Breaking up with a friend

Sometimes friendships are not salvageable. Friends that lie are on my list of 11 and should not be allowed to consume your energy. This is a story of a friend with a bad habit of lying.

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Dear Deception,

“Indeed you are deception, a lie that is made to look like the truth.” Magnificent!

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You try to hide, but I know your there. I can hear it when they walk, and smell it in their smiles. The truth is that you inebriate them with lies. Overflowing their very presence like air under pressure. Shame that some of them can’t even stand up straight, staggering through social media unaware that their ignorance is showing. You have taught them to expose their nakedness. Now their heart is blackened with the scars of falsehood, and their minds poisoned with comfort. Sometimes they are even unaware of the stench they carry like walking viruses and destructive pestilence. They sit among graves and befriend the first corpse they see smiling. You think you know wisdom, but foolishness is bathed in your shadow, and kindness is a game you play on the minds of the weak; snickering behind the concocted words of flattery and the secret winking you perform under…

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Ways you create a miserable life.

This article goes hand-in-hand with today’s topic. Pay attention to #s 1 and 2!

Miserable Life

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By David Joel Miller

Are you making yourself miserable?

Miserable Life
Ways you create a miserable life
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Life can be hard, things happen that are out of your control. The things you do in response to life’s ups and downs can make things better or they can keep you stuck in a downward spiral. Bad life habits can create more misery. How many of these misery creating habits have you drifted into?

You believe one thing and do another.

Discrepancies between what you believe in and what you are doing cause a great deal of misery. If you find you are not practicing your religious or ethical values take another look at your life. How much unhappiness are you creating by excusing your failure to do the things you believe you should be doing?

You lie to yourself.

If there is one person on earth you need to…

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How Do I Know When I Am Lying to Myself?

IMG_7131Continuing our conversation from this morning about lies we tell ourselves…Psychology Today is one of my fave websites to visit as I can always find a great article to help me better understand human behavior.  Self deception is an interesting behavior and I found another great insightful article to explain:

https://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/naked-truth/201405/how-do-i-know-when-i-am-lying-myself

Just Stop It

Self deception can create the mindset that you must pretend like everything is okay in life. But, sometimes we need to be honest and ask for help!

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What’s the one thing we all seem to do?

Do you know what it is?

……………

Well I shall tell you.

We lie to ourselves and to others about how we feel all the time.

If someone asks us how things are going, we all turn around and say yeah it’s all good or fine and we also say it to ourselves.

You know what I mean, we turn around and tell ourselves its ok, we are fine it’s all good.

When realistically there is a very strong chance that everything is not fine, that we are not good and we just don’t want to admit it to ourselves.

We seem to think that not being ok is a weakness, that is shows us as being vulnerable and that is a bad thing because that means we can be seen as weak and a failure.

Bullshit

It is ok to…

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One of Those Days

This is a very interesting post on telling ourselves lies and telling ourselves truths.

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Had one of those days when the truth would have made us all feel better if we had heard the lies than the truth, because the truth was too brutal. Because the truth sounded exactly like what I told myself when I was left alone with my thoughts and the voices in my head; the voices that reflect my own thoughts about my own self. Because the truth made me feel like I wasn’t nearly good enough, or pretty enough, or thin enough, or loved enough. Because the truth made me feel like I wasn’t smart enough… smart enough to admit it to myself and stop the imminent train of pain that would crash into my body of emotions, crushing each and every figurative bone in that body to smitherines. Because the truth made me aware of the fact that I lack honesty with myself. Because the truth unveiled my…

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Quotes That Will Change Your Perspective On Self Deception

IMG_7125I thought to change things up a bit and list some great quotes from Goodreads.com  about Self Deception.  I hope you enjoy and find a few of these inspirational:

“Above all, don’t lie to yourself. The man who lies to himself and listens to his own lie comes to a point that he cannot distinguish the truth within him, or around him, and so loses all respect for himself and for others. And having no respect he ceases to love.”
Fyodor Dostoyevsky, The Brothers Karamazov

“There are two ways to be fooled. One is to believe what isn’t true; the other is to refuse to believe what is true.”
Søren Kierkegaard

“The best lies about me are the ones I told.”
Patrick Rothfuss, The Name of the Wind

“Of all the liars in the world, sometimes the worst are our own fears.”
Rudyard Kipling, The Collected Works

You can read more GoodReads quotes here.

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6 Ways to Stop Lying to Yourself

8At some point we all lie to ourselves.  We do so for many reasons, but usually it is to justify actions that are contrary to the type of person we want to be.  PsychCentral has 6 great ways to combat this destructive habit:

http://blogs.psychcentral.com/success/2013/09/we-all-lie-to-ourselves-how-to-stop/