little bit about my background. My goals are to understand how to be a better husband to Evelina and to work through some of the root causes for some of my more neurotic behaviors. I’m laughing as I type this because I didn’t realize how much I hold inside that I don’t say out loud. The vast majority of our thoughts never leave our mind; a fact I had not ever considered until this session. Most of us live a life in our mind that others never, ever see. No wonder there is so much depression in the world.
At any rate I’ll be documenting my journey and some of the things I learn about myself. Hope you enjoy the ride.
Quite a few of you have emailed me asking about the post I wrote a few days back about Seth Godin’s concept of building a “tribe” and engaging with people who care. One of the toughest things to do in life is to get an idea or thought or invention to spread through a population. As bloggers this is a common goal: “I want to get my page to more people.”
But what if this is the wrong goal? I’ve always said you don’t need everybody, you just need the right bodies. If you manage to find the right group of people to connect with AND they buy-in to what it is that you are doing, then they will do most of the work for you. Ultimately what you have to do is lead them.
I see 2 common mistakes among bloggers who desire to grow: they don’t find their tribe and/or they don’t lead their tribe. Topics on which one could build a tribe could be: golfing with hickory shafted clubs, love for a particular genre of anime comic books, a fan club for a specific race car driver or the love of a particular band. In my opinion the passion needs to be specific, not general. iPhone enthusiasts stand in line, in the rain, all night to be the first to have the latest Apple phone product and then tell everyone in their life what they did and how awesome the new phone is. No one forced them to do anything, they choose to do it of their own freewill because they have passion for the latest Apple smart phone innovations. Their passion is much more specific than technology in general or mobile phone technology for that matter. The passion comes from their love of Apple and more specifically, the iPhone.
Do you see my point? Sometimes bloggers spin their wheels in a mud pit of frustration because no one will listen to them all the while posting content that is incredibly similar to what thousands of other bloggers are already posting. The fact is that if you are ordinary (too much like everyone else), then you are invisible. Maybe you need to get more specific and say something that no one else is saying and then get that message out to the right group in order to begin building your community?